Season 22, Episode 13 Transcript
Hey, what’s up ego hackers is chase to CS Joseph dot life doing another episode for season 22. This is episode 13. What are the cognitive transitions for ISF J’s. And it’s been a really good season so far had a lot of fun with the i and j episodes, but we’re doing ISF J now back in concrete land.
For all of you out there who are concrete. I would like to take a moment, you know, the answer to some of the criticism that I’ve been getting relating to ISF J’s, a lot of people out there, possibly people who are ISF J’s, who’ve been criticizing me about how I’m unfairly handling ISF J’s, and making them out to be you know, horrible people, etc. The reality situation is, guys, I treat everybody basically the same. I mean, if you want to watch, you know, the How to intp is an INFP is compared to one another, you know, I bashed both of those capatch ENFPs.
Last to E and TP lectures I did I bashed DNTPs pretty hard. That’s my own type, for example. I mean, ESC js. Really, if you actually spend the time to watch every lecture, instead of just like watching a lecture that pertains to just you, you’ll see that I treat everyone very fairly, and there is no preferential treatment in the long run.
But you have to, like, have the patience to be able to watch the entire thing. And I understand that most people don’t, but do yourself a favor, don’t judge me, because you’re not taking the time to watch all the lectures and see the grand narrative as well as the purpose behind why offer some negativity. A lot of people, you know, when they when they have to deal with negativity, they just turn their ears off, which just makes them you know, more ignorant, etc. And that’s not what I want.
That’s not what I’m trying to do here. It’s not my desire is that everyone listens to the thing is, is that I have to say, the harsh truth. And if that makes me a bad person, or if that destroys my credibility, then that’s not my problem. That’s technically your problem.
You know, I’m not here to just teach you what your itching ears want to hear my job here is just to tell you the facts. I’m not here to be professional. I’m not here to be credible. I’m not here, I honestly, it makes zero difference to me, if you listen to me or not, you have to make that choice.
You know, all I ask is that you just verify what I say, just verify, go take the Type grid, go take all this knowledge, go out there in the world and test it, play with it, figure out what’s true, false, provide me feedback, after you’ve tested it, etc. That’s really important. And speaking of the test, our personality test is in beta version 1.2 right now. And it’s going along pretty well.
We’ve had a lot of feedback, and we’re making improvements to the assessment with every version. And I’d like to thank the members and the the beta testers, as well as the development team who have done such a good job of putting it together. It’s kind of interesting to see how there are people who absolutely love the personality assessment, and there are people who absolutely hate it. And I think that’s so interesting, because the people who are rational, they don’t like being forced to, you know, do deductive reasoning when their reasoning is deductive, you know, and that’s, or when their reasoning is inductive, excuse me.
So it’s kind of nice to give everyone the opportunity to have that experience. So just want to give a little bit of a thank you. So anyway, on to cognitive transitions for INFJ. So the INFJ, soon as the night personality type, they’re very traditional.
And all about safety, duty honor, they’re also the most common of all the types. They’re also especially in women, they’re extremely common in women. I think that’s why statistically, the most mothers out there are SF J’s, especially ISF, J’s, and ISF j’s are amazing people. Honestly, I, I actually endeavor to be more like ISF J’s.
And in my mind, this is just an opinion of mine. I don’t think this is necessarily a fact because if you’re looking at things on paper, an ISFP could technically outwork an ISFJ. But I have experienced more ISF J’s outworking everybody else. So in terms of like, which type is the most hard working on paper? It’s ISFP.
But in reality, based on my personal bias, anecdotal evidence with my experience ISF j’s are the greatest hard workers and I really am so thankful for them. I mean, I have an ice FJ on my team, my mother is an SF Jey my mother in law’s and ISF J and these three ISF J’s in my life, really contribute to me they helped me you know, not take advantage be taken advantage of certain situations. They helped my sometimes my my expert intuition hero can be Be very arrogant, and their expert intuition, aspirational, helps me. Nice dog helps me stay on track because it’s like, well, hold on.
You’re any hero. I think that’s desirable to people. But no, that’s not. And it’s nice to have that like concrete thing.
It kind of like what I talked about in the recent season 18 episode, or I know the recent Ruby Conference, also known as the cutting edge show, because of renaming it pretty soon. Within the context of the show, we talked about camaraderie. And at least for me, having that camaraderie relationship with an ISF J is so key. Because let’s be honest, I’m prone to being lazy, I’m prone to, you know, getting stuck in my comfort zone.
And while ISF J’s can get stuck in their comfort zone, it’s really nice that, you know, ISF j’s are good examples to me to show me that, hey, they’re really hard working, and being judged by an ISFJ, when I’m, like, lazy in their eyes, because they see that I have the capacity to work hard just like them, because they see that I have an ISFJ inside of myself. And that’s important. But at the end of the day, like what, what’s reality about? Well, reality situation is, is that I can be working harder. So it’s want to give a good thank you to all the ISF J’s out there who work really hard.
Although stopping obligates the wrong people, or the wrong systems or the wrong belief system, or, you know, because you’re just gonna have a really lame life. And you guys need to have more self respect, you know what I’m saying. But that’s kind of why we’re having this lecture right now, I think the general theme of this lecture is, you know, cognitive transitions, as well as four sides of the mind. But it’s really kind of about self respect, you know, how ISF J’s can have a little bit more self respect, we’re talking about strengths and weaknesses, and kind of going into the details here, a little bit of content from Season 19, but not so much.
