Season 11, Episode 4 Transcript
– Hey guys. It’s CS Joseph with csjoseph.life. Doing another episode for season 11. I believe this is episode four of season 11. How do ESFPs compare to ENFPs? When we talk to you about the similarities and differences between the entertainer archetype and the advocate archetype tonight. Both of these types are very similar and because of how similar they are, it becomes very confusing to differentiate the two when people are trying to type themselves or others. Now, thank God on this YouTube channel, we have season two and season 15 at the playlist that you can watch, so you can learn how to accurately and properly type yourself and other people. And you’re, well, I mean, I already said yourself but I mean like literally all yourself, all four sides of your mind. But you can also do the same thing with anyone. Be it your family, your children, your spouse, girlfriend boyfriend, your boss. I mean, let me tell you, there’s definitely some advantages to knowing what type of boss is. But that’s neither here nor there, we’re going to be focusing on ESFPs versus the ENFP and kind of how, breaking them down into a way where we can kind of understand them a little bit while simultaneously making sure that you’re able to walk away from this lecture of, “Okay, I mean, I thought I wasn’t ESFP, but now I’m really an ENFP.” Or vice versa, et cetera. So we’re going to be doing that and let’s begin the deep dive on that. Oh, by the way, before I do that, we do have a giveaway right now on Instagram, a free coaching session with me, a one hour session restrictions apply. And all you have to do is be a follower of my Instagram account. Leave a comment on the particular post that says giveaway. It’s one of the darker ones with like my face on it or a and whatnot. And it just says giveaway on it, free coaching session. Like that post leave a comment there to enter and also be a follower of my Instagram. And you are automatically entered to win. We will be announcing that very soon. So just be aware of that, that is there. And we also finished our giveaway on the “King Warrior Magician Lover” book giveaway which I will audibly say at the end of this episode. Otherwise that person’s name is like written on my whiteboard. So it’d be pretty easy to figure that out.
Anyway, that being said, let’s get right to it. So we have the ESFP also known as the starter artisan, they are artisans, a freedom based creator, focusing on living in the moment. They’re very pragmatic. So they focus on what works and not necessarily what’s right, but they aren’t focused on the what is essentially because of their temperament. They are the artisan temperament. They’re all about, was in front of me very concrete approach, but they’re also also very interest focused, very motive focus. Trying to figure out what’s in it for themselves. What’s in it for other people within their temperament the artisan. Their interaction styles, the starter, which is informative initiating movement which guess what is the same interaction style as the advocate, also known as the ENSP. This is where it gets really confusing. It gets confusing for people because they guess what they have the same interaction style at least say the different temperament, but still the same interaction style. They’re informative which means whenever they speak that could be a volume of words, there could be a lot of additional subtext or context that changes the meaning of what they say. For example, they just be like, they come into the door and then they tell their husband, “Hey, the car is broke.” Which basically means I want you to fix the car, instead of, but then it just turns into this guessing game. You know what I mean. Instead of just going up to their husband saying, “I want you to fix my car, it’s broken.” That’s a more direct approach. So you have to understand those differences which can be a bit frustrating for people but that is informative. And they are informative, both types are informative. They’re both initiating. They go to other people to try to get what they want to get the information that they’re looking for, et cetera. And they’re not really afraid to do that. They’re not really waiting on other people to respond or for other be able to come to them so that they can respond to them. No. They are go getters.
They are going to get to keep the energy going, keep the energy flowing. They’re gonna go right to that person and get the information they need. Sometimes if that means their boot is on the person’s neck during the process, because they’re trying to extract that information out of that person’s brain, so they can get what they need to be able to move on because they want to move quickly. And I should know, because I was like married to one of these times for 11 years, if you know what I mean? And that is the ESFPs archetype. And then they are both movement speed racer. They go really quick especially ENFP, the ENFP is triple movement, which means their ego, their subconscious in their unconscious is moving by this flying by the seat of their pants, going speed or racer all the time. I mean, but I’m racer X, they could be speed racer. It’s all good. The point is, they go really quick. They’re all bare, they’re all about progress. And chaos is okay. Chaos is a ladder to them. They can operate in chaos. It’s fine. They don’t need to have everything under control in order to get to where they’re going. Everything could be falling apart and you know what, they’d still be able to get through somehow. And that is both of these types. Now the advocates temperament is the idealist. So the idealist, they’re very focused on what’s right. But they’re also very focused on what if. So that’s very different from the artisan. The artisan is focused on the, what is, that’s what they’re talking about the, what is, and what they’re doing, it’s based on what works. But what the idealist is saying is the ,what if, they’re conscious talking about the, what if, and they’re very abstract with their speech, et cetera. And then in terms of what they’re doing, they’re focused on doing what’s right, per se, taking into account all those social norms, all those social conventions, et cetera. And that’s kind of how that temperament works.
