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In this video I’ll be answering the question, what are ESTJ teenagers like? But before I can get into that I need you to subscribe to the channel and hit the alert bell so you know when we’re uploading additional videos or going live. That being said, welcome to CS Joseph Responds. My name is Chase and I’m here to answer your questions on anything Jungian Analytical Psychology or the Four Sides of the Mind also known as Four Sides Dynamics. And like I said, today’s question is, what are ESTJ teenagers like? And the source of today’s question is none other than Quora. Here’s the question. We have Ashton J. Carter, Aspy, ESTJ, Leo, Baptist, Star Wars fan, high school teen, who answered this question on September 9, 2018. I kinda see with him, putting all his achievements in a row, he’s definitely an extroverted thinker. And he says, “As an ESTJ teenager, okay, I believe this “question is for me.” Okay, I guess that sounds very ESTJ, if you ask me. “Strengths, outgoing, since we are extroverts “we are very friendly and humorous.” ESTJs are actually really boring and have a huge reputation of being boring in a lot of cases unless, of course, they’re competing or going all out in athletics and what not. But typically they often have a reputation, stereotypically speaking, of being boring just like ISTJs even though ISTJs are far more boring and probably considered to be the most boring of all the types. Again, those are just stereotypes. Your results will, may vary. “I believe if you have an ESTJ friend you have a “ride-or-die buddy.” That’s true, that’s very true. “Honest, we live by the cliche motto honesty “is the best quality.” Not always the case because the ESTJ honesty is actually based on what they feel is true, it’s not bases on what is actually true. So they may be honest with their feelings but their feelings may not actually have anything to do with what is true or false. It has a lot to do with belief ESTJs are more about being believers, not truth-tellers. They’re honest with their beliefs but they often pass off their beliefs as truth and that’s a serious problem. “We are straight-forward and we have a tendency “to be open about our thoughts –” You mean your feelings — “but we expect the same in return.” That’s not true, they don’t always expect the same in return. Sometimes it’s just good enough for them to give their input and then move on without even allowing any response. This is why ESTJs especially when they’re professors of academics, often engage in sophistry. Sophistry meaning they’ll deliver the lecture, they’ll deliver the message, but they’re not willing to listen to feedback whatsoever. Which makes sense ’cause their extroverted feeling demon doesn’t care about anyone else’s feedback because an ESTJ really only cares about their own feedback at the end of the day, in the long run. “Hard-working, you know those straight-A students? “Well chances are that it’s none other than an ESTJ. “We find commitment and important aspect in life “and we’ll pour all of our efforts into our work.” Very true, George Washington for example was an ESTJ. “Strong-willed, we’re the people with strong shoulders. “We do not give up and we stay true to ourselves.” Okay it has nothing to do with will power, it has everything to do with discipline. You mean strong-disciplined. You’re able to endure, it doesn’t mean that you can will yourself do things. You actually don’t know what you want so your biggest weakness is will power. But the reality of the situation is you’d rather have someones tell you what they want instead of you making a decision based on what you want. So that’s not exactly accurate. “Weaknesses, being controlling. “I’d hate to say this but we are control freaks “not because we are tying to be hateful “but we are doing what is right for our loved ones.” That’s actually true, they’re very controlling. Often times they think it’s their divine right to be controlling because their purpose in life is to bring order to chaos. If they see things as disorderly or chaotic they believe that they’re doing everyone else a favor by setting that order whether or not those people actually agree with the direction or how they’re setting that order or why they’re setting order. They don’t care what those people believe because they believe that they themselves are the ones that can set the best order than anyone else can, which actually in the long run is technically true. “Judgemental, we often have strong values in right and wrong “in society and we tend to express our displeasure openly.” Yes, they are very judgemental, but so is all the other 16 types. “Apathetic, we’re not intentionally hurting people “but we do not click easy with how other people feel.” Obviously, ’cause you don’t care about how anyone else feels. “When someone else is in a crisis “we tend to say something like, “why didn’t you do this, instead of “I’m so sorry to hear.” That’s fair, and that’s very true. So Ashton kudos to you for having a half, more than half-decent decent answer. I’m very happy about your answer. Then we have Youn Chang an ENTP, a guy who claims to be an ENTP, finds NBTI charming. He says in November 2, 2016, or maybe this is a woman, I can’t tell, my bad. “I got an ESTJ friend so maybe I can answer this, “but please notice I’m talking about a Chinese “ESTJ girl, so there may be cultural differences. “Mature, as a teenager ESTJ friend is much more mature “than me she is more independent, more organized “and is able live in the school dorm on her own “when I still need parents to wash clothes for me. “Effective because of T and J –” Oh my gosh this person is all about the letter dichotomies, excuse me while I go barf in a corner. “ESTJs are able to have a clear plan and make full use “of their time –” That’s true. “As a teenager they may finish school work quickly “and move on to the next task although in China “we have much homework.” I think that’s for everywhere because the government wants people controlled because the children have more time available to spend with their parents. Then the parents end up parenting their children instead of the state parenting their children and that would be a huge threat to the system. So obviously they have a lot of homework, I mean, come on, it’s China. Moving on to the next text, “Usually the first, my friend’s usually the first “one to finish it and spare time for, her MUN conference.” Okay. “Responsible, ESTJ like to be a good leader “in student groups even if they’re the young. “ESTJ teenagers may show interest in social problems.” That’s also why they end up being elected Class President more than anyone. “Sometimes controls too much, loves to be leader “and gives orders so maybe make others uncomfortable.” That’s