S3E16 – Who Are The INFPs?

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Chase

Hey guys, it’s CS Joseph for CSJoseph.life. Tonight’s video, we’re going to be completing the series that we have on the 16 personality profiles of the 16 archetypes according to Jungian Analytical Psychology. Tonight’s type is the behind the scenes idealist, informative responding control, also known as the INFP, introverted intuitive feeling perceiving, also known as the dreamer. Probably because they’re in dreamland at all times. I think that’s why they got the dreamer. I mean, you know, Joseph coat of many colors sold into slavery, Bible story, Dreamer as a person. Yeah, I think he was an INFP. But seriously though, definitely all about the daydreaming. They’re never not daydreaming, they’re ideal little land. So anyway, ideal little dreamland that is. Got my whiteboard here and we can go over that succinctly. So the INFP, a very mysterious type. I love the mystery.

Chase

And INFP‘s just like INTP‘s and a lot of ways are super cute. I mean a lot of them have no fashion sense because Se Trickster, let’s be honest. But as they gain in experience in their years, they can start to gain a fashion sense over time, especially since they’re insecure about what other people think, and because of that insecurity and combining with that, experience, all of a sudden they know how to dress themselves. But I’m not just talking about visual cuteness. I mean everything from their voice, how warm they are and just how mysterious. So they are all at the same time, just, they just bleed cute all over the place. I mean, sometimes I’ve been around some INFP women and I just die of acute over and over and over again. I don’t know why, but that’s just what happens, at least to me.

Chase

But yeah, INFP‘s are just, they’re fantastic philosophers, they’re absolutely about philosophy. Unless they’re immature, then it’s more like, oh, I’m the social justice warrior who’s here to take the pennant or flag of feminism and stuff it down your throat repeatedly until you have nothing else to think except feminism. And join my SJW crusade to bring social justice to the world. I mean, yeah, until life hits them. And then they grow up and realize that there’s more to just being an SJW, and really focus on developing a new kind of philosophy, not one that is succumbing to the thrall of group think that’d be nice, but INFP‘s because of their weakness of Te Inferior they are very insecure about how other people think of them. And in a lot of times they actually draw their sense of self worth because of that insecurity.

Chase

It’s because they really want people to think highly of them and they want the status that at the end to be the status symbol of people thinking highly of. I mean why else do INFP‘s go out of their way with their ESTJ subconscious to be like that ultimate college professor, you know, who’s got a Master’s degree or a PHD because INFP‘s really want to be brilliant even though like they don’t give a damn about having a sense of logic. It’s all just pure rationale in the INFP land. But that’s okay. They can at least get the deployment that the diploma. That is kind of just like, you know, the scarecrow and prove that, hey, I have a brain, so you all have to respect me now and then I’ll be this amazing professor at a college and regurgitate to you everything I’ve learned with the filter of my own personal philosophy to guide me throughout that process.

Chase

Right? Yeah. Okay. But to be fair though, INFP‘s can actually become super mega brilliant with that and they can collect those reference points and create something completely original. To be honest, some of the best literature I’ve ever read was composed by INFP‘s and I am extremely thankful for that. One of my, probably my most favorite INFP‘s that actually exists is Robert Greene. He wrote the 48 laws of power, The 50th law, Mastery, The art of seduction. The 50th law, which by the way, the 50th law in my opinion, is his number one most important book, but you have to read all of them. Basically, if it was written by Robert Greene, you should be reading it. And if you’re not, I’m sorry, but have some self respect and read those books seriously. I highly recommended and no, I’m not getting like some random, compensation for this plug.

Chase

I would tell anyone to read Robert Green because that’s just the intelligent thing to do because he really knows his stuff. That Si Child is able to gather reference points similarly to Si Hero, like the ISTJ, INFP‘s can actually become very similar to ISTJ‘s and that they can be that walking library of Alexandria. It’s not as strong as the ISTJ because they’re not doing it from the point of collecting knowledge for the sake of getting wisdom per sey. They’re collecting knowledge for the sake of developing their personal philosophy by taking all of the other philosophies that they ever met, choosing or cherry picking the best pieces of that philosophy and developing an entirely new original philosophy and then delivering it to everybody on a silver platter. Oftentimes if people are going to reject that silver platter, they’re going to pull their weapon kind of stuff it down their throats because that’s just how people are going to respond to it with that ESTJ subconscious.