So when you combine their interaction style with that temperament, they become the advocate basically or the ESFP also known as the entertainer and then the advocates the ENFP. But anyway, that is like a giant word soup, word salad. So yeah, just remember ESFP they are the artists and temperament and informatician and movement also known as the starter type. And then the ENFP is the starter idealist, et cetera. And guess what being that they’re starters the interaction styles they have a hard time finishing what they start, which is very important to this particular lecture here in season 11. So let’s get down to looking at their cognitive functions, shall we? All right. One of the biggest differences that they have right off the bat is that they have different Hero functions. ESF piece of Se Hero and ENFPs have Ne Hero. And you know Ne Hero, we love Ne Hero, because remember I have Ne Hero, we talked about it in the last lecture, actually. Ne Hero is all about seeing all the possible futures. It is very distracting abstract, and yes, I guess it is kind of distracted a lot. I mean, come on. I mean, you’re looking at all these different ultimately futures. So one way that it manifests is that you’re able to have a fixed point in space. So it’s what we call the reference point, and front of this reference point you were able to see all unlimited futures in every direction basically to be able to see the future.
And then the ENFP just chooses, after being aware of all these futures, just chooses which one after looking at them all. Whereas, if you have, Ne Hero it’s different here, that fixed point in space. And it’s like, “Ah I’m gonna look really far ahead with this one future. Do I like it? Yes or no next. I’m gonna look really far. Did I like it? Yes or no? No.” And it’s really super long range and they just go through each possible future until they want what they’re looking for. Whereas the ENFP with the Ne Hero is aware of all future simultaneously it’s a little bit shorter range. And then because of that, then after comparing and looking at all of them simultaneously, they just choose which one is necessary for themselves potentially, or actually for other people. It’s very other focus because it’s literally reading the fates of others. And the ENFP is able to do that with Ne Hero. Well, Se Hero, not so much because Se Hero is focused on the moment, is focused on the physics. Ne Hero is metaphysics, Se Hero is physics. And physics basically gives the ESFP the ability to look at any physical objects, whatever it is. I mean like this pen, for example. This is a physical object. And guess what, Se Hero can store their memories in physical objects and turn them into totem.
So whenever they look, they pick up a physical object it’s kind of like psychometry, which is Linnaean chin brought up, or to help me define it. Psychometry is this a Marvel superhero powers is when you pick up an object, you know all of the memory of the object, where the object has been, how it was made its entire history, et cetera. And that’s literally what extroverted sensing is. Especially as Se Hero, it is literally psychometry. Whereas extroverted intuition Hero on the ENFP is actually prescient. It literally is pre cognition. Extroverted intuition hero is pre cognition. However, extroverted and sensing hero is psychometry, completely different approaches. And because they’re able to literally see all the attributes of the physical object or any physical object, they can literally with their mind’s eye craft and change and adjust the physical object. And then they use their hands and they’re very hands-on and they can actually change it. It’s just like how an SP type ESFPs included. He’ll look at a landscape and envision what that landscape will look like. And then they will adjust it and make changes to that landscape. And then it’s different, it’s changed, “Oh, there’s a pond now. And then there’s a lot of planted trees and there’s a nice little veranda. And we got the picnic tables and it’s a really great environment to have parties, et cetera. And when before it was just nothing more than like a meadow or a hill, for example, and not very much there. And they’re really able to bring additional life because of their ability to manipulate the physical environment. It’s also gives ESFPs the ability to dress very vibrantly. I don’t know a single ESFP that’s not dressed in some kind of color or a lot of frou frou or little ruffles on their shoulders where they’re women which by the way, I can’t stand those. I hate those so much that they trigger me. I don’t know why, Si Inferior are so triggered by that. But in any way, in any case Se Hero, it’s all, they’re very fashion aware, always wear the fashion.
They’re always on the cutting edge of fashion, for example. They’re all about giving other people a good experience. They’re all about making a fashion statement or making any kind of statement as a result. Of course, actually, technically both types are all about making statements. And the reason for that is Te Child, both of these have Te Child, is all about what other people are thinking. Both these types are very aware of what everyone else thinks of them constantly, and their self-worth, their sense of self-worth, how they value themselves as human beings. It’s actually tacked on to how other people think, because Fi Morals are attached to Te Rationale. Let’s use a different color for that. Just kind of make it a little bit more viewable here. Here we go. Fi Morals is connected to Te Child, and Te Child is all about whether people are thinking. So when other people think highly of the ESFP or think highly of the ENFP that makes the ENFP or the ESFP feel really good about themselves. Yay, we feel really good about ourselves. Yay, but check this out. We have a similar thing going on with the Si and Ne are actually connected because we just said fixed point space that’s Si inferior allows them to use their presence because all that has happened before because Si is the past. So it’s first lot of time all that has happened before will happen again. All that has happened before will happen again. This is what gives them their ability to prognosticate and they can prognosticate at the same level or capability as an ENTP. Like what we talked about in our last lecture. Which was ESTPs versus an ENTPs.
