Season 15, Episode 8 Transcript
– Hey guys, it’s C.S. Joseph of csjoseph.life, doing another episode, the final episode of season 15, where we’re discussing how to use the type grid. So for this episode, I decided to actually create the type grid with all of the small components associated with it for the sake of this lecture. And we can actually kind of teach people how to use it. We’ve just defined each of the different tools that could be used to determine someone’s interaction style and temperament. But now we’re actually going to be putting it in practice here for this lecture so that you can actually see how to do it and how to do it in real time and do it with somebody. I don’t know anybody or even yourself to kind of help you identify with, oh, you know, what type you are, et cetera. So I realized that some of the words are actually really small on the I don’t know, on the feed here when we’re recording, but I’ll be explaining and saying audibly what those are in case you’re not able to see it.
So I guess that’s just kinda how it is given the fact that kind of doing this low budget right now. But although speaking of low budget I actually did gather some different camera gear to help me with lighting and some various other things. So we’re going to be having that set up in the near future as I kinda turn my apartment more into this like studio thing. So that’s kind of like where we’re going with this, but anyway, let’s get down to it. Before I begin, I want to do the disclaimer, every now and then we have a disclaimer for whatever lecture series we’re doing, right? And yes, this series is no different for season 15. There is an actual disclaimer and wow, I totally did not put do not disturb on my phone. So someone might call me and that would suck and I’d have to redo this. Hopefully I can get through this without that happening, but be that as it may the disclaimer. So remember with the interaction styles and with the temperaments, there are different tools with them. You have direct versus informative. You have movement versus control. You have initiating versus responding for the interaction styles and for the temperaments, which are at the top. So interactional styles are the rows. The columns are the temperaments. And for the temperaments, we have those tools as well. We have systematic versus interest. We have pragmatic versus affiliative and we have abstract versus concrete, right? But here’s the thing. All of the 16 types can be potentially everything, right? It’s because we have the four sides of the mind. Here’s the four sides of the mind. You have a person’s ego, you have a person’s subconscious, you have their unconscious also known their shadow, and you have their superego also known as the demonic inverse or also known as the parasite, for example. And also subconscious is also known as the anima or animus, depending on what gender you are, right? So these are all different considerations you have to understand. So what we’re focusing on is the primary, we are focusing on what is primarily the ego. Why? Well it’s, because it’s all about, I’ll put it right here. It’s all about preference. Preference is everything. It’s what you prefer to do, right? It’s all about primary versus secondary. Everyone is direct. Everyone is informative. It is possible. Everyone is, the thing is though is that what do people prefer to do more than the other, right? That’s the whole point. You have to be thinking in terms of primary versus secondary, what a person prefers to do versus what they don’t necessarily prefer to do, but can do, right? And this is very normal in almost any form of human interaction, even sexual intercourse, right? People have secondary roles in the bedroom. Sometimes people have, they prefer to be on top or they prefer to be on bottom, but then every now and then they could switch it up given whatever circumstances.
Even stress impacting a relationship could actually change positions in the bedroom, believe it or not. And that would make a person secondary roles come out, you know, stressful situations, traumatic situations, or situations of elation could actually put someone in their subconscious, right? And it has its own set. So remember each of the 16 personality types has its own, you know, temperament and its own interaction style. Every single one of the 16 personality types. So that means the ego has its own interaction style and it has its own temperament. The subconscious has its own interaction style and its own temperament. The unconscious it’s the same, superego is the same. So potentially we have, you know, the I, the interaction style and you have the T here and then you have the I and you have the T here and you have the I and you have the T here. So that’s like four different interaction styles potentially that you’d have to keep track of. And there’s also four different temperaments potentially that you’d have to keep track of now. Luckily there’s actually a lot less like, for example, I’m an ENTP. So two of the sides of my mind actually have the same temperament which is the intellectual whereas my subconscious is a guardian and my superego is an artisan, right? So I have three temperaments that I got to keep track of. And then they have all their associated tools. But again, I’m primarily in my ego. So I prefer to operate in my ego just like most people, unless they’re like dealing with trauma or whatever, or stress in their life and they’re stuck in one of the other sides of their mind, which can happen. You can get stuck in your shadow also known as your unconscious and you can get stuck in your subconscious, right?