Chase

But it’s never from a negative intention. It’s because the INFP feels it’s their moral duty to do so. And quite frankly, it really is. It really is the INFP‘s moral duty, where do they get that sense of moral duty? Well, it comes from the fact that, you know, Fi Hero is all about morality. They make decisions based on what they believe is good or bad. They always know how they feel about everything and because they’re behind the scenes, they’re like pretty silent. So just when you’re in the presence of an INFP, just realize that they’re always silently judging you and they’ll never admit to it. And if they do, I mean at least they’re sincere. But the truth is they’re always silently judging and you just have to know that their Fi Hero, they’re judging you constantly, always. I mean, they kind of walk around believing everyone around them is a bad person anyway because no one can really measure up to their Fi Hero capability except maybe like an INFJ or an ISFJ. Fe Parent somehow for some reason because Fi critic allows them to pass Fe Nemesis’s reviewing standard for whatever reason. Maybe it’s because they’re holding themselves and this is insanely high level personal standard to try to be perfect and have perfection and then the INFP‘s will like, I’m already perfect, so I’m glad you’re at least trying to be perfect and that means we can work together, right? Yeah.

Chase

But, but in all seriousness, INFP‘s are fantastic because at least the INFP can get that INFJ right in front of them or that ISFJ right in front of them, the Fi Critic and just be like, hey, by the way, your standard is so impossible, maybe I could bring you back down to earth over here. You know where like the rest of us are and you could follow my standard and utilize my feelings as a standard with which you always know what your boundaries are because if I’m feeling bad about something, you know something’s wrong and you probably should change your behavior. That’s why Fi Critic really needs to have a strong IFP around and that’s either ISFP or with the ENFP. Wow. Allergies are just crazy right now. Of course, that’s what you get when you fill them out, you know, with all the doors open and it’s springtime, eh? Oh, well. So anyway, that’s Fi Hero. Ne Parent is really awesome. It allows them to reach out into the ether because it’s very metaphysical, having metaphysical conversations about the collective unconscious and the collective future of man as we know it and what other people want, whether people’s features are what is our fate and knowing the fates of others and being able to predict the fate of others is awesome about the INFP. Because they could literally see the entire system and they’re afraid of the system because the t inferior and they could see where the system is going. They now realize that our system is just going to lead to total collapse of everything humanity, so they work tirelessly to avoid that by teaching others, by developing their own personal core philosophy and imparting that knowledge on to other people and teaching it to via their ISTJ Subconscious er, their ESTJ Subconscious so that there is proper social change.

Chase

Remember an INFP is an idealist, right? They are responsible for bringing about positive social change, not just for themselves but also for the world as we know it. However, the INFP similarly to the ENFP when it comes to bringing social change, if the INFP is immature or if they’re lazy because they can be super mega lazy because to them it’s like, oh, it’s all about how I feel and it’s all about whether or not uncomfortable enough to do anything, but if I’m not comfortable and if I’m not in the mood, I’m not going to do it. And that could take weeks. Okay. Yeah, that’s productive. Thank you. And by the way, while I’m walking out the door and slamming it on your face, I’m also going to put up a sign that says you are worthless. Don’t do that. Please. INFP‘s it is very important that if you’re watching this, that you make sure that you don’t get stuck in that Si Child Se Hero rut. Ar least ISFP‘s don’t really suffer from that because as much because they’re, they’re very aware of how other people feel about them in that regard. But INFP‘s can get stuck in a rut in the same way an INTP or an ISTJ can because that Si Child, that Si Hero is all about trying to do everything it can to be comfortable. And you got to get outside of your comfort zone. It’s a really big deal guys. Si Child. Yeah. They’re very innocent about the things they want to taste and innocent about the things they want to experience and they just really want to receive sensation. But if, if an INFP like spare the rod spoil the child. If an INFP is spoiled in their youth, they’ll grow up thinking that the world’s you know that the world owes them that owes them pleasure or or or think or already somebody does.