If you want to learn a little bit more about extrovert intuition from an ENTP approach, I recommend you watch that lecture as well. But in this particular lecture, they’re able to do the same thing. They have that same level of prescient, and then they have their, what their rationale what other people think of them attached directly to their sense of self-worth, or what they believe is morality, and that also has their their moral principles attached to it. Moral principles comes from rationale. What other people think. Based on what other people think is a true false thing. And that could be statistics, et cetera. We’ve done research here, and we found that this is correlating factor to this thing here. Although correlation is not causation which we’ll talk about in a second. And then as a result, these two types are able to make emotional moral decisions based off the data that other people present them, basically. Based on the true-false judgments of other people, they are able to feel as a result of the true-false judgments of others, the collective true-false of other people. It’s because it’s all about what everyone else is thinking. These two types, they walk in a room, they instantly know what everybody is thinking, and they love it when people are totally like, thinking really higher than for example, ENFP and ENSF women for example, really get off on being catcalled, for example, by other men at the bar, et cetera, because it’s Te Child, Te Child loves to be regarded, and they’ll even dress in certain ways to even in some ways that maybe even SJs would accuse them of like, dressing like slutty, et cetera, just for the sake of getting catcalls or getting all that additional touch friend. Also both of these types when they get boob jobs, for example, as women they kind of oversize their breasts because it’s Te Child, they’re trying to get men to notice them, men to turn their heads, men to regard them because that makes them feel good about themselves. And that’s why they do it. That’s why it kind of seems like they’re over, they are going overboard with the sizing of their breasts after an augmentation, which I’ve had personal experience in that with the Te Children, women in my life who’ve all had boob jobs for some reason. They’re just one or two extra sizes larger than they should be in terms of proportionality. And then they love the attention they get from men because all men are regarding me and this is great. And I’m giving them a really good experience or they’re giving me a really good experience as a result.
And I can go there and again, that’s Te Child because the child wants others to think highly of them so that they could feel good about themselves with Fi Parent. Don’t forget, Fi Parent though is very responsible with morals. Very responsible because at the end of the day, the ENFP and the ESFP, their goal is to not only feel good about themselves and be valued and gain really good status, especially status amongst their peers, their community, their family, their children, their lovers. Status is a very important thing to these two types. But also, so is principles and moral principles. Now, yes, their moral principles can be corrupted because it can be corrupted by dogma, inappropriate thinking, for example as well as a human nurture, impeding their nature. And as a result, their moral principles can be corrupted. And it can turn into basically a huge amount of selfish as this is why the ENFP vice, the biggest vice that they have is depravity. They can be the most deprived, the most selfish of all the types. And guess what, Fi Parent alone outside of which type it’s in, guess what it can be a very selfish function out there. This is why these two types are paired up, usually with Fe Parents and Fe Heroes, because those types are some of the least selfish of all the types. So you would kind of want to pair up the most selfish with the least selfish. And somehow it works together. And guess what those Fe Heroes and those Fe Parents are able to help these two types Guard their selfishness and actually remove their selfish. And so they actually become even higher and better morally principle people, because they’re paired up with someone who has this huge understanding and huge awareness of ethics. And those ethics, those ethical people, those Fe Heroes and Parents make these two types and the absolutely better people. It is the dopest when it happens, especially since these times actually help those Fe users be more moral as well. So in relationships, when you have Fi Parents teamed up with Fe heroes and Fe Heros and Fe parents, you find the Fi Parents developing the most responsible sets of morals out there to the point where they can really conduct themselves in an amazing moral way.
They are so focused on being the good person. And they’re so devoted to the good it is absolutely amazing to see because that’s all they would ever wanna feel. They wanna feel good about themselves. If they feel, if they know that they’re correct, they know that they’re evil in that way, they feel bad about themselves. However, that selfishness of Fi Parent could backfire on them because sometimes they get so selfish. These two types are at risk of becoming so selfish that they think, and they think of themselves too highly. It becomes this huge amount of pride because never think of yourself more highly than you ought to, for example, and it can come out with some serious mega pride to the point where they’re like, “Well, I deserve this thing because I’m just a really good person. So I’m going to it.” For example. and this is what causes Fi Parent types to actually end up taking more than they give. And that could be a problem. That’s not as much of a problem for ESFPs because Se Hero is a very giving function. And it’s all about giving others a good experience. But when you have an ENFP, who has Si Inferior it’s all about their experience. And Fi Parent all about what they feel, for example. That’s why depravity ends up becoming the worst advice for them. It’s not advice that’s attached to ESFPs as badly. It’s not a primary advice of the ESFP but it is the primary advice of the ENFP. And they end up taking more than they give because they don’t have the burden of giving other people a good experience through Se Hero because it’s all about their experience. It’s all about what they feel, for example that can also cause them to get stuck in a rut as well. Now, both of these types can get stuck in a rut and I’ll tell you why. They’re inferior functions.