So you may end up being a little bit more, even killed because while you prefer in your ego to interact a certain way and have a certain temperament, you’re kind of throwing off and it seems like you’re more imbalanced because you’re in your subconscious a lot or you’re in your unconscious a lot. And this potentially skews results, but still at the end of the day based on your interaction style and temperament because of preference and what is preferential, what is primary versus secondary, you know, Yin and Yang equilibrium. It’s very important. You know, Yin and Yang. The Yin is the pliable, the Yang is the firm, the masculine versus the pliable feminine, they are in Yin and Yang equilibrium, right? Because the secondary trait is the black dot in the Yang side or the secondary trait is the white dot in the Yin said. And those are still secondary traits. So human beings are able to use all these other traits through secondary traits. It’s just what we need to do is find what their primary traits are so that we can identify them properly. How do we find their primary traits? By looking at what they prefer to do, looking at what they do more often, right? That is the main tenet foundational law behind how to use the type grid, right? So let’s take a look as to how that works, okay? So we have the type grid right here. We have guardians SJ so ESTJ, ESFJ, ISTJ, ISFJ. So the structure guardian is the ESTJ, the starter guardian is the ESFJ, the finisher guardian is the ISTJ. The background guardian is the ISFJ. For artisans we have the ESTP, which is structure, ESFP for the starters, finishers is the ISTP and the background type is the ISFP. For the intellectuals we have the structured intellectual. That’s the ENTJ, the starter ENTP, which is the starter intellectuals ENTP, the finisher intellectuals the INTJ and the background intellectual is the INTP. And then the structure idealist is the ENFJ or the mentor.
And then the starter idealist is the ENFP. The finisher idealist is the INFJ and the background idealist is the INFP. Okay, so each of these types, this is literally how it works. If you’ve ever done multiplication tables in school, this is literally how you type people. It’s just multiplication tables. This is a grid four by four so a 16 grid. So all you have to do is identify what temperament they are, that’s the column and what interaction style they are, that is the row. That’s it. Because, oh, yeah, I understand that this guy is structure, but then I realized his temperament is intellectual. That means the answer is ENTJ. So basically this gives you the opportunity to utilize this system for deduction process of elimination. That’s all you have to do is use this for process of elimination. This is the process that you follow to be able to type people. It’s kind of interesting because you’re seeing how systematic I am right now as an NT because guess what? NTs are systematic. We have systematic right here for the NTS and they like talking in methodologies and frameworks and whatnot. And guess what? This type grid, which is based on the research and work of Dr. Linda Behrens is essentially how we type people because we have everyone to put into this framework and we find specifically how to type people and it is 100% accurate. You can do it this way. You will be accurate, no issue whatsoever. Why do we have to do this way? Well, because the dichotomy system of the MBTI where we’re just looking at introverted versus extroverted or intuitive versus sensing or thinking versus feeling or judging versus perceiving is very limited. One of the ways I explain this is in the, how do the INFJ versus the INFPs lecture, right? Where I talk about how guess what? INFJs are actually more T than they are F, why is that?
Because they have TI child also known as, you know, TI and the top four functions of their mind. That makes them a thinker because an introverted judging function like TI or FI makes someone a thinker or a feeler, even though their letters say INF, but the F is not really real. Why? It’s because it’s not a source of feeling. Whereas the INFP is a source of feeling. It has FI hero, but they often, but it’s such a high judging function because it is a hero function at the apex of the mind. They often score, you know, INFJ on the test. So they get really crossed and they end up being mistyped. And guess what? The MBTI mistypes people on a regular basis, because the MBTI through these dichotomies are not aware of the cognitive functions. But to be able to test someone properly on cognitive functions, it actually takes a lot of time and a lot of effort and you’re still prone to human error. I’m sorry, tests are prone to human error. You have human error for whoever’s taking the test. You have human error on who is administering the test. You have human error on who’s checking the answers for the test. There’s a lot of human error, right? Well, thank God for Dr. Linda Behrens, who gives us the interaction styles and then her take on the temperaments in all of these little mini microcosms or micro dichotomies attached to each of these things, to be able to give us a framework where we can pragmatically and systematically determine who is what through the process of elimination or deduction, logical deduction. There’s no reason to like get this wrong because it is correct. And we just focus on their ego. And once we identify one of these types, guess what? We instantly know the four sides of their mind. Oh, I found their ego. Well, I know their subconscious because their so conscious just their egos functions flipped upside down.