We’re just gonna look at the mechanics, the basic mechanics as to how these things work. So and also, guys, if you want to stay up to date on season 18, make sure you have at CS joseph.ly, forward slash tight grid, you’ve put in your email address there. So you can be getting season 18 mailed to you every month, otherwise, you will not be able. You will not be able to see those lectures.
And that’s pretty sad, you know, because I have no idea how long it’s going to take for those to actually be released to the public. I think it might be a year and a half at least already a five episodes aren’t if you’re missing out on those episodes. Well, that sucks. And you and subscribe to our email, our email list because oh no, CS Joseph is spamming me.
Well, you unsubscribe, you don’t get those lectures. So it was kind of like a toss up, you know what I’m saying? Anyway, so back to ISF, J’s. So on the Type grid, where are they on the Type grid they are. They’re informative responding outcome, very outcome focused, they do things that they’re going to have a really good outcome.
They like to have a plan, but let’s be honest, they’re bad at planning. So they need other people in their lives to help them make the plan. And they’d be told that, hey, I want you to do this plan. The ISFJ does that plan.
And then they execute that plan. They want to get recognition for doing that plant. It’s really important. Super, super important.
But you know, they’re Crusader type. They do nice things like follow plans, they end up potentially covert contract and people which is not exactly a good thing. You know, I always get afraid of being covert contracted, especially by my mother in law, because she’s probably the nicest, most helpful person I’ve ever met. Except my wife, you know, way higher on that scale than her mother for sure.
But her mother is, you know, outside of my wife. Her mother is like, one of most extremely helpful, loyal, giving people that I know. But I always you know, inside myself, I get afraid that like waiting and hopefully it’s not strings attached. But she doesn’t covert contract.
She doesn’t she she actually tells us what she would like in return. And it’s very clear every time she and it’s always been consistent. She says, just please take care of me in my old age, please. You know, that’s, that’s what she wants.
And you know what? That’s fair. And I’m glad that you know when a crusader like an ISFJ, especially with ti child, and they’re not like being sneaky, kind of like what ESF J’s can do with their ti inferior. And ISF j is at least you know, when they’re not scared and they could just be honest with you. They can tell you the truth of what they are expectations are.
So there’s no covert contract manipulation. And I’m very thankful for that. Now, that’s not to say that, you know, my 10:07 mother in law is not somebody who covert contracts people. I mean, sometimes it can happen, like with, you know, inviting certain members of the family to certain family events.
And it’s not really about us, it’s more about, you know, her trying to have her complete family to show off to the rest of the family because ISF Jays love showing off their family to other people, at least ISF J mothers, you know, in this particular case, I don’t really have much experience with ISF J fathers. But I am thankful to have an ISFJ father on my team, and very dedicated individual, especially to his children and very, very loving fellow. I. It’s funny, like, when I try to get to a point where, you know, it’s like, hey, wow, there’s like a lot of boats and that river down there.
Dang, that’s nice, kind of want to go in the water, you know what I’m saying? So, but, you know, when I’m parenting my own children, you know, it’s nice to be able to follow that, that example. And that loving kindness and that that caring that nurturing capability that’s just there, regardless of male female anyway, you know, the ISFJ. Like I said, they’re hard working not just in their careers, but also when it comes to parenting in the family. So, anyway, just a little bit of additional perspective.
Yeah, they could put their faith in wrong things. Yeah, they can be harbingers of injustice. Yeah, they can cause a lot of problems for people. But at the end of the day, I think the benefits outweigh some of the drawbacks.
And as long as you criticize them for the drawbacks, they’re FYI, critical, take responsibility and force them to take responsibility so that then their Fe parent is in play and getting in the way of their ti child and their si hero, right? Because left unchecked, ISF J’s can develop really bad habits that lead them into hedonism, for example. And that’s not appropriate. If you want to learn more about that, I recommend getting into season 19. Think it’s Episode 14, season 19, Episode 14, in the members area right now, because that helps you become the best ISFJ you could possibly be.
And that’s, you know, very, very important, etcetera, like, but anyway, we’re going to continue on. Sorry, just a little distracted with a hose and people in the water right now, it’s actually really nice out even though it’s overcast, like super hot outside, it’s like 85 degrees right now. So it’s pretty nice. So with that being said, they’re very behind the scenes, isif J’s like to be in the shadows.
And they’re also very systematic, gotta find the best way to do something best methods. I said, Jason, I do research to find the best methods do things they really can, and as long as we give them the system, or they build off that system, if they know what’s going to give them the outcome of success. And I think that’s one of the reasons why they’re so hard working is because once they have their faith in a particular system, or method or way of doing something, they’re gonna go all out because they want so desperately to have the experience of that really positive outcome, it means everything to them, you know, it really, really means everything to them. And I think that’s very valuable.
And that’s one of the things that, you know, I was able to learn from, you know, that kind of dedication, I think also like, you know, Bruce Lee being an ESTP, with developing his ISFJ side, and, and, you know, his crowning achievement, the Tao of G KUNDO, and creating JKD as a martial arts style, etc, and creating that martial arts system. That system, you know, it’s his magnum opus, it’s who he was, and it was him, you know, rising to ice FJ subconscious. And he had isif J’s in his life that were examples to him, and that hard working capability for him to have that dedication, you know, in terms of reliability and dedication. ISFJs exemplify that more than anybody else.