Now, there are various functions are a little bit different. Now ESFPs have Ni Inferior. Ni Inferior so much the ESTPs that we saw in the last lecture do not know what they want. Why is that? It’s because they are afraid of wanting the wrong thing. And like, that could be very stressful. I was married to an ESFP and guess what? She was afraid of wanting the wrong career to the point where she went to six maybe seven different colleges. She changed her major so many times. She started out with electronics engineering technology and then she went into student teaching and then she was back on technology again. And then she went into banking and finance, and then she went, and she was doing dance at the same time. And then she went back into student teaching again and then early childhood education. And then back in the student teaching again, and you know what? We are 31 years old now. And she is literally about to get her degree in student teaching. And I am so proud of her. And I’m so thankful that she finally made the decision to stick with something for once. And then as a result of that, she was finally able to finish. But I mean, come on, she’s an ESFP, she is a starter type. She can’t finish what she starts and she’s constantly afraid of wanting the wrong thing. So she has to try everything. She has to just to see what everybody else is doing in order for her to be comfortable with what she wants. The problem is that when you do that is that you end up getting stuck in analysis paralysis because you’re so focused on gathering information about what everyone else was doing that you still are just so focused on the wrong thing. You’re focused on what everyone else is doing. And it’s like, well, crap how am I gonna make a decision? And then they ended up having a hard time making a decision. So they get stuck. And then they get failure to launch syndrome. And that fear of Ni Inferior just literally causes failure to launch. They fail to launch, and then they get stuck and they get stagnated in their growth and they don’t go anywhere. And then they wake up at 40 years old, and wondering, well where the hell did my life go?
You know what I mean? It’s because of fear, fear is a problem. But fear is also a problem for ENFPs too. Fear is a huge issue because of Si Inferior, because ENFPs are all about being in their comfort zone. You have to force yourself to get out of your comfort zone if you’re going to be successful ENFPs. Seriously, it’s not about you. You have to be okay with failure. And the same thing I talked about failure big time and ESTP versus ENTP lecture. It’s the last lecture of this particular season, season 11 that I did. And again, Ni Inferior and Si Inferiors is all about dealing with failure. Ni inferior needs to be okay with failure, and realize, “Hey, I’m just gonna have to try everything. And if I fail, I fail then I gained the wisdom that I need to not fail anymore.” And guess what? When they keep trying and they fail and focus on failure over and over again, they’re going to gain the wisdom. And then this function will no longer become an inferior function. It’ll become an aspirational function. They won’t be afraid anymore and that’ll get them access into their INTJ. And then they’re able to become brilliant strategists. Why? Because after they have failed so many times with trying different things so they want. Their Te Child will organize all of those failures within their soul. And then as a result of having all those things organized in their memory, then they will develop strategies for success. And then all of a sudden you’ll see the ESFP who’s been feeling and feeling for 10 years out of nowhere, they’re super mega successful. It’s like, “Whoa, what the hell happened?” You like literally had overnight success like that. Wow. Yes. That’s literally how ESFPs do it. They always look at that one lucky break. It’s not a lucky break guys, has nothing to do with being a lucky break. There is no lucky break at all. It’s the fact that they’ve been failing for over a decade and 1/2, still trying to figure out everything. And they’ve failed so many times that they can only help but be successful. And that’s why it seems like an overnight success. Even in reality, it’s not really an overnight success. One more point about Se Hero that I forgot to mentioned, Se Hero is very short-term memory focused. The mind accesses memory through sensing functions Se or Si. And Se is the minds short term memory access. Whereas SSI is the long-term memory access, and ESFPs have amazing short-term memory. It’s like super high, random access memory in a computer. Whereas Si is like the hard drive is long-term memory storage. And extroverted sensing, they’re able to keep all this huge amount of information that they are gathering in the moment.