And then I know there are unconscious because it’s just the extroverted or introverted opposite of what the ego is. And then the superego is just the unconscious flipped upside down. Great, I know all four sides of their minds, and I know all their cognitive functions. And now I know where a person’s weaknesses are, where their strengths are, where their fear exists, where their worry is, what makes them the most happy, right? And guess what? That person is all of a sudden open to my influence. Why? Because I know everything there is to know about them from a nature standpoint. Now, this grid does not tell you a person’s nurture. If you want to learn about nurture, you can look at BS tests like Big Five or HEXACO, or, you know, ooh, we’re going to test you on how narcissistic you are. Great, well, I mean, I’m sure all the NTs would, your pragmatic types would score, you know, as very high in narcissism because they’re inherently selfish. You know, it’s like, oh, if you’re not affiliative like us, I guess that means you’re narcissistic. Yeah, that’s as bad as telling, you know, NTs that they are Asperger’s or autistic where they have ADD, ADHD or whatever. And you’re just giving them pills because they’re not like, you know, the rest of the 70% concrete population out there. Great, thank you guys. Oh, we have this huge war in abstraction. So let’s just, you know, give drugs to small children to make them more like us, even though those drugs like destroy those small children.
And yeah, it’s basically literally totally pathetic. And I loathe how society is doing this to our children. How about we actually learn about depth psychology and stop poisoning our children ruining their futures and our grandchildren, yay, because epigenetics. Because yeah, let’s just destroy our genome, you know, I mean, come on, think about it statistically. And my source on this is Warren Farrell from the book called The Boy Crisis. The sperm count in men continues to drop every single year and is dropped by a huge amount over like the last hundred years. I wonder why, think about it. You know, oh, masculinity is definitely on the decline. That’s for sure. Oh, but Mr. Warren Farrell thinks, oh yeah. Well, I guess that means we just need to make men more like women, right? That was literally his solution. He does a great job identifying the problem in that book, but his solution is like, “Oh, hey, let’s just turn men more into like women. And then it will be okay.” Wow, Mr. Farrell. I mean, I think that’s like the best decision ever. You know, society is so afraid of men because men, when they get together and they have this problem where if they are men and they want it, they demand to be treated like men and then they demand to be respected because they have this thing called self-respect. And then if you get a bunch of them together in one place, then they decide that they would like to take power and start changing society and those already empowered don’t like that. So, hey, we’re just going to turn the kids into like this group of people who we just take away their masculinity and make them more like women so that they’re easier to control and not willing to challenge the system. Yay, that’s really great. You know, very conspiratorial as well. But to be honest, like what alternative is there? Oh, this is just something that’s happening. Well, okay, sure. Maybe, but if regardless, it’s still a problem that has to be solved, whatever the cause is, it doesn’t matter. We have a problem, we need to fix it, right? So one of the ways we’re going to do this is by learning the type grid so that we could possibly type everyone properly. And then we can develop education, proper parenting, proper relationship, friendship skills, proper sexual skills even. Every aspect of human interaction is affected by this form of psychology, by this form of depth psychology.
It is absolutely critical that we educate everybody, especially in first-world society about this system so that they can identify themselves, identify other people so they can know themselves and know others so that they can love themselves and accept themselves so that they can love others and accept others. Wow, and all that fear of masculinity causing conflict will just go away overnight because if everyone understands each other, I’m sure that would really help from the conflict standpoint now, wouldn’t it? Oh, but no, we can’t do that. We need to continue to keep people in the dark and ignorant every single day, because, you know, we are afraid of change. Thank you as CJs. Thank you so much for that fear of change because statistically 40% of the population, in any population, Vietnam company or whatever, statistically 40% of people are resistant to change. Gosh, it’s kind of weird how, you know, the guardians are 40% of the population at the same time. Oh, that’s why. Oh, it must be the guardians. You know that 40% of the population are guardians. Oh, and we have 30% here for the artisans. 15% for intellectuals and 15% for the idealists. Oh, okay. So what you’re meaning to tell me is that the concrete types, which are here, are the majority. Oh wow, and the abstract, intuitive types are the minority. Oh, but there’s something wrong. There’s something weird. There’s something abnormal these types. Let’s give them drugs and destroy their life before they even have a chance to defend themselves. Wow. Like really come on. Why do we continue to allow society to completely screw our children? Will someone think of the children, please, please. I mean, I’m trying to do that. Oh, wait, I am doing that. But apparently we’re just content to do it. I mean, come on, like seriously, grow a pair, grow up, please get the mature masculine, get the mature feminine and help change society for once so that our children and our children’s children are not screwed. I mean, even, you know, native Americans, especially like the Iroquois tribe. And this is, again, my source is The Boy Crisis by Warren Farrell. He explained in this book about how native Americans, especially in the Iroquois would talk about and make plans and make decisions based on what would affect seven generations out, right? This is why I do this.