And it’s important to en TPS like myself, or Bruce Lee, or Benjamin Franklin, or, you know, Malcolm X, etc. To really understand that dedication so that we don’t get into, you know, hedonism ourselves, and as much as ISF J’s can get into hedonism. That’s like a serious issue. So, but you know, the four sides of the mind, ego, they have ISF J, which is the knight their subconscious is the ESTP rogue.
That’s why ISF J’s can be roguish, sometimes willing to break the rules, because it’s like, I’ve been following the rules the entire time, my entire life, and I didn’t get much out of it. So now I’m going to cover contract life and cover contract the rules. And I’m going to break the rules when it suits me later. And that causes them to be more pragmatic.
And I applaud ISF J’s for doing that. I think that’s incredible. Every time they do it. It’s really incredible to see an ISFJ break the rules because they realize that breaking the rules is doing the right thing.
That just because people agree on something is true or false. also agree that it’s the best way to do something and may not necessarily mean that that’s actually the case, no ti child demands that they, you know, verify that, but then their ti child becomes more parental within their ESTP subconscious when they’re aspiring, and they’re willing to break those rules to get a better future for others and themselves simultaneously. I mean, why not. So I always have a fond respect for ISF, J’s, who are able to actually do that.
And then they also have their ESFP unconscious, which makes them pretty funny, they can actually have some really good jokes, which is, which is great. And then they have their, their, their super ego, their demonic side, which is INTJ super ego, which is also pretty scary, but also very amazing. Because when it’s reached mastery, it gives the ISFJ the ability to master any skill that they need in order to fulfill the purpose for their life that could even be like protecting others and whatnot. And that’s the thing.
ISFJ is pick up skills, and they keep those skills over time. But whatever skills they have, it’s all based on what the need of the moment is, you know, whatever the needs of the moment are, whatever they have it, it’s not necessarily all about. It’s not necessarily like you know, or something that they want later is I guess, the point I’m trying to make could be something that they want later. So based on that, I wouldn’t judge ISF J’s, and when they’re lacking in skills, it’s just that they lack experience, and there really hasn’t been an external need for them to have that skill.
That’s another thing. Sometimes I find ISF j’s are often judged for not having a skill, and then their opportunity to learn a new skill and take on that skills taken away from them, because they don’t already have it, which is a catch 22. If you think about it, just imagine people, you know, getting jobs and ISF j’s are more than capable at learning any skill that’s given to them, and they can do it. But then they’re overlooked because they don’t already have the skill and say, well come on, and give me an opportunity to learn.
Because for them, they’ll learn a skill for only not necessarily for themselves. But for other people. It’s like an ISFJ learning how to cook, for example, or picking up a new cooking skill, right? skills within their grasp, you know, but sometimes, you know, yeah, some of their skills could be selfish, but for the most part, it’s usually not selfless, it’s usually learning for the sake of other people. You know, and when it comes to a job, they’re going to learn whatever skill is necessary to become successful at it.
But then that also increases the reliability because, you know, you have someone who’s hardworking, you have someone who’s dedicated, and you have them picking up new skills, you know, because INTJ super ego, when they’re Trickster is becoming more of a master function. They’re able to pick up those skills in that regard. And that’s really how an INFJ is able to reach mastery. They just have to pick up skill after skill after skill, even skills that break the rules, even skills that people wouldn’t agree with.
Imagine an ISFJ social engineer or an ISFJ. Hacker, for example. ISFJ, rogue, right. Nice FJ master thief, right? Some of these things are really necessary.
Well, you know how I know it’s because that’s what Robin Hood was right? Robin Hood ISFJ major Crusader. Or maybe he was an intp, one of the two, but he was a crusader type. And he was either an intp focused and developed ISF J, or use an ISFJ developed and focused NTP. I kind of think the ISFJ 18:48 main is probably probably better, but I don’t know enough about Robin Hood, per se, but definitely a crusader type and definitely one of those two types.
But regardless, you know, the roguish ness of willing to break the rules for the sake of others, because of the injustice of those rules and how those rules harm other people. I mean, that’s is that’s the intp subconscious right there. And it’s amazing to see someone so affiliative willing to break the rules for the sake of others, rob the rich, you know, to feed the poor, that kind of thing. And that’s how they are they will learn whatever skills necessary to be able to provide that rebellious defiance that actually also oxy moronically creates justice, right.
As form of social justice. If you think about it, rob the rich to feed the poor because the rich are exactly these insane taxes and destroying people’s lives. I’d imagine it was similar principles that really motivated Benjamin Franklin and is starting the Revolutionary War, the American Revolution, because that entire war was masterminded by Benjamin Frank Lakeland, he was the brains behind it. And he put it together.
And he worked with the Sons of Liberty. He also had his own private tear, which is like a pirate ship that would loot ships, you know, while also being a spy and a diplomat himself, right. And the media man. And he ran, he was a media mogul for, you know, the Rupert Murdoch or the Ted Turner of the day, right.
That was Benjamin Franklin. And he was able to be that guiding hand that that guided where people were, you know, within the revolution, again, from that whole Robin Hood as point of view, right. So, that’s kind of what ESTP subconscious is all about, right? It’s kind of interesting how the types can exhibit certain tendencies and certain behaviors when they’re all part of the same Quadra. You see what I’m saying? So anyway.