The thing is that as information gets old, it kind of gets pushed out of their head. And they have a little lower sized hard drive here with their Si nemesis, and it’s not able to capture as much of their long-term memory. And then because of that, they end up becoming forgetful sometimes. Luckily, ESFPs out of the SP types ESFPs and ESTPs are not as forgetful, for example, they’re not as forgetful as the other SPs but it still is an issue because they live so much in the moment, new information is coming in. And because of all that new information they’re having a hard time remembering it sometimes, especially if they’re overwhelmed in the moment with all this new information that they’re getting constantly, and they just need to take time and reflect. That’s why ESFPs, when they’re learning new skills, learning new things, they have to do in short little bursts instead of just sitting in an entire lecture the entire time. I mean, a lot of ESFPs children you see this all the time, especially in the classroom, they just can’t sit still. Well that’s because you can’t force them to take in all that information all at one time, you just can’t. You have to do it in short little bursts in order, and it increases their understanding. You can actually test this out, doing little tests with ESFP children or even with ESFP children, SP children, for example, because it’s like, “Oh crap, Maybe I should not force them to sit for an hour straight and hope that they remember everything.” They’re not going to. They’re not sponges. They sponge little drips at a time, not this huge giant download everything to my brain. Kind of like what I am or even the ENFP. That being said, ESFPs because they’re Te Child they’re insanely good at studying. Guess what ENFP is the same thing too. Both these types are insanely good at studying, because of they’re Te Child. They’re Te Child is so powerful. They can learn calculus. Both these types get a lot of crap because they have Ti trickster, which beads they lack logical thinking entirely but that doesn’t matter. As long as they understand the process. And because guess what? Mathematics is very process oriented It’s very rational. Especially when they’re writing the process out on paper they have the advantage. If you can write out a process or have a formula to follow they will get the desired result every single time. And guess what? Both these types guess what?
They with their Te Child, they are seeking a formula for success in life. That is what they are looking for. They’re trying to find the formula that they follow, the plan that they follow to get the success that they’re looking for. And then when they create their own personal brands their Te Child, because that’s what? Te Child is all about personal brand. Personal brand becomes their formula that they had discovered, that they had developed on their own together successful. And then they wanna turn around and sell it to you. That is the ENFP-ESFP way about the personal brand. Wow. I’m like all over tonight, anyway. And so when we were talking about formula to success. That’s a strategy, it’s a brilliant strategy. Well guess what? Same thing Si Inferior, if the ENFP can get over getting out of their comfort zone and seek failure and fail over and over and over again and force themselves to have new experiences, and have self discipline where they’re forcing themselves to do things that they’ve never done before even at the risk of failure, and being okay with failure, then you will start developing methodologies and processes and routines. And then they all start to aspire. And then as a result of that aspiration, they will go into their ISTJ, and they will become that library of Alexandria within themselves. So again, how do they do that? They have to get out of their comfort zone, and force themselves to do new things they’ve never done before. And they do this to Te Child, both these types more than any other type of benefit from studying. And I’m not even kidding. If you wanna do an ESFP any good. If you wanna do an ENFP any good, buy them books, make them read books. If you’re raising the children of these types, force them to read nonfiction. Seriously, read nonfiction, and they will be super mega successful. Their ability to take data in and then spit it out in a form that is useful in the form of strategy or perhaps his library, Alexandra or the ENFP literally it becomes a walking encyclopedia. You know what I mean?
And they’re able to remember so much information and link those reference points together and create additional formulas for success. Because remember, both of these types are all about formulas for success. These two types can be insanely successful. And the formula for success on the ESFP side is very artists’ and focus. It’s all about producing the art and making a life and art. And here’s this amazing formula to success for me to develop this amazing art, or this amazing performance for you because guess what you said these are all about performances. They’re all about being the life of the party. They’re all about being the center of attention. Whereas the ENFP does it in a different way. It’s not about the performance. It’s just about, this is the experience that I’m looking for. I don’t wanna be a poor person. I don’t wanna live in poverished. I want to be regarded. I want to be loved. I want to have the status that I deserve that I know that I worked hard for every single day. And guess what? ENFP you can have that if you get off your ass. Seriously, stop being a lazy ass stuck in your comfort zone. You might be successful if you’d allow yourself to fail, guess what? Maybe you should probably seek failure your entire life and just seek it. Because guess what? After failing so much, you’re gonna gain wisdom. And then you’re gonna gain all these reference points because the researchers should be doing because you’re like reading every day, and then become this amazing encyclopedia library of Alexandria where you literally have the solutions inside of you. You just have to use your Ne Hero to recognize the patterns between all of these different solutions and put them together and create a new process. And then you will succeed.
