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In this video I’ll be answering the question, what hurts an ESFP the most? But before I can get into that, I need you to subscribe to the channel and hit the alert bell, so you can stay up to date on all of our uploads. That being said, welcome to C.S. Joseph Responds. I’m your host Chase here to answer your questions, relating to Jungian Analytical Psychology, the Four Sides of the Mind, also known as For Sides Dynamics. Again, today’s question is, what hurts an ESFP the most? And the source of today’s question, is none other than Quora. So we have Benjamin Wilson, former psychologist here. And he says that the most advanced MBTI platform passionfruit, describes 10 things you should never say to an ESFP are, here’s what you need to do. Number one, ESFPs are free spirits, who are naturally independent and adventurous. They despise being stifled, ordered around or controlled by bossy, overbearing people. A sure way to turn off an ESFP is to start micromanaging their life. It’s also a great way to get revenge against them, when they deserve it. You can’t do that. Imposing limits on an ESFP is a sure way to get on their nerves. They love their freedom, and they live with a confidence that they can grasp what life has to offer, and take advantage of opportunities as they arise. Being around someone who’s regularly putting down, their dreams and aspirations is a sure way to cause conflict and unhappiness in the long run. Let’s talk about your long term goals. So it’s like doing it too little than doing it too much. ESFPs are definitely opportunists, who can get excited about future ventures and ideas. However, sitting around and planning out the future in detail, can be stressful for them. Settling on just one plan for their life. Whether it’s a college they wanna go to, the career they want or a relationship can cause a great deal of stress. They worry about making the wrong choice and regretting it later. They feel much better if they can keep their plans open ended, or leave room for change and modification. Hurry up and decide. This goes hand in hand with the last one. ESFPs don’t like being rushed to make a serious decision. They’d like to explore all possible avenues and experiences, before they settle on one thing. Usually when they decide on something, it comes cross as spontaneous. However, it may have been the result of a long period of inward reflection. They just keep going on and on and on here, but fair enough. Saying there you’re not that funny. Yeah, that would be painful. Don’t take this personally, but yeah, that’s interesting. Saying I don’t like you, It kinda doesn’t really bother ESFPs that much. Let me show you how it’s done. That would bother an ESFP. You need to take life more seriously. That would bother an ESFP. Mope, mope, mope. Regular negativity and complaining, will wear the nerves of an ESFP. They don’t mind listening to their friends, when they’re truly in despair, but if they have to be around for someone, who reacts to everything with negativity, they will eventually lose patience. ESFPs tend to be optimists and constant negativity seems impractical, and a waste of time to them. Tyler Galic says, “betrayal is what hurts them the most. “Not getting what I want, “people who disappear after your status fell. “Manipulation by close friends and family, “lack respect for my efforts, “cold people.” List goes on but you get it. That’s actually probably the better answer in my opinion. We also have Akanksha Sharma, Psychological Counselor and Author. I think they may also be a member of my audience. Well, what hurts an ESFP the most, is watching people abuse hurt, harm, the innocent and vulnerable. They can’t stand to see hear or read about animal abuse, child abuse, domestic violence, bullying, and these are just a few examples. There are plenty of things which would make an ESFP blood boil. In all likelihood ESFP will never be a passive bystander to such activities, if they’re occurring in the proximity. To do so will be completely against their moral code. And they have a very strong moral code. Yes, they do, probably the strongest. They will definitely raise their voice and, or will try to take a stand and stop the heinous actions from occurring. Very well said and that’s actually very accurate. And then there is Sam Aristo, who claims to be an ENFP employment agent. Who says he’s been studying the MBTI for three years, since November 2017. ESFP have a lot of energy, but without the help of pragmatic intuit, they often work in the wrong direction. That is not perspective. They’re also weak at legislation, paperwork and generally introverted thinking. Okay, they’re actually really good at paperwork. I don’t know where he getting that. If anyone can comment on my opinion, in grammatical mistakes. I appreciate that guys okay, like you are not an ENFP, you are actually an INFJ, go away. So anyway, let’s get into the CSJ version of this. So, from a cognitive functions point of view, taking away the freedom of choice of an ESFP, is the one thing that will hurt them the most. And it hurts them so bad, that they actually decide, that it actually creates hatred. Such that they will go out of the way to make sure you don’t get a choice. They will actually