So four sides of the mind, there are chaotic transitions, there are orderly transitions, how you can use the four sides of mind, you really want to develop the four sides of the mind. Because guess what, if you don’t develop the four sides of the mind, then you’re going to be disintegrated, your mind is just going to be falling apart. You need to bring your minds together, you need to have a lot of internal harmony, otherwise internal chaos and this internal chaos leads to, for example, sin nature, or, you know, bad behaviors, bad habits, right? This is what could cause an ISFJ to end up becoming a drunk or someone who Gamble’s all the time. They wouldn’t ever do that.
But because they are around people in their life. They mimic those people just like how an INFJ when they’re around corrupt people, they become corrupt themselves, because they mirror those people is FJ has a harder, it takes longer for an ISFJ to adopt those bad habits. You know, but eventually they do because they mimic people around them. And when those people are gone and no longer in their life, well, the INFJ keeps those habits and they have to, they have to reset, you know.
And the only way really for an INFJ to get out of that is through a process of penance. And how they can actually use this penance. Well, the How to is basically a form of fasting, they need to fast in fact, Crusader types need to learn how to fast and I’m not just talking about fasting from food, which would be very useful to Crusader type. I’m talking fasting from media fasting from social media fasting from certain people, you know, taking like a two to four week break from a certain behavior, a certain food a certain habit.
And then all of a sudden, their brain chemistry changes and they don’t have that need anymore. So I ESF J’s. While it seems like they had the hardest time cold turkey quitting smoking cigarettes, the reality situation is they have enough self discipline that they could actually do almost anything cold turkey, and it won’t matter anymore. That’s, that’s an amazing ability that they have.
And through sheer discipline, they can actually, you know, force their brains to change your all pathways, brain chemistry, all of that pretty easily through their si hero and their FY critic, combine those two things together, and be able to effectively outgrow any of those bad habits, bad behaviors, they can lose it, they just have to force themselves to fast from those behaviors. super critical. You know, and I actually saw this in an ISFJ cousin in law of mine before he actually divorced my ESTP cousin, which he showed us because she was bad news for him. And I don’t blame him.
But the point is, within their relationship, he ended up having a fast from a lot of their bad behaviors, because she was always going to the casino getting him to gamble, waste their money. And then after a while his FYI, credit just felt so you know, irresponsible, and he didn’t want to feel that way about himself anymore. So he just stopped and then his wife would be going to casino by herself. But you know, that’s what led her to cheat on him, you know.
And, interestingly enough, I knew she cheated on him multiple times before then but you know it. But because he fasted he had self respect, he was able to let go, he was able to completely let go of those bad behaviors, those bad habits, which is excellent. Until the next woman in his life came along and got him back into that pattern. And then she also cheated on him in the same way.
It was an ESFP this time is to SC heroes that cheated on him. Poor guy. But you know what’s interesting, though, he’s still he’s still stuck by them. He still He still love them up until he got divorced to the wind and the other, he’s just kind of, you know, gone out of his way to do what he can, he has this amazing endurance about him, you know, but the thing is, is that he can endure for the wrong thing or for the wrong reason.
I SF j’s are systematic. Because of that, they become loyal the wrong thing. They’re not aware as much as what other people are getting out of certain things versus what they themselves are getting out of us. Here’s the situation.
If you’re systematic, and people are involving you in a situation of some kind, and they’re getting more out of it than you are, you’re automatically being manipulated. Well, luckily, he was able to develop that skill over time, and then use this TI child and just, you know, when they, I see sort of truth, basically, and cut his ESFP wife down to size, and got her to realize that she was being really selfish. And, you know, being a hedonist, essentially, someone who lacks self respect. And what’s great about their marriage is that they, you know, it worked, she listened to him, she realized that she was wrong.
And she realized that everyone thought of her as this hiddenness everyone thought of her this way, which is a serious issue, you know, so I’m just gonna, I’m glad they’re still together, they’ve been together, shoot 15 years now, long time. And they’ve had a really good relationship, ever since he started asserting, you know, asserting himself in that way, and realizing he didn’t want to have those bad habits anymore. And he started fasting. You know, and if his woman, at first, she tried to get in the way of him fasting from those behaviors, but for some reason, you know, he’s like, Ah, you’re not gonna get in the way of me having self respect for myself, you see what I’m saying? So, and that’s really the, the best example I can give, you know, as to why cognitive transitioning into the ISFJ ego is so important.
It’s absolutely critical. Gosh, I hope that sounds okay, because it’s like super windy right now. But it’s absolutely 27:15 critical. And it’s critical, because everyone starts out cognitive looping in their life, they their their parent function is underdeveloped, which basically means, yeah, the SI hero and a TI child teaming up and doing things together, which it’s not healthy.
It’s not healthy for anyone to do that. And the parent function is not there to enforce responsibility within the ego. This is why people are irresponsible. For an ISFJ.
It’s like, okay, it’s true. I want this experience. It’s true, I want that experience. It’s true, I want to experience this history, I want to experience that.
And that leads an ISFJ down the path to hedonism, it leads them down the path to idolatry, where they have idols, like snorting cocaine, for example, or many sexual escapades. And it’s all about nurturing themselves in an unhealthy way, instead of actually making themselves strong to nurture other people. That’s the main issue. But oftentimes, ISF J’s don’t are not really aware that this happens, you know.
