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Welcome to C.S. Joseph Responds. I’m your host, Chase, here to answer your questions on any topic Jungian analytical psychology or the Four Sides of the Mind, also known as Four Sides Dynamics. Today’s question is, what is the thing ENFPs do better than other, or any other personality type? And the source of today’s question is Quora. And why not? I may as well just film this at midnight because I actually forgot to do that, so #responsible because it’s every day bro, and we have to make sure that we are posting every day on this channel. So here we go. Maria Hannenberry, independent media producer, University Adjunct, replied and she says, “Rally. “We rally when facing tough stuff, “and then we’re off on a new adventure. “What are key ingredients in that skillful ability to rally? “Humor, resilience and joy. “Sure, we need time outs to lick our wounds occasionally, “all the time, but we also have the benefit “of humor, and humor is healing.” Yeah, very true. “ENFPs are amusing people, are often amusing people.” Yes they are because the definition of amusing is without thought, and definitely, ENFPs are definitely without thought, let’s be honest. It comes from Ti trickster. Ti trickster, in terms of ENFPs, is that Ti trickster, they actually walk around thinking that there’s no such thing as true or false. They actually believe that truth is entirely subjective. Anything can be true, anything can be false. There’s no such thing as absolute truth to an ENFP. They’re always the people making the argument, “Well that’s your truth and this is my truth”, because to an ENFP, it doesn’t matter what’s true or false, all that matters is what you believe. It’s all about belief. They only care about belief. They don’t care about what’s true or false. As long as they can make somebody believe something, they can walk away looking good while being not actually good, because looking good instead of actually being good is more important to the typical ENFP. So she says, “Some of the funniest people. “I have laughed so hard with my ENFP and ENTP friends “over the years. “ENFPs have an impressive resilience.” This is actually true. ENFPs have a tendency of outlasting a lot of people. That’s because their introverted sensing inferior function causes them to potentially outlast anyone, especially when it goes into aspirational mode. They’re no longer afraid of the unknown, willing to take on any new thing, and then as a result of that, it develops a high level of strength and resilience, perseverance and endurance. It’s unbelievable and quite awesome, to be fair. ENTPs do the same thing, just like ENFPs do, but ENFPs have the ability to suffer a lot of social damage and even potentially hits to the reputation, although they’re extremely sensitive about their reputation and status. The thing is, though, that they’re not easily guilted and not easily guilted by other people, because the extroverted feeling critic, so that’s one of the reasons why. The main ingredient of resilience, according to Maria here, is “creativity, a cornerstone of innovation “and reinvention”. You know, I don’t like her word choice in terms of creativity, but I see where she’s coming from, talking about cornerstone of innovation and reinvention. That’s absolutely right. ENFPs, the extroverted intuition hero, are constantly reinventing. So this answer is actually really impressive. She actually knows what she’s talking about, so that’s pretty awesome. But there’s actually more here. She says, “What does it all land on in the end? “Joy. “If we have to choose between two things “and one of them is our joy, “there’s a decent chance we’ll chuck “whatever the other thing was and choose joy.” Not necessarily always true. I actually think ENFPs would choose status over joy at any, quite frankly, status or their money or what other people think of them, quite frankly, or their reputation, et cetera. And then she’s like, “ENFPs are able to stay in touch “with their joy better than so many people “because we require it for how we define meaning in life.” Yeah okay, I’ll let you have that, but that’s really subjective and very flighty and very belief-y. Probably that’s truth-y, but just because it’s truth-y doesn’t mean it’s actually true. So let’s look at what else people have said here. Crystal Luck, “When you ask old friends of an ENFP “to go to a party, you’ll meet different types of people “with different personalities. “ENFPs have an ability to bring people together.” Absolutely, that’s true. ENFPs have the greatest Rolodex and they have more connections of anyone, and it’s because they draw their self worth by how many people they actually know. It’s the same for Tony Robbins, he’s an ENFP, probably the most successful ENFP in history, and it’s all about how many people, it’s all about connecting people, ’cause connections have value and connections increase your status, and if you have the right kind of connections, you have the right kind of status. This is just kinda like what my ENFJ father taught me when I was young. “Chase, it doesn’t matter who you are or what you can do. “You just have to know the right people.” And it’s because my dad wishes I was an ENFP, he constantly wishes that, but I’m not ’cause I’m pragmatic and ENFPs are super affiliative. Crystal Luck goes on, “ENFPs are generally interested in your life “because their natural ability is to connect with people.” Okay yeah, true. “Due to their curiosity about the world, “they are truly fascinated by what you have been through.” No, that’s not true at all. ENFPs don’t give a damn about your experience and Crystal Luck does not know what they’re talking about in this thing, because they don’t care about your experience. They care about their experience. They care about their comfort. They care about what they’re tasting, what they are experiencing. They care about their stories, not about your stories. They don’t care. “They can be friends with the cool kids, “jocks, goths, nerds, at the same time. “They’re also friends with the underdogs too. “Their high level of empathy, Fi”, empathy is not Fi, I’m sorry. Crystal Luck, it actually is sympathy. Sympathy is when you have feelings yourself as a result of seeing someone else in pain. But actually feeling somebody else’s feelings when someone else is in pain and feeling the exact feelings that they are feeling, that is empathy and that’s actually extroverted feeling. That is not because it’s feeling as an extrovert, it’s not internal feeling. Internal feeling is sympathy. It’s a sympath, it’s not an empath, and I’m so tired of everybody getting those backwards. Seriously, pull