This is why this work that I’m doing is so important because I’m trying to think seven generations out. I want my great, great, great, great grandchildren to be living in a much better world and less of a toxic society where people actually understand each other and have great relationships with each other. Imagine if everyone really understood each other, would we really need war that much? We would actually be able to unite as a race and actually tackle the challenges that we’re really facing. You know, the energy crisis or the fact that 24,000 people die every day of hunger. There’s a reason for this. And guess what? The type grid is just another stepping stone towards that future. So help me make this future a thing by learning and mastering the type grid and applying it to your life, right? So that you can have better relationships. So you’d be a better parent. So you could be a better brother and sister. So you could be a better child, right? Of your own parents, right? So that you could be a better lover, right? So you could be a better friend, makes sense. This permeates every single aspect or component of human existence as we know it, this right here. So let’s talk about it a bit more. So structure type. So structure type remember they are direct initiating control, right? But what other types are also direct? Well, that is the finisher types. The finisher types of the people that focus on finishing things. They have a really hard time starting things, okay? And, but they are movement whereas the structure types are control based, control means that the go at their own pace, they take their jolly sweet time doing things. Everything has to be under control. Progress can not occur in the midst of chaos. I have to remove chaos. I have to bring order. I have to get rid of the chaos in order for me to have personal progress in my life. If there is total chaos everywhere, how exactly am I going to be motivated to do anything right?
Oh, but the movement type from the finishers, because the finishers are also the starters are very movement oriented, right? So these two are movement starters and finishers are movement oriented. And if there’s too much control being exerted while they feel like you’re not getting any progress. So they will introduce chaos for the sake of progress. Because while there’s some stagnation here, we need to add some energy here. So we’re going to introduce some chaos and do things a little bit chaotically because it should get things moving again, and all things are moving. The river is flowing. We have life at last, right? And we also know that we just discussed that finishers are also direct with each other. Ah, but structured types and starter types are both initiating, which is very interesting. That’s because they’re both extroverted. Initiating basically means that they go to other people for the information they’re looking for. They’re not going to wait on someone else to inform them or keep them in the loop. They’re going to go to somebody else to find out what it is they need to know. That’s how they interact with people. They prefer to initiate with others. But if you prefer to initiate with others, you need to be around other people to be able to initiate with them. That’s why three’s a crowd. Social situation counts as extroversion, right? And that’s why these expert types and structure types and a starter types need to be focused on or allowed to extrovert and be around fellow human beings. This is why punishments like solitary confinement are heinous. They are criminal. Solitary confinement should never be allowed. Every human being, especially extroverts need to have human interaction. And guess what? Introverts, you know, these two types here who are responding right here, these two interaction styles are responding. We have the finisher in the background types. They also need human interaction while they can survive longer in solitude compared to the extroverts, they still have an introverted situation where it’s just one-on-one. They need that one-on-one interaction because they are responding. They prefer to respond and they are trying to respond to others. They like it when people come to them, when people are thoughtful enough or value them enough to actually keep them in the loop, right? Because they prefer to respond. And don’t forget like the power is always in the responder more so than the initiator. I mean, that’s like a fact.
So remember they’re responding. So we have the finishers in the background, people who are responding well, interestingly enough, we also have informative types background and starter types. We inform, I am very informative. I am informing you right now on this channel, in this lecture. In fact, I do that all the time. It’s because I am informing you so that you can be educated. So you can make these changes in your life so you can help create a better future for all of us. It is absolutely important that you do so. Informative, like we use that milk example. Remember the milk example where it’s like you open up the fridge and you see that there’s no milk. And if you’re a director going to tell your lover or your roommate be like, “Hey, go get some milk.” Okay, that’s direct. Or it’d be like me open up the fridge. And there’s no milk and make the statement, “Hey, we have no milk,” because the informative person is inviting the other person to choose their role. That other person can choose, “Hey, oh, they’re giving me the choice to either offer to go get the milk or to tell them to go and get the milk,” right? That’s what it means to be informative, right? There’s extra context. Context is king there’s extra subtext. Direct people just say what they mean, mean what they say. And it can come off as bossy or commanding, right? Directive, right?