So what do you do in that situation? Well, you need to be more responsible. Because oftentimes, when an ISFJ is having these hedonistic tendencies, they’re not really seeing how it’s having negative consequences on people around them. And that’s how you get an ISFJ. To snap out of it.
It’s like, Hey, you gotta go up to him criticize and be like, Yo, what you’re doing? Well, it’s very fun. It’s very socially irresponsible. You’re being a bad example to your children, you’re being a bad example, to, you know, your wife, for example, or being a bad example to people at church or you’re being a hypocrite. Because of this, you have to really sit down with them and tell them how their behavior is turning them into basically a bad person, right, because of this irresponsibility.
And then eventually, they understand that there is social consequences. And then that causes them to be a little bit of a, you know, afraid they’re already dealing with fear because they’re an SI user, right? ISF j’s are all about fear and managing fear and managing faith. The promise is that they end up putting their faith into hedonism. And then that ends up harming other people.
Like for example, let’s use this ISFJ cousin in law of mine. He, he would spend all his money that he made his entire paychecks at the casino on the day that he got paid every time between alcohol consumption and potentially other drugs. Not really sure about that. But as always, you know, alcohol and gambling at a minimum and he would base sickly have this huge problem.
So based on that, based on that, it’s he wouldn’t let it go, he wouldn’t let it go until basically, you know, for example, he realized it was damaging his mother was damaging his father was damaging his children. Even though his wife kind of introduced him to that lifestyle, etc, he still had to take responsibility for it, because it didn’t really matter who started at that point. He had to be the one to take responsibility and handle that situation well, as a man, etc. And luckily he did, he realized that he was being socially irresponsible.
Well, he was rewarded with his responsibility, actually, because his boss, who trusted him, you know, it’d be like a foreman at this construction company, because he’s hard worker, and he gained all the skills. Eventually, his boss trusted him with the entire company. Just because this ISF J was being more responsible, and he basically inherited this company, from this man. It’s one of the biggest concrete companies in Seattle, basically.
And he did very, very well for himself, all because he decided to make decisions based on responsibility when it’s like, Okay, I think I want to have this experience, and you start asking yourself, Well, wait a minute, what’s going to happen other people? How is this going to affect others? You know, is this is this socially responsible? Is this acceptable behavior? No, it’s not acceptable behavior. And as soon as he aligned his, his experiences, and his thinking, and where he’s putting his faith in, and what systems he was using, aligning it with what’s a bit more socially acceptable. That’s what caused him to be perceived as someone who’s very responsible, because he’s behaving responsibly, such that he was given a multimillion dollar company. And he’s running it to this day being super successful.
He’s an amazing man, you know, I have the utmost respect for him. And I’m very thankful to have known him, you know. So that’s an example of someone using, you know, learning responsibility with their hero function, et cetera, right? That’s an example of what that is. And then beyond that, you know, there’s a subconscious, right, when you’re cognate, transitioning your subconscious, you could do it in a fearful way.
Or you could do it in a faith based way to you know, lacking in fear, right, a courageous way, fear versus courage, right? Really important. And this is done through the second gateway. Second gateway is the Inferior function for the ISFJ, this extrovert intuition inferior, and that’s being afraid of being unwanted. Now, we’ve been talking about hedonism, right? Well, why does an ISFJ go to the casinos? Why do they end up taking on these bad habits? Another reason, other than, you know, they could be cognitive looping as their parent function is underdeveloped, and they’re just being irresponsible.
The other motivation for it is because they’re so afraid of being unwanted, that they’re like, Well, I don’t want to be boring. I don’t I don’t want my wife to value me less. Because I’m perceived as boring. And I’m worried about, you know, not performing well, I’m worried about being boring.
So I’m just gonna go with her. Yeah, I may be like, an ass, you know, while I’m doing this, but, you know, I’ll get through it always get through I can do or anything, you know. And then they, they go behave poorly, because they just wants to be wanted. And they’re so afraid of being unwanted.
That ISF J’s can succumb to peer pressure pretty easily. And, you know, that’s, that’s basically how they’re manipulated. They’re manipulated through peer pressure, and being made to feel unwanted. And they carry these feelings of unwanted pneus with them every single day of their life.
It’s very painful, because they remember every single time they’ve ever been unwanted, right? It’s not so hard for an SE user. It’s nasty. It’s just like, yeah, it was abandoned once Yeah, they’re just loyal. But it’s not relevant anymore.
Because I don’t have any reminders in my life of that person and how they treated me or whatever, when ISFJ. And ISFJ carries that pain with them every single day. And they just can’t get away from that pain, that pain becomes something that’s a part of them it takes. So it takes the opposite of pain.
It takes so much pleasure, basically, and good experiences and positive experiences in their lives, to actually heal them from that pain. That’s why ISF J’s have the reputation of being so bitter all the time, super bitter, and it’s really annoying. Now, with that being said, you know, when it comes to their expert intuition, inferior, doing a very chaotic transition, they can be really roguish and they end up breaking the wrong rules for the wrong reasons why Right, it’s like, okay, hey, you know, I’m robbing rich to feed the poor, because I’m seeing myself as the poor person, I’m taking all that, you know what I’m saying, which kind of feeds into their ESFP wayfare side a little bit, you know, they’re more open to breaking the rules for their own personal gain. Because you know, they’re afraid or they’re willing to succumb to peer pressure, like I just said, you know, that’s a serious problem.
