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How does an INFJ act towards a crush? Before I can answer please consider subscribing to the channel so I don’t spontaneously combust and hit the alert bell so you can be notified when I go live. That is when I randomly resurrect from the local crypt in that process. That being said, what is up ego hackers? IMCs. Joseph here to answer your questions on any topic union analytical psychology or the four sides of the mind, also known as four sides dynamics.
And the source of today’s question is naturally, Cora. So let’s dive in, shall we? Alright, so we have the question asked, and we have a couple of answers Audrey Ho. Emphasis. I don’t know if there’s an emphasis required there.
But Audrey Ho has answered this question. Personally as an ENFJ. Don’t you just love when they like as and XYZ tight apparently, there. Here’s a list of some things I like to do.
Always on call for whenever they want to see me I’m kind of disagree with that one. I usually would drop anything to spend time with my crush, I will jump at any opportunity to flirt and get to know them, especially in comparison to time they spend with everyone else, even when they have other people to attend to you will be their first priority. Okay, I can argue that up and down a little bit. But I’m just gonna let that one stand for a moment.
Okay. Oh, another point she makes help them in little ways. The more time I spend with them, the more I am able to pinpoint areas of assistance I can contribute to or perhaps just something small, like bringing them food when they’re working or picking up something up off the floor. Honestly, I’ll give them anything they need.
That’s accurate. That’s good. That’s good. Innocent touching.
Wow. I mean, yeah, this definitely sounds like an ENFJ. It’d be good beginning NFJ’s may be apprehensive and seek approval before making any moves. But as I get to know you, I enjoy playing around with physical contact.
Am I okay? Yeah. That’s very se child very ENFJ. Indirect compliments. If you’re INFJ is Shire.
They may compliment you in indirect ways. For example, saying that makes you look better rather than you look good with that hat. No, that’s very INFP. Maybe it’s INFP shadow but no.
Otherwise, they will slip in compliments that matter here and there. And her final points, conversations about relationships in general, personally enjoy dropping hints about what could be by initiating conversation about what you prefer in a relationship. And I’ll hope to target every single one after all ENFJ is wanting to help it please gosh, that is so accurate. Wow.
Audrey, thank you for posting that answer. Because that is definitely a thing. And if Jays Do they just start talking about relationships in general, so as to hints to their informative NP, that they’re likely targeting for a sexual interlude, to basically realize that, hey, maybe that they’re open to a relationship without actually directly saying, wait a minute, do we have a woman here online, admitting that they prefer covert communication instead of over communication, even though regardless of them being direct versus, versus indirect, aka informative? Interesting, very interesting. Who knows? Let’s continue with the next person.
All right, we got Roger Hollifield, who is a systems engineer as an ENFJ. There it is again, and I can speak about a couple other ENFJ friends Wow. ENFJ is Friends of the NF J’s doesn’t happen very often. Hence why I’m like not inclined to believe that we can kind of be shy at first, I typically don’t want to be the creep or stupid guy that is very NFJ NF J’s want to give people a good experience, make them comfortable, so they don’t really want to come off as a creep.
And they ever don’t ever want to be seen as a stupid guy because of TI inferior that bothers someone or makes them feel uncomfortable. Okay, this guy sounds like an ENFJ. This is a conflict because my inner self is just waiting to Yap and connect with my Person of Interest. After we know that the feeling is mutual.
We’ll pour ourselves out there. Sometimes this can be too much if we’re younger. Well said, sir. Very good.
Very good. And Derek Lee booth CEO, the personality dating app at boot dot dating and no, I’m not trying to like market this person, but they just got lucky. If they like you. They’ll ask you on a first date that will last approximately six hours.
Wait a minute, bro. Where are you getting this data from? At a minimum expect to visit a museum climbing a mountain and volunteer at a soup kitchen? Okay, I mean, is this a man or woman approach? Where’s the gender in this? If they don’t like you? They’ll set you up with someone else. Trust me. They’ll say I’m really good at this.