work hard to destroy your future, and any choices you have. And they will do everything in their power to shackle you, until you unshackle them basically. Because it’s like if I’m going down, you’re coming down with me. If you’re taking away my choice, you won’t have a choice. And that’s just how I roll, get over it. And they don’t, they will throw all their morals out the window at that point, if that happens. Taking away their freedom of choice is the number one way, to hurt an ESFP. The second most painful way to hurt an ESFP, is to publicly shame them in front of people that they respect, or the people that know them. And some examples of this would be to reveal to random people on Facebook, some of their potentially heinous behaviors, or irresponsible behaviors more so. Because ESFPs are the, probably the type that do not understand the consequences of their actions probably the most, with maybe the ESTP in second place, or maybe the ESTP worse than they are in that particular moment. But extroverted sensing heroes have like no, no idea, the consequences of their actions like literally at all. And they have to learn things the hard way in that regard. This is oftentimes why SPs, because all SPs circled this. This is why SPs are in jail, more than any of other types, because SPs don’t know the consequences of their actions, and their introverted intuition inferior, and introverted intuition child, think they can get away with things. When the reality situation is they actually statistically can’t compared to other people. So, but the point is, it’s also why because they think they have luck and they don’t. It’s hilarious to me especially Ni child through ISPs, it’s hilarious and kind of sad, quite frankly. But ESPs is like ESFPs are a little bit different. But public shame, really attacks their inner Ni child, it also gives other people really bad experience, because they end up looking bad. And ESFP cannot look bad, like at all. So if you really wanna annoy or hurt an ESFP, you go out of your way to make them look bad at every possible opportunity. That way people around them, start thinking that they’re stupid, and that’s that’s a serious huge blow to their ego, when everyone around them thinks that they’re stupid, irresponsible, ineffective, and that their performance is terrible. They’re questioning their ability to perform. That’s what seriously harms ESFPs. And it’s so sad, but not as bad as taking away the freedom of choice. The next thing, the third thing that really bothers them, is guilting them. And sometimes an ESFPs sympathies can be taken advantage of, by forcing them in an empathetic situation. And you force them to have empathy towards somebody, and it could even be a scam, but you can get them to open their wallet in that particular situation, by playing on their sympathies et cetera. However, sometimes they after like the older they are, the more wise they are. So this doesn’t usually work. However, you can usually guilt an ESFP to doing something the younger they are basically. So it’s really difficult but again, it’s not as you know, if your objective is to harm or hurt an ESFP, taking away their freedom. You know like for example, Joe Exotic, he’s an ESFP. He is you know, the tiger King et cetera. And he’s in jail right now. He talks about how his tigers you know, “you know when Cat dies in captivity, “it’s because their soul dies.” And he’s talking about himself basically, that his soul was dying, because his freedom of choice is taken away in jail. This is why Ni inferiors have such a high suicide rate, when they are in jail, because they have all their freedom taken away. They’ve had their future taken away from them, their future is doing what they want to do, for their life is the most important thing to them, whatsoever. So, you know, it’s it’s extremely painful for ESFPs, and, you know, Joe Exotic being in jail. I mean, quite frankly, it is the equivalent of cruel and unusual punishment, because jail directly assaults his inferior function, you know, for him. While it’s not cruel, unusual punishment compared to other people, for example. But you know, as soon as an ESFP, usually when an ESFP has a taste of jail, they work hard to make sure that they never ever, ever return. Because they just, they can’t handle it. I even have an ESFP family member, who definitely had a similar experience there and said, Yeah, that happened once I ain’t ever going back. And it’s so interesting how you know, his record still like, follows him around to this day and you know. And that’s also and takes away his choices. It’s the gift that keeps on giving et cetera. And that’s also extremely hurtful and painful to ESFPs et cetera. So anyway, if you like your chance that your question being answered on this channel, please post it on Quora, tag me on Quora or leave it as a comment below. If you wanna guaranteed answer for your question, become a silver member at CSJoseph.life/members, and put your question in the Q and A channel, Patron Q and A, we might actually put it on our culture site as well. So put your question there, and I will get to your question on a private livestream that you’ll be able to watch during or after it’s over. And I do this every month. 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