But when an ISFJ is no longer afraid of being unwanted, you know, things end up happening differently. And this is why we talked about how they they ended up experimenting with pragmatism, they experimenting in their life. And they experiment with breaking the rules, for example, testing the rules, to make sure that the rules are actually socially responsible themselves that the rules are based in actual truth or not. Some are just what an ESTP does with checking out the structural integrity.
But what the ISF J is trying to figure out is if the rules not necessarily the relevant right now, but if they will stay relevant, the ISF J’s testing rules to see if those rules will be relevant later, or tomorrow, or benefiting people in the future, right. And if they’re not benefiting anyone, tomorrow, if they’re not benefiting future generations, the ISFJ will see that as an injustice, and go out of the way to destroy those rules and break those rules. Be kind of like how an ISFJ doesn’t appreciate the fact that in the United States of America, the government and past generations sold future generations down river with debt slavery, for example, kind of like how in 2005, when subprime mortgage loans were out, there’s also subprime student loans. And those subprime student loans.
No one did anything for students. No one. And it’s because the desire of the government is to control students, and thus control society that way, because debt slavery through student loans, you can’t you can’t get bankruptcy, there’s no Jubilee for it. No, there’s no way to get out of it.
37:02 In some cases, and there’s been reports of people that get thrown in jail for it, and, and treated so horribly, because of their, you know, their inability to pay the student loans. My student loans had 9.6% interest rates on them, I paid them off, because I had my retirement, I drained my retirement, and pay it all off instantly. And now I’m subject to a lot of taxes, because that, but that 9.6% is far worse than whatever interest rate that would be levied on me, you know, in any other capacity. So I just had to take the risk.
And it’s very necessary to do so. Right? Well, and ISFJ would see that, and they would hate that with our end piece of conscious, and make sure that people either don’t live their life that way. Or they would get into a position of government to make sure that that never happens again, because it’s an injustice, and they would believe it is their duty to do so. Right.
So I hear a duty. And the thing is, is that they realize that because they’re doing these things, they become way more desirable. You know, succumbing to peer pressure may make you desirable for a time, but then everyone’s just gonna see you as your little bitch as their little bitch. Basically, you’re being a little bitch.
And they lose respect for you. Because you’re succumbing to peer pressure. You know how easy it is, in some cases to peer pressure and ISF J and having sex. It’s so easy.
You know, of course, if you know what buttons to press is probably easy for all the 16 types, but it’s really easy for an ISFJ because they so desperately want to have acceptance. And if you can identify one that has lacking and acceptance in their life, and you provide acceptance, and through acceptance and peer pressure, you know, you got them because they have that five credit they already feel bad about themselves to begin with. So they’re more really, you know, they’re more willing to get through, it’s like, you know, how many ISFJ porn stars are there out there? Many of them how many isfa strippers are out there, many of them, and they all hide it so well, they hide it so so well, but they do it because they so desperately want to be accepted. they so desperately want to be desired, right? But sometimes, their, their their sense of tradition, and they can be responsible for their parents function that can protect them from that lifestyle.
But if they’re super underdeveloped, they can be easily taken advantage of. I think that’s one of the reasons why the education system of Western society is set up the way it is. Because really all the education system does is just distract people long enough so that they’re underdeveloped by the time they leave the education system, so that they’re more prone to, you know, getting into behaviors like prostitution or pimping or stripping or those kinds of things because societies just made them that desperate. Society has also increased the selfishness of various people such that families don’t want to live together anymore.
And there’s no multigenerational advantages being made available to children anymore, which makes parenting harder which makes. Thus, everyone is outsourced to the government for their education, which makes the populace easier to control and makes it harder to even have a family. And I’m not necessarily making an argument for the nuclear family, I’m making an argument for a multi generational family having a shared parentage of children. You know, because statistically, that’s the most successful form of parenting when there’s multiple adults contributing to the parenting a child, which we’re exploring a lot in season 23.
But yeah, there’s just there’s just so much more to it than that, though. So yeah. So fasting is for you know, being responsible. When your cognitive transitioning for your ego.
41:01 And then and then realizing that, you know, for when you’re calling and transitioning for your EMTP, subconscious, ISF, J’s, make sure you’re focused on. She make sure that you’re focused on, you know, being properly desirable. Don’t make yourself desirable to the wrong people stop being afraid. Because here’s the thing, if you’re helping other people, you’re actually being reliable if you’re learning those skills, take it on, because if you’re actually helping other people, then what business do they have? Complaining about you? What business do they have not wanting you anymore? Right? It makes no sense, right? So if then they don’t want you then they’re just using you need to cut that person out of your life and stop being obligated the wrong people.
You know, and that’s why I say is often get obligated the wrong people wrong system. Because it’s like, well, I want to be desired. Oh, how about ISF J’s, you increase your own personal strength and your integrity, your own endurance, stop avoiding pain in life, so that it makes you stronger, because the stronger you are, the more desirable you are. This is why it says in the book of James chapter one, verse two and three, consider it all happiness, Consider it all joy, my brothers, when you encounter various trials and tribulations in your lives, which means obstacles, pain in life, etc.