Yeah, that’s actually kind of accurate. Thank you directly for that. All right. And now the CSJ response.
Okay, so, basically NF J’s how they act towards a crush. Basically They need to verify with themselves that there is some kind of concrete proof or some concrete behavior that their crush actually likes them. And one of the reasons or how they do this is that an ENFJ or an ENFJ will like do something good for, for their crush. Usually, it could be in the form of gift giving or food giving or doing them favors, etc, just to kind of see how their crush actually responds to that.
Not only that an ENFJ will also test their crush to see if their crush still is interesting, but actually maybe even doing something negative, or pointing out something or even teasing the person even sometimes teasing the person in front of other people to see how they would actually respond to said teasing, because that will give the ENFJ information as to whether or not that person has the you know, is interested in potentially even being loyal to them or even sticking around. This is a big deal. Because also the NSA likes to see you know, especially from like a covert contract point of view, if I’m going to perform for this person, I needed them to be loyal to me. So I’m going to like perform badly in the situation and see if they’ll stick around that’s a really really big important thing.
However, once they have once their Extraverted Feeling hero actually has the you know a concrete behavior or concrete action not words actions, once they see actions to their se child and their X rated feeling here at the same time that that person values them in some capacity. Once that happens, the ENFJ like literally activates smother mode, where they like literally smother their crush like constantly. And then and they will at any opportunity at a drop of a hat they will spend as much time as they can with that person. And from my own past when I was in a four year relationship with an ENFJ that was also my experience.
We had our very first date. She took me to the super classy restaurants, interest was expressed before the day ever occurred. I expressed a little bit of interest in her she did you know that little test or whatever apparently I passed that test, etc. And then she took me out to the super nice restaurant, which I ended up not liking but you know, I’m just picking because I miss I inferior.
And she was like super into me. And it was just very smothering smothers mother’s mother’s mother’s smother. Yeah, it was definitely smother. And I will admit that I absolutely had sex with her on the first night.
I do not often do that. But in that particular situation. I absolutely did. Either way, though.
Overall, you know, yeah, it was a very it was very smothering experience. She was constantly attentive to like all of my Introverted Sensing needs at all times, always trying to constant make me feel better, even though I didn’t really need anyone to make me feel better whatsoever. But you know, that’s just how it is. And you know, it’s just like, okay, yeah, many intp I’m gonna play along, I’m just gonna figure out you know, hey, you know, she needs me to feel good about something.
So I’m gonna try to like at least, you know, try to come up with some form of Introverted Feeling because of Introverted Feeling trickster I’m not sure if that’ll actually be a thing. But either way, it was really great because you know, NF J’s they, they act very wantI very wanting and desirous towards their crush. And it was really nice to feel desired as an intp LOL, there it is, again, to you know, be desired by someone and ni parent, there’s super wanting, it can be super impulsive in any hero loves how impulsive, those ni parents are as well as any ni heroes. But once once an NI parent knows what they want, they just go for it.
And that’s literally how it is. So if you’re getting smothered by an ENFJ, guess what that means that they have a crush on you. And you probably should like return that otherwise, you know, they’re going to start testing you and seeing if you’re going to stick around. And some of those situations can be painful.
And because they have extra thinking demon, when they are testing you in that regard, you may actually end up losing some status and reputation with your co workers and your friends and or family if you’re not careful. So you might like you know better like pay attention, you know, because an ENFJ is not just going to do something nice for you for the sake of doing something nice. Why is that because their interest based folks because they are aware of what you’re getting out of situation versus what they are getting out of the situation. And if you’re not going to honor their performance for you, well, then guess what that te demon is going to eventually punish you for it after a while.
And also NF J’s especially ENFJ women, but it happens to the ENFJ man too. They like to, they like to peacock around, they like to compete. They also like to eliminate competition as well. If you see an ENFJ eliminated competition around you guess what that also means that they have a crush on you.
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