Chase

You know what I mean? Because they live in this dreamland. An INFP is constantly daydreaming and in somewhere else in their mind at all times and they really, really want to bring their adult reality to as closely as possible to that ideal dream world that they live in where everything is good and everyone thinks highly of them and no one’s fate is going to end up destroying the world and they’re having a good experience at all times. They’re their ideal dreamland. The problem is their ideal, dreamland has nothing to do with reality, but they’re constantly trying to bring it into reality and then when they don’t are not able to bring it to reality. They get disappointed and then they end up in their little Si Child rut and then they’re no longer in the mood to do anything and they’re too uncomfortable to do anything. So then they just have inaction and then their entire world around them is completely falling apart as if they would know anything about that.

Chase

Because Se Trickster is completely unaware of the physical environment. So as the world around them crashes, the INFP is just walking around being completely indifferent to it and it’s like, oh wait, by the way, Mr. or Miss, INFP, it’s your fault. Because had you had a little bit more self awareness, but I’m very self aware. I have Si Child and Fi Hero. Okay, well maybe if you had a little bit more external awareness, but that’s scary. Okay? Yes, it is scary. But just realize that you’re a human being and there’s other human beings in this world, you know, it’s not about you, right? You know, I’d be happy to make your dreamland come true. Don’t worry. It sounds pretty fantastic. But that’s not how reality is. And because we have this thing called the human, the human condition that, I mean, you can only really bring parts of your idealistic philosophy to life.

Chase

Not the entire thing. But I know that you will not, it will not be for a lack of trying and by all means try but don’t get so disappointed when you’re trying to bring it into reality that you end up doing nothing. Idleness is a big problem for INFP‘s so also is, I don’t want to say it’s a primary problem. It’s a secondary problem. Like their primary problem, I would say it would be potentially disloyalty. Actually. INFP‘s end up, you know, they’re there, they have this thing where I’m so loyal to you and I hope you think and I, and I keep everything organized for you and I always give you warnings of something bad is going to happen. So because I do this, I have this covert contract with you that since I’m doing all these things for you, you allow me to basically sit on the couch and be on my phone all day or you know, it’s kinda, it’s kinda weird like that.

Chase

How they can do that. That’s more for the immature INFP‘s. The more mature ones really understand what their duty is, their loyalty, understand their, their personal responsibility, and they literally make it happen. They make it happen for their children, they make it happen for their husbands and wives for their family. They take it very seriously to the point where they can’t even live with themselves if they are failing in that area. The problem is an INFP has to be taught that that’s not something that they arrived to on their own conclusion because if they’re raised up in a spoiled environment because INFP‘s are insanely literal and they take things very literally. That’s because of Te Inferior and they don’t really have that Ti in them to actually verify things and they’re more worried about how other people feel about them and how insecure about how other people think of them because of all those external judgements are really scary to an INFP.

Chase

They have a hard time acclimating to personal responsibility. That’s why if you’re raising an INFP, you need to really emphasize personal responsibility as soon as possible. If you’re an INFP watching this, it didn’t really have that and you are spoiled my condolences, but luckily for you you can learn the four pillars of self intimacy so you can learn how to properly love yourself because after having self respect and loving yourself properly, other people could actually love you then and that enables you to love others. More on that later. That’s actually a series that’s going to be coming up very soon. The next human, human nurture series. But anyway, so INFP‘s strive to be super good people, super moral people they can see into the future. They have prescience, they know what other people want. They could see where people are going, they can look into the fates and futures of other human beings.

Chase

They can provide warnings for those things. They can, they prefer everything to be predictable to them because that’s what makes comfortable, makes them comfortable. If something is unpredictable they shy away from it. And that’s why INFP‘s are pretty shy, especially in new situations where they’ve never been involved or have any experience with their Si Child. Right? So that they, they want it to be predictable, right? So by making it predictable, there’s that extra sense of security and they’re able to function. The problem is, is that if it’s too predictable, if it’s too mundane, they’ll start their Ni Critical, will start to lose interest and then they won’t be in the mood to do anything and then they’ll get stuck in a rut. So you have to force them out of their rut. My problem is like if you’re in a relationship with one and you’re trying to force your INFP, spouse or a lover out of their rut, it’s not going to be good enough to just to tell them what you think of them. You’re going to have to bring in third or fourth or fifth parties. A lot of sources because an INFP secretly because of that ESTJ subconscious. They’re all about cite your sources. You know, just like an ISTJ would because remember an ISTJ as is still an STJ, right? And STJ’s are all about, cite your sources, right? So when you’re trying to deal with an INFP been trying to get them to change force, force it upon them, make it their obligation, but also make sure you have multiple people to back you up and take your side and that situation and present evidence to them so they realize, oh crap, all these people are thinking really low of me right now. I should probably change so I can feel good about myself because obviously they don’t think highly enough of me and all of a sudden the INFP starts changing and like valuing maturity for wants and taking personal responsibility and to, you know, and that’s meeting their needs and then all of a sudden they have personal standards and then all of a sudden they have personal boundaries and all of a sudden they have personal goals. Huh?