That formula for success you’re looking for that helped you develop your personal brand. It’s already inside of you or you just haven’t read enough books for it yet. Tia Lopez would say as much. Gary Vaynerchuk would say as much, come on guys. It’s not that hard. You literally can do this. Get off your ass, stop being afraid of what you want or stop being afraid of getting outside of your comfort zone. Move on. Do everyone else a favor? We wanna see those amazing performances of the ESFP. We definitely wanna do that. We wanna see the amazing creator of personal philosophy created by the vision of the ENFP so that we can have a better tomorrow for our race. We need you two types to do this. Get over your own selfishness. Get over your fear of want and desire. Get over your fear of being in your comfort zone. And maybe we could like be a better race tomorrow for our children. Seven generations ahead, because you guys decided to get off your ass. Because you guys decided that you weren’t afraid anymore. Thank God. Seriously, I’ve learned so much from both of these types. Especially ENFPs. I know people think I have hate ENFPs, and I’m constantly crapping on ENFPs, and stomping on ENFPs all time, calling them to pray losers all the time. Okay? Yeah, they can be depraved. But the thing is, I actually owe a lot of ENFPs. I’m here today on this YouTube channel because an ENFP decided to hire me, do you know what I did? I literally had nothing. I was going to be screwed. I was fresh out of college. Didn’t have a job, freshly moved to a new town before, had nothing going for me. And all I had was a suit and tie, and a little tiny PowerPoint presentation on my laptop computer to try to convince somebody that they need to hire me. And I went to the local Safeway, bought me some donuts, showed up at at this ENFP’s office without, like I just showed up and the door was unlocked. And I just sat like in front of the chair in front of his office and just waited like an hour and 1/2 before he’d show up. And then I handed him and his partner some donuts. And I gave him a little PowerPoint presentation on my laptop as to why they should hire me. And guess what? They did.
He gave me a shot. And you know what? That shot, because of that relationship with him. He had to lay me off a year later because that company went down in flames. But somebody he knew, ’cause then I was like homeless at the time, gave me a job. And one of my coworkers happened to be my first mentor as a result of his connection with that one guy that gave me a job after his job with me. And I am here right now, talking to you folks on YouTube and on this podcast, specifically as a result of an ENFP. So don’t tell me that I don’t like ENFPs. I really appreciate them. And a lot of UNFPS are mentors. I’ve learned a lot from Tai Lopez. I’ve learned a lot from Gary Vaynerchuk. These are ENFPs. Talking about personal brand. They’re Te Child, all about personal brand. Read, “Crush It” by Gary Vaynerchuk. If you haven’t read that yet, like, what are you doing? You need to read that, for example. Especially if you’re these two types, you are SPs and FPs, read that freaking book. It will make sense to you. You know what I mean? It’s who you are. And I am here today to even do these lectures. If you will have this channel to have this company that I’m building right now, specifically because of an ENFP in my life. He’s a good man. He’s a good father. He’s a really dope. He’s just one of the dopest people I’ve ever met, because he was very charitable to me. He gave me a shot. See that’s an amazing ENFP. That’s not a depravity ENFP because guess what? As deprave ENFPs can get, they’re also the most giving people out there, because they recognize what they are grateful for, what they are thankful for. And if they have a lot of Fe users in their life those Fe users remind them every day what they should be thankful for. That is amazing. And because of that charitable ENFP, I am here today. I became an expert in this science. I have mastery, all because of an NFP being charitable to my ass, and I’m very grateful, for example. So don’t sell yourself short. He had to get out of his comfort zone.
You need to get out of your comfort zone too seriously, help us change the world. I’m changing the world every day, one day one person at a time, all because we need an FP all because of the personal philosophy that he instilled within me, and the guidance that he was able to give me, for example. And because he connected me with somebody else who connected me with my first mentor. Two connections, just because of that relationship because he was charitable amazing. And a lot of people don’t even realize this stuff happens. Yeah, it does, get out of your comfort zone please. And stop being afraid of what you want, just one failure so you get the wisdom that you need to develop the brilliant strategies, or you get the wisdom that you need to become a library of Alexandria if you’re ISTJ subconscious for the ENFP. Learn how to aspire. It will help us the rest of us. And it’ll help you be successful as well, because what person doesn’t wanna share their success with others. The other thing they have, we have Fi nemesis, ESFPs worried about their past. They worry about where they’ve been. They worry that their memories are not good enough which kind of sounds interesting. They’re worried that because of their lack of memories that no one will like them. No one will respect them. No one will regard them because they are afraid or that they are worried that they don’t have enough memories yet. And they wanna be able to be that person that tells stories, because Se Hero is about giving people a good experience. But ESFP is sometimes get worried when they’re in like the bar scene for example. They don’t have any really cool stories to tell other people in the bar. And because of that, they get very worried. ESTPs do the same thing. Is even more important to the ESFP because of that Te Child and other people I think highly of them. And when they are among friends at the bar scene, for example. Wow. It’s really hot in here. When they’re at the bar scene, for example or amongst any friends they really want to be able to bring up some stories. And because they worry that they don’t have enough stories, and it can also cause them the very minute nostalgic as well with their Si nemesis. For ENFPs, it’s Ni nemesis. They’re very worried about their own future. So think about this, “Oh, I’m not sure if I were ESFP or ENFP.” Where is your worry? Are you worried about your past or are you worried about your future? If you worry about your future, don’t forget not to be confused with afraid of your future, but if you worry about your feature, well, that is an ENFP thing. So be aware of that.