true, but fair. “Conservative, or course in my mind I’m an ENTP. “Almost every other type is conservative but –” That’s not true at all, by the way. That’s a horrible stereotype. “But SJs are the most conservative ones “even if they’re teenagers. “They may not accept some new ideas.” That’s not true. I’d say STJ’s are more social justice warrior-oriented and not necessarily true conservative. That being said, I do know a Randian objectivist who is an ESTJ so it can go either way. “That’s all, pardon me for having “some grammar mistakes if any.” Okay fair answer. I’m not really gonna complain too much about that, these people generally know what they’re talking about. Let’s have my answer in terms of, what are ESTJ teenagers like? ESTJ teenagers are usually are the most popular kids in school. They usually have the highest grades. The reason why is because the school or academia is built specifically with a bias in mind to support ESTJs over all the other 16 types. That’s right folks, ESTJs have the easiest times in school compared to everyone else. That also includes athletics programs, it also includes the military because the military is also built culturally to adhere to the needs and the whims of an ESTJ. Whereas, because ESTJs are always about duty and honor and achievement, etc. This is why ESTJs in school become super high-achievers. It’s also why ESTJs often claim that they’re living life backwards because they’re having all their fun in their youth and they end up being no fun later. It’s because as they develop their INFP subconscious they’d rather be this philosopher on a mountain top or someone who’s levitating over a lake contemplating the meaning of life and existential existence instead of getting their hands dirty anymore. This is also why ESTJs for some reason, when they become super high-up in companies that they work for, they end up resting on their laurels and they believe that time served is actually more important than doing a good job which is also extremely frustrating. Luckily ESTJ teenagers don’t usually have this problem. They’re actually all about getting the job done and getting those tasks done right away. Also, they’re very affiliative and more open to actually obeying authority because they hope to become an authority themselves later. And they do become an authority themselves later because ESTJs are actually the most successful in politics out of all types. Mick Romney is an ESTJ, Barack Obama is an ESTJ, they’re everywhere. But then you got George W. Bush, he’s an ESFJ. Ronald Reagan, he’s an ESFJ. So it’s kinda interesting seeing how this is huge ESJ bias when it comes to these things. Joe Biden himself is also an ESTJ. They’re just super mega common within politics. They’re also very easily blackmailed, so you can actually tell them how to vote for you in Congress by blackmailing them. It’s so easy to do. You wanna learn more about that, watch how to social-engineer ESTJs on my Season 21, Episode 2 on other YouTube Channel and you too can learn how to manipulate an ESTJ and bend them to your will. Or, you as an ESTJ can learn how prevent people from bending to your will because you’re super open to being blackmailed. Do you know why? Because you all care about your reputation too much, and this is also what ESTJ-ans are like because ESTJ-ans often have to deal, when they allow themselves to be in irresponsible situations when they are, and they’re usually rarely irresponsible quite frankly, they become irresponsible when they mimic the wrong people. In other words, they take on bad habits. But as long as they keep their habits clean they usually don’t mimic those bad people. But in those situations they allow themselves to be irresponsible while things can fall apart. And like I said they take on those bad habits, and out goes their achievement. And then it all becomes about their self aggrandizement and their status. ESTJs, they care very much about their reputation and their status because they’re often afraid of being a bad person. And that means if they don’t perform well in athletics or academia, it can usually cause a problem. So yeah, ESTJs often have super high marks. You got the valedictorians going on there, they have that there. They’re also extremely common accountants, firefighters, military folks, lawyers, etc., doctors. Any of the traditional, even nurses believe it or not. Even just the traditional forms of careers paths, they would benefit going to those four-year schools like Harvard and spending the insane amounts of money and then having all the connections that they get from Harvard because they’d be able to leverage those connections. Because ESTJ’s are all about leveraging their rolodex effectively. Whereas, other types I wouldn’t recommend that. I’d actually say stay away from school. But for ESTJs yeah I’d definitely get college education because you’ll actually benefit from it because you’re more used to following the bouncing ball instead of doing something creative because ESTJs they just have to follow the beaten path. Luckily the academic system is the beaten path so they follow that beaten path and they’ll definitely be successful, traditionally. Also, I would like to mention that the former husband who is basically dead and disappeared was married to Carole Baskin in the Tiger King documentary was also and ESTJ. Keep that in mind, she’s an ENFJ by the way, their super ego relationship there. Just be advised. Anyway, that being said they’re very focused on achievement, they’re very focused on being proper, doing the right thing, they take on the leadership roles, etc. They’re usually insanely responsible Class President kind of person, Valedictorian, really high marks. At least they should have high marks. Very good athletics. My ESTJ friend used to be on the olympic National team for cycling, etc. I even told a story about him recently in the Season 23, Episode 2, which is how to parent ESTJs which is available at chjoseph.life/member under the Gold Tier membership. But either way raising an ESTJ teen in western society especially the SJ society that is the United States of America is super easy. If you’re really having a hard time, chances are it’s actually, the problem is usually with you the parent and not actually the child in this particular case. Something for you to figure out. Anyway folks, if you want a chance at your question being answered, leave it on a comment below or put it up on Quora and tag me. If you want a guaranteed answer to your question, join us at chjoseph.life/members. Go to Silver Membership, post your question on Discord and maybe even on the comment section for the next life stream going out. We might actually adjust our systems for that in the future. 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