Chase

It’s because it’s their obligation, but they’re only going to be obligated unless they have multiple reference points from multiple sources of information telling them all the same thing that they’re in a rut and they need to change. And that’s the only way that that really works. A lot of people disagree with me on that point, but having known plenty of INFP‘s, and having dated a few of them, I can tell you for a fact that that’s kind of how they are. It’s not a bad thing. It doesn’t make them inferior. It just means that because of how literal they can be in receiving ideas and experiences, it’s important that you always have the data to backup anything you’re presenting to them because remember, they’re constantly silently judging you and they value their opinion over anyone else’s. And it will be that way forever.

Chase

I’m sorry that, they’re INFP‘s. They know how they feel about everything and nothing’s really going to change that unless you have reference points and data and sources to back it up. So Te Inferior, they’re very insecure about losing their status. If, like they take their reputation very seriously and even though a lot of people accuse INFP‘s of being really nerdy, they’re, they’re not, they’re more earthy and a kind of more, I don’t want to say occult, or Mysterio, even though I kind of already said that already, it’s, it’s more of they’re just fringe I would say, but that’s not a bad thing because that gives them a really cool flavor that adds to culture in ways that most people don’t understand. And I know some INFP‘s that are actually really good at learning and mastering specific forms of art.

Chase

I know an INFP that paints. I know an INFP that draws. I know one who plays the cello and it’s like, wow, how did you learn how to do that? Because the Child is all about just how they feel and they are able to weave that pattern into the cello themselves because the pattern recognition of their Ne Parent, and their Si Child is able to weave it from their own personal experience and how they feel it is exquisite. There are in, the same thing goes with piano players too. It takes a lot of self discipline and do that. And because they have, Si Child, INFP‘s when they’re not in a rut, they can absolutely practice the most amazing self discipline. It’s just that sometimes they have to have the self discipline to not be in a comfort rut. Right? That’s super important and well, good luck.

Chase

So that is the INFP Ego. So ENFJ unconscious or shadow Fe Nemesis. They literally walk around worried that other people are bad and they are constantly worried about people being bad. In fact, they see society in general as bad because people in society are bad in general. So society in general must be bad. And that’s why they seek that to fix it and prove it by developing their core philosophy, teaching their philosophy, other people for the purpose of increasing or causing better a catalyst for, for positive change. The INFP isn’t the executer though of social change. They’re more of the vision behind social change. They’re providing the vision and the INFJ is the one that executes it, in the same way the ENFJ would also be one that executes it. NFJ’s are for that executing of the vision, the NFP’s are for providing the vision of social change in that way.

Chase

And the NFP’s can work together to that end, provided they’re not being selfish. INFP‘s because their Fi Hero and Si child are often accused of being selfish and it, it, it, it, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they are actually selfish. It’s usually because they lack experience, they lack that social experience because even though they are very social creatures with being idealists and that they’re people people, it’s, it’s, it’s because that they lack the experience their Si Child had no proper social protocols and social requirements and social responsibilities because they’re already very negative towards those things anyway because they see people who are being social. Yet the INFP already intrinsically believes that those people are bad. So it’s like, okay, well why am I supposed to like behave that way? You know what I mean? It, it, it’s, it’s really weird how that works.