So that it will build within you endurance and steadfastness so that you will be a complete human being lacking nothing, which is the definition of holiness, holiness, and an ISFJ basically, being complete, lacking nothing, you know, having cognitive integration, having that personal fortitude, that personal strength, the ability to endure all hardship, and be reliable, regardless of pain in life. That’s what ISFJ is, how is that? How does that not make them desirable? It makes them the most desirable. So what business do you have being afraid, right? So, face your problems head on suffer, it gains you wisdom, it gives you strength, strength of character, especially, and through that strength, you become the most desirable of us all. So what business you having being afraid, right? And then the third side, the third cognitive transition, is getting over their their worry or their uncertainty.
ISFJs are uncertain about their performance. Right? And they are they always consider themselves Okay, should I be performing more than I am? You know, and the reason why is because they have expectations that people make them comfortable, and expectations that people are performing for them as well. Because if they’re desirable, that means others should be performing for them. Well, sometimes they worry that and having that expectation of people performing for them, that they’re not performing for other people, they’re not mimicking properly, this can lead to an ISFJ overcompensating in their life, right? Through this cognitive transition.
But if they are able to learn how to get over their uncertainty, right, and be certain of their performance, then it’s not an issue. And how is that possible? Well, again, the same thing, developing their personal strength and endurance, gives them experience, the more experience and ISFJ has, the more skills that they collect, the more books that they read, the more research that they do, the more that they verify with their ti child in their life, the more they live their life based on the truth, and not necessarily what’s acceptable, per se, within reason, within responsibility, of course, that they know that they can perform at anything so then that uncertainty goes away. Right? Because it’s like, I have experience, you know, I can always figure it out. And if they just keep that, that confidence, that you know, no matter what life throws at me, I’ll be able to endure it.
And eventually I’ll master it. This allows them to have to get over their uncertainty. And then this gives them the ability to, you know, become wise, it also gives them the ability to stop devaluing themselves. Because it’s like, Hey, I got a lot of experience, I have a lot of skills, I help a lot of people, they give me recognition for what I do, I can’t, I don’t have to worry about my performance anymore.
I can perform my way through anything, I’m systematic, I can get through, I can always create a system and figure out the best way to make something work. And it’s true, it really comes down to whether or not ISF J’s have the guts to put faith in themselves. Instead of and faith in their own fortitude, for example, instead of putting faith in other people are in other systems, or methods, or, or anything like that, is when they get to the point where they have that faith in themselves. Because they can remember with their long term memory, everything that they’ve already been through.
And it’s like, well, I’ve already been through this, this is really not that bad. I don’t have to worry about my performance here. Because I’ve already experienced it. The worry, the uncertainty really comes through cognitive orbit, for example, when they’re lacking experience.
But that’s the thing I suggest you have to throw yourself at things that you lack experience in, throw yourself out of your comfort zone, and trial and error your way. Sometimes ISF J’s aren’t willing to do that, because they’re worried that they’re going to fail. But you have to get over that. You have to be okay with failure, Crusader types learn through trial and error and experimentation.
So why not experiment? It’s super important. ISFJs, you need to experiment, you need to be okay with experimentation. Because experimentation is going to make you more desirable, it’s going to give you more strength and capabilities, it’s going to allow you to, you know, not put yourself at risk through peer pressure, it’s gonna you never have to worry about your performance for other people. And then because based on that, that nine, the bad guy has to whether or not that’s telling you that you’re a bad person or telling you that’s not worthy, worthy enough.
It’s like, actually, I am worthy enough, because I’ve done all of this stuff already. Yeah, I don’t have credentials. Yeah, I don’t have credibility. But I have raw skill, I have raw endurance, I have raw reliability, I can trial and error my way through anything, just like I always have.
And that’s my true skill. That’s my true power. Based on that. I don’t have to be uncertain about myself anymore.
And I am certainly my ability to perform, including at skills of which I don’t have experience with, right. And that’s what’s really amazing. This is why ISFJ is gonna end up cracking the most amazing jokes, even putting ESFPs an INTJ is on notice, when it comes to their ability to joke around very precise jokes, you know what I’m saying? And sometimes those jokes are necessary for reproof, for teaching, like my INFJ mother in law telling my ENFP step brother in law, that he has a big butt. And he needs to not be so fat anymore.
You know, for example, and I’m making fun of him that way right? Now, because she sees him being lazy and deprived the SI inferior and it really bothers expert sensing nemesis, it really bothers us. I hear to see that. Because she’s getting a bad experience from him performing terribly because he won’t work hard because he’s stuck in his comfort zone because he’s depraved. You see, that’s the value of camaraderie right there.
Camaraderie, comrade relationships. So, and then, and then finally, the super ego, which we kind of already talked about, within this lecture. The super ego is a big deal because, you know, mastery, being able to master any skill, and that’s what the super ego is all about is giving someone mastery. The problem is, it’s very demonic.
And then they pick up skills for their own selfish desires for their own, you know, their own selfish shows, because ESFP unconscious just wants to show off their family or show off all the good things that they did, to force other people to give them recognition if their recognition starts to force people to want them covert contracts, etc. And, and that’s what the INTJ demon does. But when the INTJ becomes angelic, because they’re no longer hating people, it’s no longer about hatred, it’s about love. Now, typically, an ISFJ has hatred for others.
They have hatred for others when they feel unwanted. The thing is, though, is that later in life, they realized, well, I was did exactly desirable. I was a hedonist. I had really bad habits, right.