Whereas informative is giving the other person the choice. Sometimes it’s out of respect sometimes, you know, it’s for other reasons, maybe it’s out of fear, who knows? It’s given the other person, the other the opportunity to choose their role to choose “Ho, hey, I would like to go get the milk and offer to get the milk,” or, “Hey, I think you should go get the milk and to the per to me,” you know, who said that there was no milk, right? So that’s informative. That’s what informative means, right? And the informative interaction styles are starters and background. So if you encounter someone who is informative you automatically know that they are definitely not any of the structure types. You know that they are not ESTT, ESTP, ENTT, ENFJ. You also know that they are not ISTJ, ISTP, INTJ, INFJ by default. They’re only one of the four starter types or one of the four background types. Thank God, it made it really easy. We just eliminated half the types just because we figured out that this person isn’t informative, right? Well, let’s continue on as an informative person, right? Yeah, it was like, well, is he initiating or responding while he really likes being in solitude all the time. Okay, that’s great. So he’s very solitude. So there’s chance he’s an introvert. Okay, but is he control or movement? Well, he also takes very long to do things and he takes his jolly sweet time. Okay, so that means he has a background interaction style. Great, we’ve just eliminated 12 types now. And we know that this person we’re trying to type is a background type, one of these four. So we have their interaction style, but now we need to figure out the temperaments, right? So let’s talk about the temperaments. And how do we tell the difference between temperaments, right? We’ve explained this in detail, I’ve explained all of this in detail in the previous lectures in this series. But again, this lecture is a general overview of how it all works so that you know how to use the type grid, right? And how I use it and how anyone can use it. Okay, so we know that they are ISFJ, ISFP, INTP or INFP one of these four, which one are they? You know, and you get talking to the person and say, okay, well, I don’t know if he’s concrete or abstract. I don’t know if he’s pragmatic or affiliative. I don’t know if he’s systematic or interest based. And then you start having a conversation with this person and, you know, and you’re trying to get them to do something with you. Hey, you know, you want to come shoot guns with me or whatever, you know, and we’ll do taco Tuesday that night. We’re going to do clay pigeon shooting.
We’re going to do taco Tuesday. You know, me and my friends, would you like to come join us, et cetera. And then this person is like, well, okay, that sounds fun, but you’ve never invited me to that before. And what’s in it for you? Like they literally ask them, “Hey, what’s in it for you? What is your interest in me? I mean, why are you asking me now?” Right? Oh, I instantly know that they’re interest based as a result of that. So that means they are idealist or artisans. And so I’ve just eliminated them being an intellectual. I just eliminated them being a guardian as a result. So this person is either an ISFP or INFP. Just by default, just by default. I already know that, you know, and, you know, we continue to talk and they’re actually starting to use, you know, language talking about how things should be, because they’re telling me, well, you know, I don’t really have a gun to go with that. And I’m like, oh, “You can use one of mine.” And then I hand him the shotgun that we’re going to use, and we’re going clay pigeon shooting, for example, you know, and then they’re like. “Oh, wow, this is really nice weapon. But you know what, I’m not really sure about this. It should be done this way. You need to hold it this way. Always make sure your action is open because you’re not going to be very safe, you know?” And it’s like, okay, wow. You’re kind of telling me how it needs to be here, right? Well. Then they’re like, “But you know what? I’m just going to use my own weapon,” right? They’re constantly talking about, “Oh, hey, you know, I want to bring my own weapon. I’m not going to need to use yours. So let me actually see about potentially going to go buy mine for the next time. I don’t really want to come this time. I’ll go to the next time.