up in a dictionary and actually read it for once, instead of continuing to use this improper colloquial language that’s just leading to the collective confusion of human beings as we know it, and therefore increasing the risk of cultural ignorance by and large. Please stop doing this, please use a dictionary. So let’s continue on here. Someone’s saying, I don’t know, I’m not gonna bother reading those questions. There’s no point. So anyway, what is the thing ENFPs do better than any other personality type? Let’s get the CSJ version of the answer to this question. So they are the best at sales. They are absolutely amazing at sales, and sales is literally everything to them. I think a lot of people don’t understand how powerful an ENFP salesman is, because it’s an ENFP salesman that goes out of its way to make sure that, they could sell the gum off of their shoe, seriously. An ENFP, which doesn’t really care about anything other than potentially making money, they will take you for a ride. They can take you for a ride. I actually watched my ENFP mentor sell a guy on some extremely low quality vinyl at one point in time and the guy bought it. And my mentor was just like, “Hey, he didn’t know it was terrible, “and I got a lot of money, as if I was selling him “the real higher quality stuff “and I just talked it up and he just went for it.” And it’s like, wow dude, how can you really go for it? And from his point of view, it’s like, “Hey, as long as I get mine, it’s okay man, “because this is just how the dog eat dog world “of business is. “You really have to go out of your way “to make sure you have your bases covered.” And I’m like, “Okay sure, fair enough.” But it’s still, in my mind, it’s very unethical. It’s not justified. From his point of view, it’s a very moral thing to do, but it’s really not. And oftentimes, ENFPs just don’t know how selfish they come off to other people. They’re just unaware of that. They’re unaware of how selfish they come off and then they end up taking advantage of other people because an ENFP, a real, truly moral ENFP, is an ENFP who goes out of their way to make sure that they are creating a win-win situation where everyone will mutually benefit. But the thing is is they’re aware of what other people are thinking, so what they do is they spin a web sometimes to make people think that they’re getting a win, when the reality of the situation is that that person is not getting a win, they’re actually getting a lose. And the ENFP is like, “Hey, as long as I get mine, it’s all good. “That person doesn’t know he got screwed. “He’s blissfully unaware. “Ignorance is bliss, right? “So what he don’t know don’t hurt him, right?” That’s the ENFP way, what he don’t know don’t hurt him. So that’s the thing. Sales is the absolute number one thing that ENFPs do, do best than other people. And in terms of what Maria said, in terms of rallying, yeah, rallying is definitely a thing. Getting the word out, creating exposure, public relations is something also ENFPs are amazing at. It’s all about spinning a web, it’s all about creating a narrative, right? It’s all about making something look good, whether or not it’s actually good or not. It’s the full surface shallow level of sales-y-ness and salesmanship, is everything that an ENFP actually is. Some examples of that, you’re gonna watch Avatar, Legend of Korra, Varrick, he’s an ENFP, although Prince Wu, he’s actually an ENTP, which is kinda weird. Although interestingly enough, the writers switched their roles a little bit, and then Varrick became the ENTP and then Prince Wu became the ENFP towards the end of Book 4, which is season four of Legend of Korra. So it’s kinda a little interesting how that works. But there’s plenty of other examples in popular culture of ENFPs out there. Or Mass Effect, that guy that you have to follow in the Citadel as he’s shaking down all the shop owners in Mass Effect 2, and you’re on top of the barriers and the rungs, trying to keep an eye on the guy. The guy doing that shake down has that thing, he goes, “Hey man, you got my money. “You better give me my money.” That’s kinda where ENFPs come from. Although one of my favorite ENFPs out there is Nick Shabazz. He actually has his channel about knives and whatnot. Nick Shabazz, he’s an ENFP. He’s a fantastic ENFP, talking about, “Oh, look at this knife. “It’s such a beautiful thing, it’s such a beautiful thing.” He’s always saying how much of a beautiful thing, he’s explaining about his experiences and whatnot, and he’s basically selling knives. He’s just naturally doing it. Even though he’s not actually selling those particular knives he’s talking about, but the reviews he provides for these knives actually leads to direct sales of knives and various cutlery for example, because they just naturally know how to sell. They know what people want. They know what they value, and because they value, they wisely are aware of what other people may value, and all they have to do is get people to think that something is valued, so that they know people will open up their wallets for it. It’s all about sales. ENFPs do the best at sales. So if you want a great salesman on your team, go for an ENFP. Just be careful because sometimes those ENFPs get ideas and then they actually try to take your, they can actually try to take your IP or your company out from under you when you least expect it, because they become entitled to it, because they’re like, “Well, I put in all this work, “so these are my customers that I created for you, “so if I leave, I’m gonna take my customers with me.” They think they own the customers. They don’t actually realize that legally speaking, it’s the company that owns that. But it’s like, “Hey, he doesn’t know that. “The boss, he doesn’t know that. “I’m just gonna take my customers with me. “It’s all good, it’s all my customers. “It’s my customers, it’s not his. “He don’t know that, and what he don’t know don’t hurt him.” That’s the ENFP way because folks, the truth is, ENFPs live their life by a code and I quote, and as quoted to me by an ENFP, “In the absence of communication or explanation, “perceptions become reality.” So, if you would like a chance at your question being answered on this channel, please post it on Quora and tag me, or leave it as a comment below. If you want a guaranteed answer for your question, become a Silver member at csjoseph.life/members and post your question on our private Q&A Discord channel, where I’m answering all of your questions during a private live stream each month. Please also make sure to like and subscribe to support the channel. Anyway, with all that being said, I’ll see you guys tonight.