I went Have you know, and it’s funny because I find this ESTP on Facebook Messenger recently, he’s telling me about this ISF J girl who’s dating and he broke up with her, basically, because she was fat. And she got really mad at him and told me as a chauvinist and a misogynist, and all that. But he’s like, Listen, you know, I take care of myself, I go out of my way to make sure that I’m healthy, and I’m fit. But you don’t, you don’t do these things.
You know, and that’s caused me to not want you because you need to be willing to take care of yourself, you need to be willing to have those routines, and those those habits every single day to take care of yourself, because that’s what makes you desirable, but you don’t have those things. And you know, he and he’s like, ti parent, people are unequally yoked in relationships. And that’s not a relationship I want. I want a woman who’s on my level, I want a woman who cares about going to the gym and eating right, eating clean and eating healthy, like I do.
Because we’re equally yoked right, there’s 51:04 a Bible verse in there. Anyway, the point is, you know, and he said, You know, I didn’t do this, because I hate her. I did this, because I actually loved her. I care about her so much.
So I’m going to tell her the truth, yes, it’s going to hurt her. But she needs to be hurt. And it’s not my fault. Anyone else in her life hasn’t told her, or she’s gotten so stuck in a comfort zone to realize this, well, it’s created a lot of hatred towards this ESTP from this woman, lots of hatred.
But the reality situation is, she’s going to take that lesson, and she’s going to go out of her way to make yourself stronger, which will make her more desirable. And then she’ll get into a relationship with a fantastic man, probably an ESTP in the future, and then she’ll actually be really grateful for my ESTP friends criticism later, right? Because she won’t hate that ESTP anymore. In fact, she’ll actually love him, because he had the guts to tell her the truth. Right.
And she realized, you know, all these people initial realize people in my life that didn’t want me, well, now I understand why they didn’t want me. And now I’m not that way anymore. So I’m going to stop hating them, instead, I’m gonna start loving them, right, I’m gonna stop wasting my time developing skills that, you know, are, are, you know, for example, cutting corners, right? When an ISFJ decides to be a stripper, you know, and instead of actually, like, you know, doing it the right way. For example, when they start cutting corners, it’s the INTJ super ego that causes them to cut corners effectively, when they realize that they need to have self discipline, and endure and trial and error their way through life.
Instead of trying to like plan everything or learning what skills that they need now to help them cut corners, you know, if you get an INFJ, that’s not willing to cut corners, are willing to put in the time, effort, dedication, and have the fortitude to see it through every single day. That’s an amazing ISFJ. That’s an ISFJ worth dying for worth protecting, worth wanting. Someone to give constant recognition all the time, because, you know, they don’t really care that much about achievement.
Everyone else starts to value them, value their thoughts want them desire to them. And they can be loyal to the correct people. Because the correct people are being are wanting them, not people of lower quality. So ISF J’s, you want better people in your life, learn how to leverage your cognitive transitions to develop the other four sides of your mind, so that you end up being desired by higher quality people, you have to first raise your quality as a person, before you can be around quality people.
Otherwise, you’re at risk of mimicking them, and taking on their bad behavior, bad habits or bad behaviors, and becoming just like them whether or not they’re in your life or not. And it will stick around with you forever, and then you’ll be haunted by the other sides of your mind. Your subconscious will give you midlife crisis, because you’re not willing to break the rules and you’re only doing what you should and you’re only doing what is agreed upon while doing the right thing what’s agreed on. Right? We make decisions based on agreements that are making decisions for yourself, right? Or your ESFP subconscious.
Where it further enables your hedonism, you know, and cutting corners to the point where you’re willing to steal for yourself and not for others. Basically, from a justice point of view. We’re finding the innocent guilty and bringing more injustice in the world, or your super ego, causing you to be very hateful and bitter towards others. When the reality is situation it was your fault all along.
That’s the problem. ISF J’s have folks. And if they just learn how to master their cognitive transitions through Their hero function to gain responsibility through their Inferior function to gain, you know, humility, but really, it’s all about having the courage to admit who they are and their weaknesses instead of covering up with pride, which is why it gets humility. And also to, you know, master their uncertainties, they can become certain in themselves, where they’re unconscious.
And then obviously, you know, to love others, because they realize I’m so desirable now, because I have loved my neighbor as myself. Love your neighbor as yourself. That’s what this means guys. Like, you cannot love somebody else.
You cannot care for somebody else, unless you can care for yourself first. And that was the hidden message from the ESTP. The ISFJ woman they got super mad at him for him saying I can’t be in a relationship with you because you’re fat and unhealthy. Right? Come on, guys.
Feminism. Feminism enables women like that. It’s honestly disgusting. And I can’t stand it.
So, you know, like, we can’t we can’t be enabling that kind of behavior. And so we should be criticizing each other and holding each other accountable. Because that’s what’s going to make us strong, especially ISF jays, right. So, anyway, if you found this lecture useful, helpful educational enlightening, please subscribe the channel or leave a comment below when it comes to ISF J’s a little distracted the beginning of this lecture, I’ll admit, but hopefully the sound is good.
And hopefully I hope this little fuzzy wind jammer thing actually works. You know, who knows? The sound sounded good before I started but then it got like super windy out here. So I have no idea what’s even going on. So who knows? But yeah, I’ll see you guys next month.
We’re gonna be doing season 22 Next month is gonna be ISFPs and intp is so Alright folks. So that being said, I’ll see you guys tonight.