But I would like to have my own weapon instead, and I’ll have it before the next time.” “Okay, yeah, sure. We can go ahead and do that.” You know, very independent as a result of that. Very more independent they want to do things what they want to do. It’s not about what they want to do for the group. So they are pragmatic. So we’ve just found out that he’s interest based and he is pragmatic ergo. He is the artisan type, which means between INFP and ISFP has to be the ISFP, right? It’s just an example. It’s kind of a crappy example of me, but it’s still an example, right? Remember guardians are concrete like artisans. These two things are linked together. But guardians are also affiliative like idealists, okay? And then guardians are systematic, just like the intellectual. So they have similarities. Notice how every type has a similarity with every other temperament. So you can actually see here that each temperament has a component of all the other temperaments. It’s the same thing with the interaction styles, right? So concrete, affiliate, systematic for the guardian while they relate in some way, shape or form to the artisans, intellectuals, idealists, they relate to somebody. Every temperament relates to the others. That’s why they’re in equilibrium with each other, right? Yes there’s more of them in the concrete, more concrete than there’s abstracts. Okay, yeah sure. But they still relate to each other, they are able to have relationships with each other because human beings are based on relationships because if you get people together in one place and they speak the same language and they set their mind on a certain goal, and they’re going to work together to focus on meeting that goal, they will be successful. That’s how the human race works, right?
And it’d be great if you have all of human cognition available to you in this group, and you can take advantage of the entire cognitive spectrum available to human beings to be able to accomplish that goal. Oh, you know, like changing fundamentally transforming society for the betterment of our children, seven generations from now. Oh yeah, that’d be nice. That’d be really nice. That would be the dopest obviously. But, I mean, you know, that’s not what people want and first-world society at least the people who run first world society because they probably don’t even think that’s the dopest because why not? We’re just cashing in and making a lot of cash, you know? And at the, you know, risk of our children and our children’s children, oh, but they’re not my children, so that’s fine. You know what I mean? Come on. Anyway, idealist, abstract, affiliative, interest based, you know, so they are abstract like the intellectuals. They are affiliative like the guardians, they are interest based like the artisans. They still have links to the other types. All you have to do is find out which of these they are. If you can find out, oh, hey, this person’s abstract. You know, that they’re either an intellectual or an idealist. You know, they are an NT or they are an NF just by default. You understand that. So in reality, you don’t have to actually identify all three things. It’s the same thing with the interaction styles. So you do not have to identify all three things at all. You do not. You only have to really identify two. And it’s nice to have that third piece in there to kind of check your work, right? It helps you check your work. It helps you verify that you are actually correct and typing them because you’re like, okay, I know this guy is direct and I know that this guy is control based, but is he, so that would make him structure.
That would mean he’s either an ESTJ, ESTP, ENTJ, ENFJ but you know what? I’m going to verify that he’s actually initiating just to make sure. And you’re like, yeah, he actually really is more responding. Ah, well, he can’t be direct responding control. So maybe I’m wrong about the control. Because I know for sure that he’s direct, right? Okay, let me verify again if he is control and are still trying to let me see if he is movement and then you get to notice things and then you introduce a little bit of chaos in the situation because you’re movement as well then you realize he’s okay with chaos and he’s doing really well working this situation with chaos. And he’s like, oh, okay. He just seemed like he was control. And reality is he’s actually movement. Okay, oh, he’s direct responding movement. Okay, great. So he’s not actually an ESTJ, ESTP, ENTJ, ENFJ, he’s actually an ISTJ, ISTP, INFJ or INTJ for example, right? He’s one of those four types. And, you know, looking at his temperament, he does seem pretty affiliative ’cause he’s very focused on people which is great. And he is absolutely abstract and he’s constantly asking the, what if, okay, great. I know for a fact that he is actually an INFJ instead of an ENFJ, right? So notice how people are like, oh, I’m an ENFJ when they could really be. And they got me an ENFJ result, right? But after going to the type grid, they turn out they’re actually INFJ, right? We’ve also seen the same thing happened with INFJ and INFP as well. We’ve seen the same thing happen between INFJ and INTJ. We’ve seen the same thing happening between INFJ and ENFP because there are shadow types to each other, right? All of these things make sense. So the point is, you really only have to identify two of these traits to identify their interaction style and their temperament, but having that third one, use the third one to verify and do check your work to make sure you’re doing it correctly. That way you’re not at risk of jumping to conclusions or mistyping yourself or mistyping somebody else, right? Because you don’t want to use this grid incorrectly and then mistype someone, because guess what? If you mistype someone when you started talking to them about it, they’re going to reject you and reject the theory because they’re like, “You’re obviously wrong, I don’t jive with that. That doesn’t sound like me,” right? So you need to verify, always verify. And I will admit that it’s easier for TI users, logic users to use the logical deduction method of the process of elimination when utilizing this grid, after they’ve memorized it, I will recognize that. The TE users can still do it if they are patient, right? Of course, telling that to an INTJ they’re trying to be at their TE user trying to tell them to be patient. It’s kind of like, look, just verify your work. Utilize all three, all three of these, you know, microcosms, these micro dichotomies, et cetera, use all three that you have available per interaction style and per temperament and you will be more successful. You will be more accurate. It’s, you know, I know it’s nice and tempting. It’s tempting to know for starter types.
