Is Pedagogue infatuation Nature or Nurture? | CS Joseph Responds
CS Joseph responds to the Acolyte question is pedagogue infatuation nature or nurture?
Welcome to the CS Joseph podcast. I’m your host, CS Joseph, and we are answering your questions, least acolyte questions here. And now today. So we got a question here, which is basically how can I learn how to look up to fellow ISFPs? It’s kind of like a camaraderie question.
But I’m going to read the question in its entirety. At Chase, why am I as an ISFP, completely obsessed with ESTP, jays, like look up to and want to be like, but also want to date? I know they are my pedagogue also companion relationship and have Max physical compatibility. But how much of that is nurture versus nature? And how can I learn to be less off foot and be able to look up to other ISFPs? So yeah, a lot of it is nurture versus nature. But at least from a nature standpoint, your perception functions within your companion potential companion relationship.
From a pedagogue standpoint, ISFP to ESTJ works just fine. It’s really the the decision making functions, and you with good nurture on your side, and good nurture on their side, you can utilize this incompatibility to teach each other and become better versions of yourselves. And I maintain that this is really important, and one of the reasons why the companion relationship is one of my most favorite of the eight sexual relationships, it absolutely is. Probably is my most favorite, I’m not entirely sure, because the the opportunity for personal growth, while having highest sexual compatibility is absolutely exquisite, it really gives people a lot more opportunities in life.
Whereas like, if you look at, you know, golden pear, also known as the affection relationship, the enabling is basically it’s out of control, it can be completely out of control. That being said, though, when nurture gets in the way nurture can affect a person’s personality type in a lot of ways. And one of the ways that affects it, is by stimulating cognitive focus, people end up being a sub variants of their type basically, like, for example, myself, I’m an intp. And that’s my ego, however, I’m INTJ focused.
So I’m an INTJ, focused intp. So I’m a sub variant of the ENTP archetype. And being in a sexual relationship with an INFJ, who is potentially shadow focused, instead of instead of being subconscious focus, could actually lead to some conflict, because I’m already shadow focused. And if you have two people who are shadow focused, they end up competing in areas of like in terms of like wisdom, for example, they’re always trying to tell the other person, okay, this is the wise decision to do this, it’s wise to do that, etcetera.
So that can definitely be a problem. But there’s also another way to look at it, if they’re both subconscious focused, it’s, it’s constantly just about, you need to make me happy, or you need to make me happy, it’s all about happiness, etc, instead of actually doing the wise thing. And it can lead to a relationship of your responsibility to the point where it can be pretty destructive for both people involved. So when it comes to nurture, you want to make sure that your nurture is a little bit compatible, and make sure that if you are subconscious focused, or if you are shadow focus, the person that you’re with in a pedagogue relationship is the opposite cognitive focus than you for the absolute best results.
That’s not to say that you can’t just potentially communicate your way through any particular situation within the course of the relationship, which is absolutely possible. That is definitely a thing. So yeah, I totally understand being completely obsessed with your pedagogue type. I mean, I certainly am.
i i Love INFJs I love them dearly. And INFJs as an archetype alone is one of the reasons why I go out of my way to produce content on this channel, because I just really understand their pain, especially with my INFJ mentor, just opening my eyes to himself and his perspective on life because he’s, he’s a subconscious focused INFJ. And he’s had a lot of struggles in his life, a lot of abuse. And he’s mirrored a ton of abuse and it’s been very difficult for him to not actually be an abuser himself.
But, but there’s definitely an obsession there. There’s an obsession with it. My companion type, because INFJs just speak to me in a way that a lot of the other types don’t, because they’re kind of like this work of art, or they’re this, this person who is struggling with integrity and finding integrity, and I myself want to have higher levels of integrity as well, because I’m trying to develop my FYI trickster, and having that Fe parent present to help me navigate those situations where my FY trixter would be necessary to FY would be necessary, but I’m not really able to produce it that much. It can be, it can be an interesting experience.
And having that opportunity for self development for myself, is is insanely good. It’s no different also for the TE trickster, you know, to the TI parent, for example, or when it comes to ES TJ ISFP. Having the, you know, that they’re, they got a little bit different because it’s, you know, the, you know, the hero, you know, ends up going into the demon, it’s kind of interesting how that is Ti demon and ti hero. And they all sort of interact in that, you know, battleground of Titans as it were.
But the thing is, is that there’s no boredom, there’s no boredom as a result of that, and it can lead to a lot of growth because, for example, the pedagogue, you know, relationship when it comes to people who have differing heroes, like, you know, incompatible decision making functions in their heroes, like, for example, ISFPs FYI hero, ESC, J s te hero, when there is definite opposition, what ends up happening is that the these kinds of relationships can actually reach a higher level of humility than anyone else. And it’s because in the battleground of Titans, they’re literally tearing down the other person’s personal pride, and then installing humility as a word. And that literally helps them build character and become better people over time. So it’s one of the reasons why I highly, highly recommend the pedagogue relationship.
It’s not just it’s not just you know, for the perceiving heroes, etc. It’s also for the judgment heroes, there’s there’s tons of opportunities for growth and development amongst any of the pedagogue relationships. And that’s why we have it listed as second highest sexual compatibility second highest relationship recommended for for sexual relationships basically, to be able to get to that high level of intimacy. But the pedagogue is unique in that while it offers really great intimacy, it also offers the best opportunity for personal growth and development.
So hopefully, that answered your question. And yeah, I really hope that answered your question. So anyway, folks, thanks for watching and I’ll see you guys tonight. Passions are silver so can you.