Chase

But if you could teach them proper social protocols, this doesn’t become a problem as much. But they are still always going to have a negative slant towards people because the Te Inferior insecurity causes them to agree with majority rule. Agree with group think in the long run and they end up having a lot of their thinking tacked onto group think. Things that they’ve read. I mean they’re, they’re not immune. INFP‘s are not immune to a misleading graphs or charts, misleading data, misleading reports, they’re, they’re not immune to lies of other people. And oftentimes I’ve seen INFP‘s go in the level in the way of ignorance in such a way where they will almost believe everything they hear on television and on news and articles. It’s really bad, but that’s why NFJ’s exists because the Ti Child, the Ti Inferior cuts through all the bullshit for them and helps the INFP improve their moral stance on anything, be it politics or a or a sociology or philosophy specifically, by logically, breaking down those systems for the INFP, chewing them basically and regurgitating them in a logical format which allows Te Inferior to track with that level of thinking which causes them to behave more moral.

Chase

It actually increases their morality and makes them even more moral than they were before and they remember it, which is awesome. The point is the INFP can’t do it all alone and INFP‘s really look at themselves as people that can do it all alone. At least from a moral standpoint. They view themselves already as good people. Why do they have to learn more to become gooder? Basically, when you have to tell the INFP well, the truth is is that your goodness is based on group think in a lot of cases and if you’re not doing your own research because you’re lazy and stuck in a an Si Child rut, then you need to have some improvement there. INFP‘s it takes them a lot to do self improvement because of Ni Critic because they see everyone else being irresponsible with what people want.

Chase

Like they see people wanting the wrong things. They will not allow themselves to want things because it’s like if I do, I’m going to want the wrong thing. And even though an INFP is extremely loyal to people, they can also be extremely noncommittal and in some cases disloyal. And that’s a problem. It’s because the virtue and vice of the INFP is loyalty versus disloyalty, and this is why it’s, it’s Ni Critic, it’s ENFJ subconscious because ENFJ er, unconscious, ENFJ unconscious just naturally believes that everyone else’s bad people and I don’t want to be like them. So I’m going to do it my way and because there’s no one that I believe is good like me, then I’m not going to commit to them. And this is why they end up with a INFJ‘s or ENFJ‘s because NFJ’s to them are the people that are like, oh, so thank God someone good like me, someone that I can respect or someone that I can be loyal to finally.

Chase

But even then they can end up having doubts about those people because of Ni Critic. And then, their loyalty could be questioned. However, when they’re loyal, when they are loyal, they are so die hard, loyal that they could end up following those NFJ’s over a cliff because they just absolutely love them or absolutely respect them in such a way where they’re, they’re so emotionally intertwined with those people that they just cannot let go and that’s where they feel the most comfortable as being so emotionally intertwined with those people. Not a bad thing. That’s just what works well for them. It’s one of the reasons why INFJ love language, especially INFJ female. Well, it’s both. Technically it’s both genders. INFJ both genders. Their main love language is quality time. They have to spend quality time and the INFP or ENFP are all about spending quality time more so the INFP with NFJ’s. Way more. So, the reason is because of starter types ENFP‘s can kind of start Yay, we’re going to start on this quality time thing. And then they get distracted and it’s like, wow, that just derailed nice quality time there. But the ENFP was like, well that was an attempt, but the INFP will just automatically fall through with that quality time. And they’re constantly wanting to do. Or they’re constantly having their NFJ partner just do everything with them because they’re interested in what the INFP is doing because they see the INFP on this giant philosophical crusade to change the world. And they do. I mean, look at Robert Greene, he literally changed the world. No one is going to argue with that because he did, with his, with just his books, like literally just his books of his lectures.

Chase

So definitely have some serious value there. So, Se Trickster, INFP‘s drop things all the time, but not very aware of their physical environments can cause them to have super bad fashion sense, but because they worry about how the people feel about them and they’re afraid of what other people think of them, they’re willing to start using their Si Child. Remember what is good in certain fashion times and bad. And other times. And because of that, over time the INFP will develop their own sense of fashion. Whereas the INTP good luck, that’s probably not going to happen at all. And they absolutely have to have somebody else manage that for them. But the INFP over time can actually handle it on their own and they don’t really have that issue, which is awesome, especially with how cute they are. And then you just die of cute anytime you’re around them.