Oh yeah, you know, he’s informative movement, you know, but is he initiating or oh yeah, he’s, or down here, you know, like the background type, we know that he is responding and control, okay? But wait a minute, is he really direct? Like you have to check your work, just verify. Go the extra mile because once you arrive at what you believe your conclusion is in terms of what your type is or what your type of your friend is, try to prove it wrong. Try to use the grid again to prove your conclusion incorrect. You know, the scientific method. Yeah, I mean, we all love those debates about the scientific method on the CSJ Discord server, you know, and also debates about absolute truth, which are interesting. But anyway, verify and check your work. See this grid, yes you could use it for process of elimination. You can arrive at a type. And once you have mastery over this grid, you can actually type someone with 100% accuracy within 30 seconds of meeting them for the first time like that. And then you instantly know there four sides of their mind, the cognitive functions and you know how to adjust your behavior, to engage with them and get better results in your interactions with them. Even if you are super, super mega low compatibility with them, you could still adjust yourself because you know what their mind is prone or prefers to interact or prefers to receive in conversation. And then you can adjust yourself. And it’s called social engineering, because guess what? All social interaction is actually a form of manipulation. The word manipulation though, it has a negative connotation with those who use the English language. It’s not necessarily a negative word, right? I mean, I’m literally manipulating this pen right now by pulling the cap off of it. So like, seriously, don’t freak out when I say all social interaction is manipulation, right? Use this grid. Type yourself, know thyself, then respect yourself, accept yourself. Do the same for your friend. Know your friend, accept your friend, understand your friend, give to a friend what he needs mentally or what she needs mentally. You know, if she’s informative, maybe you’re built to be with in informative people. Great, if they’re direct and they need people to be direct, because for example, ESTPs, they need to be with other direct people. They like being around direct people more so than informative whereas I’m an ENTP. And though I’m informative, I like being around direct people, right? So, it’s different. It’s different from the intuitives and the sensors. It’s different from the abstract, the concrete people, right? These things make sense. These things fit together like a grand puzzle piece.
Utilize the type grid in this way. If you don’t know where to find my type grid, the type grid, like my version of it kind of sucks right now and it’s out of date. It needs to be updated with this additional temperament information which I will do very soon. You can get that at csjoseph.life on the very front page, put in your email, and then you could download the type grid for yourself and you have the type grid. I’m going to be releasing a new version of it soon with all this updated information so that you don’t feel like you’re missing it, right? You have everything at your fingertips to accurately do this. But again, check your work, reach a conclusion, use the process of elimination and logical deduction to like, oh, there’s their interaction style. Oh, here’s their temperament. Oh, I know what type it is. But check your work. Remember there’s three different tools available per interaction style and per temperament. Check them all just to make sure that you are 100% correct. And then as a result of that, look at their cognitive functions. Look at their four sides of their mind, adjust your behavior to make your behavior more compatible with theirs. It could be for your children. It could be for your lover. It could be for your coworkers. It doesn’t matter, the applications are limitless. And then as a result, you are able to exhibit better and more mature social behavior, right? Because you’re able to social engineer better and you’re able to influence people and win friends better and guess what? Human beings that have more friends are typically more successful, right? And that would help build you up in success. And it could be that way professionally with your family, with your church, with your community, by yourself or in your romantic relationships. It doesn’t matter. Again, the applications are limitless. Learn and master the type grid. So you can not only change yourself and change those around you or understand yourself and respect those around you and assist them in better ways. You do that for the community and you can do it for bettering the world for the sake of our children, seven generations hence, that’s why I’m doing this anyway.
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