They’re very worried about their future. This could be with their health. This is could be worried whether or not they’re gonna be worried and worthy enough, or whether or not they’re gonna be good enough, for example, or ESFP is worried about, when the day they die, will they have lived a complete life, for example. would they have accomplished enough, for example. Those are the worries that they maintain. Both these types, they have Fe critic. They can be guilted. They can be prone to guilt when people are guilting them, it really comes off as manipulation. And they’re very resistant to that. Although if you need to teach both these types of lesson, you’ve got to basically show them how their actions, their selfless actions are inhibiting and hurting fellow human beings, especially human beings close to them and how those human beings will actually start to over time, think less of them. Because remember their Te Child wants to be regarded. Their Te Child wants to be respected by other people. Their, Te Child, gosh, what was that one term I wanted to use? Well, regardless Fe critic, they’re very critical towards how other people feel. They’re very critical towards the other people’s value systems. Why is that? It’s because their Fi Parent right here, and right here, Fi Parent is all about their sense of moral principles, their own sense of morality. And they understand that because they are responsible with their morals. Other people are irresponsible with their morals and Fe critic is just aware of how irresponsible other people are with their moral decisions, and how a lot of like, basically they see other people’s as being bad people or people lacking in value, for example. And they themselves are very valuable.
Although an immature version of the ESFP or the ENFPs could basically become corrupt as a result of that thought. And then it’s like, “Well, I really deserve this more than you do. So I’m gonna take this.” You know what I mean? And that selfishness can come out. So you have to call them out on it. You have to call them out on their critic, and be like, listen, you’re selfish behaviors inhibiting other people stopped doing that. And then they’ll feel guilty about what they’ve done. And then they won’t do that. There are a few times in my marriage, for example where we broke up and it was because of, her Fe critic feeling guilty about what was going on in our relationship that she actually stayed with me a little bit longer, and it shouldn’t have happened because quite frankly I wasn’t really worthy of respect at all because I was a man-child, and she should have broken up with me and we should have broken up at that point in time. It probably would have taught me a lesson. And it would have probably allowed me for me to pull my head out of my sooner than later. But I mean, it is what it was, and I just had to figure it out. So we were able to figure it out. And then we had our divorce of last year, for example. And as a result, no, we’ve been able, we’ve had our relationship is the best it’s ever been since then believe it or not. So fair enough. Both these types have, we talked about Ti trickster and how they’re just completely unaware of logic. Both of these types are not capable of finishing a logical thought in their head. They are, completely illogical. They are all about rationale. They’re all about what other people think, because from their point of view and the absence of communication and explanation, perceptions become reality, as a assault these two types can be, they have the ability to manipulate the other people’s thoughts, their Te Child, because it’s all about perception. It’s the perception is what you’re experiencing or it’s what you want or what you might do ahead of time. But it’s all about what you’re thinking. And both these types have this amazing ability to go to a person’s thoughts and play with it like a Rubik’s cube, essentially. It’s a form of thought manipulation.
They’re also thought vampires. These two types get a lot more intelligent when they’re surrounded by intelligent people, and surrounded by books they’re reading constantly. And having a lot of mentors, they grow in their intelligence to the point where they could even pass the Mensa test and become members of Mensa, just like Tai Lopez, an ENFP he did, for example. You know what I mean? And as a result of that, they can become absolutely brilliant, brilliant academics. These two types can be serious academics, although the ESFP because they have their INTJ subconscious they can actually unlock their intellectual side and be very theoretical it’s, which is really interesting. ‘Cause they’re so in the moment and very concrete but then they can also be very intellectual at the same time. And, but the Ti trickster it’s a black hole that sucks away their sense of logic, as a result they’re not really able to think for themselves. They need to rely on other people to think true-false thoughts for them. They live their life by what’s good or bad. They understand and they can think like that about what’s good or bad but in terms of true false, they need to go to other people and be like, “Hey, what do you think about this?” Or “What do you think about this?” Et cetera. And then it kind of gets the thoughts and the true-false judgements of other people. So that then they know if they feel good about that, and whether or not they should establish that as a belief, because remember Te Child is all about beliefs. It’s all about belief. It’s not necessarily what’s true or false. It’s about what you believe. And the absence of communication or explanation, perceptions become reality. That’s how it works with these types. And it’s especially with the ENFP because the ENFP, and as much as the ENTP, both those two types are considered the most manipulative of all the types with the ENFP taking the crown. It’s like the used car salesman archetype. I know a lot of people don’t like when I say that, but I mean, come on, all social interaction is manipulation, but in terms of like negative manipulation, because they have depravity, because the vice of depravity is on the ENFP side a big time and they could be insanely selfish. They use that social interaction. They use that manipulation to their own advantage.