Chase

I mean, even the INFP males can be super mega cute and it’s like, wow. I mean, I didn’t even know you had that in you. Well actually. I did. And they’re just, they’re just seeping cute all over the place. And then eventually as they become more and more refined and more and more mature, they’re seeping status and knowledge, and seeping just gives you the feeling or the or the thought that they’re like extremely wise. Right? And because of just how amazing they are with their core inner philosophy and, and, and you just, you just want to learn that philosophy and you want to implement that philosophy because you’re just like, wow, there’s so moral and they’re so right about that. Why am I not doing that myself? Because they’ve been able to take that inner philosophy from all the reference points that they’ve ever learned and all their sources on top of mixing that with their inner dream world, and then they take the idealism from their inner dream world that they live in, coupled with all those reference points and able to create a new philosophy and share that with the world and then bring about social change for the world.

Chase

It is absolutely amazing. And because they live in the whole history repeats itself, first law of time, all that has happened before will happen again with their Si Child and their Ne Parent they’re even to go further with that by developing a long lasting philosophy that will make sense and help protect the future of everyone that subscribes to it. Absolutely phenomenal. I love INFP‘s that do that. And they can do that definitely philosophical way. And they could do it very, like as professors, and they make great teachers and their ENFJ unconscious is all about teaching. So they have that professoral vibe going with their subconscious, but they also have that mentor role going with their unconscious and they can just be this person who’s able to almost teach anything, anything that they are an expert, anything that the INFP is specialized on because they are all about specializing in these idealistic ideas and their ideals specializing in their ideals.

Chase

That level of specialization just allows them to be able to teach anyone they come into contact with, anyone that is Ne Parent willing to listen. That is, if they’re willing to listen, they got them and they can definitely get that philosophy transferred and held and maintained in the other person so that person is continuing to be a culture carrier and a philosophy carrier for the sake of everything. So, and then there’s good old Ti Demon. Watch out for that. Ti Demon, like if you, if you don’t, uh, if you don’t share what you, what you think, with the INFP, if you don’t give them feedback on their, on, on your thoughts and feedback on their feelings, if you make them uncomfortable and whatnot, they’ll go straight up Ti Demon. And, they will, they will craft a solution that will destroy you in the moment. They will destroy your physical environment.

Chase

Try breaking up with an INFP. You might find all of your stuff completely destroyed. Good luck. You might find your tire’s popped on your, on your car. It can get really, really bad. I don’t recommend it. It, it, it’s really, it’s really a problem. Um, you know, so I recommend avoiding that as much as possible whenever you can. So, based on that, so how, how do you, how do you avoid that or how do you have a good relationship with them? Remember, allow them to feel things and always ask them how they feel about everything because they always know how they feel about literally everything and doing that makes them feel loved. It makes them feel respected. Always tell them what you want because if you don’t, they’ll be left to guessing. Do not leave things up to interpretation to the INFP because then they’ll just revert to what’s worked in the past.

Chase

And if you need something new from them, you better tell them you want something because if not, it will be really bad. So Te Inferior. Always tell them what you think, but do not be so overly critical to the INFP, if you are overly critical, to the INFP, that’s another way to cause them to become disloyal to you. And NFJ’s especially they, they seem like Ti Child of INFJ‘s, they seem like they’re not, they can’t be overly critical, but they can be. And the INFP, although they can take the hits usually because Si Child, they can still be really sensitive. INFP‘s are these people who, because of how sensitive they are, in that way, they could have a problem with that and it could cause them to become disloyal. So don’t do that. Always tell them what you think, but don’t overly criticize an INFP unless it’s where you’re considering ending the friendship or the relationship with them.

Chase

And you’re putting everything on the line then absolutely criticize them with everything you got. Because it might be your only chance to get them to listen to you because they’re like rocks. I mean, they exist to weather any storm. They’re like literally that mountain hermit that’s levitating over a still lake water at the bottom of the mountain and you’re throwing rocks and the rocks are like not they’re hitting the hermit, but they’re just falling in. The water in the hermit is still in his meditative trance. And there’s nothing you can do about it. That is literally the INFP. Good luck, you know? So be careful. Make sure you always, you have to be willing to criticize them, but just don’t do it too much to the point where they end up having this horrible, bad experience or they end up feeling bad about themselves because if you over criticize them, then they will start criticizing you.

Chase

They will believe it’s fair then to criticize you with their sense of ESTJ justice and their Si Child justice, that, that it’s fair to criticize you and they’ll go ISTP Demon mode on you and your entire physical environment. Or you or your body will be damaged it quickly, I mean the nearest the nearest rock or a stick or tool or axe or, or kitchen knife will be immediately grabbed and just, you know, when they go demon mode, you’ve got to be real careful. I mean tires being popped with after breaking up, with an INFP is a definite thing. Watch out for that. Be careful. But if you’re being sincere and they can sense the sincerity with their Ne Parent they know they should probably listen to you. But the thing is also, if you really, really, really, absolutely have to criticize them and it’s very serious and you concerned that will have negative repercussions.

Chase

Bring other people that share your thoughts on the subject. The thoughts on the INFP where you have multiple people criticizing them at the same time and at that moment, their Si Child, will realize that it is time I should change because they won’t want to change. They’re not about what they want. They’re all about what they should do. So you have to obligate them to change. That’s how you motivate an INFP obligate them. You don’t ask them what they want, ask them what they want is like putting that down a black hole. Good luck with Fe Nemesis. Always tell them how you feel at all times. And then by doing that, they’ll, they’ll try to make sure that you’re behaving, you know, try to be good like they are. But of course, if you’re like an Fe user, you’re, you’re locking in on how good they are and you’re absorbing their morality into yourself so you can behave ethically.

Chase

So usually that’s not a problem. Remember is not about what they want. Obligate them to motivate them. If you need them motivated, you have to obligate them. You have to give them an experience. You have to force them. You have to force an INFP and show them that if they do not change, there will be consequences and you have to follow through because if you don’t follow through the INFP, we’ll just outlast you. Because remember, they can outlast any storm, good luck. But it also means that they could take a lot of hits and they have insane endurance and long lasting, uh, ability, and that is also amazing to see what INFP‘s can go through and still come out on top in the end. Se Trickster. They have very little awareness of the physical environment. Sometimes they struggle, they struggle with driving until they have enough Si Child data with a lot of experience and they become amazing drivers, but you still have to be careful.

Chase

They could drop things, and their fashion sense can be inhibited in some cases, but at least that Si Child with, with Te Inferior, can learn over time, but it really needs to be coached sometimes on those visual things, on anything on the outside of them. The physical environment just doesn’t mean anything to them. The metaphysical environment is everything to them. And that’s why INFP‘s have really cluttered desk sometimes or their homes are really cluttered. Clutter could be everywhere. So you have to make it their responsibility, like a requirement, an obligation for them to clean things. Otherwise, everything would just get crazy because they’re just so focused on their inner internal dreamland that the real reality that we live in just doesn’t mean anything to them. So you have to watch out for that. So remember, and obviously Ti Demon, as long as you’re not being overly critical or make sure that if you are being critical, you have data and facts to back it up, and multiple sources and citations because that’s really the only way that they’re going to listen to you.

Chase

So, also when they aspire with Te, I forgot to mention, they can be fantastic at financial management. They can be fantastic at Four X Trading. They can be fantastic at doing business. It’s, it is a wonder to be seen. Like I’ve seen some insane financial advisors that were like really successful, really good, and they were all INFP‘s. I forgot to mention that. So just be aware of that as well. If they don’t have experience in those areas, do not let them touch the finances until they at least take some classes and get some experience and read some books. And then at that point they’re good to go and you don’t really have to worry about that anymore because Si Child, like remembers everything forever and will bring up stuff 20 years later and you’re like, wow, where did that come from? But that’s an INFP for you. It’s all about that core inner philosophy. So if you’re in a relationship with them, help them bring that philosophy, help mold and develop that philosophy in them and how bring that out of them to be shared with the world to make the world a better place because that’s their purpose. They are the dreamer after all.

Chase

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I am an INFP. At least that is how I self-typed. I am sometimes surprised by my memory too. For example, I took Russian 16 years ago, and I was thinking the other day how to say ‘tie’ in Russian. I couldn’t remember and just thought about it for 2 minutes and then it came back to me out of nowhere. Галстук. Galstuk. I couldn’t believe I remembered that word since I hadn’t thought about it in over 15 years. Meanwhile I also have a terrible memory too where I will ask someone something 2-3 times and they will say,… Read more »