Because they feel they deserve it. ‘Cause that’s what my parents all about, “I am the most deserving person in the room.” It can happen sometimes. Guess what Fi Hero can do it too. That’s why INFPs can be, in some cases as manipulative and just destructive as an ENFP who is deprived, because INFPs have their sense of, their own vice a depravity as well. It’s not a primary one like it is for ENFP, but it’s a secondary one. And it is still very strong with an INFP. So an INFP can exhibit similar behaviors with similar traits. So talking about Fe critic, we talked about Ti trickster, we talked about analysis Ni nemesis, ENFPs have Se Demon. Se Demon is very similar to My Demon. My Demon is also Se Demon. It’s all about burning everything to the ground so that new life can begin. Sometimes ENFPs have to activate that nuclear option, and this usually happens when they’re super uncomfortable, when they’re not being regarded by other people, when they’re not given the status that they feel that they deserve, for example, especially after going through a lot. Suffering a lot and accomplishing a lot for the sake of an organization like a nonprofit or a vision of some kind, or philosophy of some kind. And they’re, being really charitable. They’re being super, super giving with their Fi Parent because they feel that they’re really good people. They’re aware of what they’re grateful for example.
They’re aware of everything that’s been given to them and it’s causing them to be very good charitable. And they’re giving, giving, and giving and giving but no one is regarding them. And it’s just like, they feel like, well, why bother? This is all for nothing. And you know what? I’m not gonna have anything to do with this anymore. And it can get so bad sometimes when ENFP is so giving to their family. But then they just constantly feel like they’re being taken advantage of. And when that happens, and then they feel taken advantage of with their Fe Critic and their Si Inferior. It just absolutely devolves into something crazy. And, “Hey man, I gave you a loan. You didn’t pay up. You’re supposed to pay up. I’m gonna go Se Demon on you. I don’t wanna beat the crap out of you with my ESTP superego.” I have, in fact that ENFP who actually hired me that I tell you that I respect, he used to be, for lack of better term, he used to be a thug. He used to be a drug lord. And he used to go collect money. And if they didn’t have the money, he’d leave them beaten bloody on the floor. This is the kind of person that he was at the time. Because he’d go into his Se Demon is superego, ESTP superego. And he uses his fist basically to explain, “Hey, I gave you this, our deal was to give back. You give it back to me, with interest or whatever I’m here to collect your time is due. Well, guess what? Well, it is what it is.” ENFPs are, I mean, they’re all about the shakedown sometimes. And they will get there do. You gotta be careful with the ENFPs ’cause when you enter into deals with them, ’cause they’re always about wheeling and dealing something always constantly have an angle about something. Always have an angle, because of their angler capabilities always read the fine print. Always read the fine print because Te Child will take everything you have. So make sure that you always read the fine print, because there’s always something in the fine print. Because from their point of view, their ability to leverage contracts that ISTJ subconscious has this insane mastery over contracts and agreements.
And if they’ve been screwed in the past and certain deals they will never allow themselves to be screwed again. They will always make sure that any deal any paperwork that you sign with them always benefits them more than you, or at a minimum, always benefits them absolutely. So because of that, be very careful, always read the fine print with them. Always understand exactly what you’re getting into with ENFP. ‘Cause if they’re in depravity mode and they’re not being charitable, you’re gonna be completely screwed. And you’re gonna find the clothes off your back taken away away from you in as much as your bed as well. Be very careful when dealing with ENFPs. That being said, ENFPs can be very effective, ENFPs can be amazing business partners and they can work in especially in the sales realm. I guess what both these types are amazing at sales by the way, if you haven’t looked at a career yet and you’re one of these types, I would consider sales. They are amazing at sales, both types are. And so just be aware of that. Remember, always read the fine print. I would also recommend always reading the fine print with the ESFP as well, because it can be an issue. But it’s more of an issue with the ENFP, because there are Ne Hero, and their ability to see the future and their pre-cognition kind of gives them an advantage over, because they can see how everything’s going to play out before it happens. And then they could put in additional stimuli or additional people and additional obstacles in your way ahead of time. And you don’t even know. And they’re basically leading you down a path and you’re not sure you’re even being led. You’re not even aware you are being led down a path. So make sure you always read the fine print because you never know if an ENFP is in their depraved mode or if they’re in their charitable mode. So be aware of that. Also, we haven’t talked really much about ESFPs and their need for instant gratification. ENFPs with their Si Nemesis lead to stop worrying about the past. But they do allow themselves to be more patient by using their Ni Inferior and actually allowing them to fail and try everything. They’re trying everything out of patients. So that patients will actually lead to delayed gratification. If they can delay gratification they’ll become more we’re successful. And that will give them the brilliant strategies that they need to develop that formula for success. Ne Demon though, Ne Demon is rough. If you don’t give the ESFP the freedom to want everything and to make every mistake in a book, that’s what Si Inferior does too. Don’t forget because they’re seeking failure.
They have to be, they have to have enough room to make every possible mistake everywhere. So you have to get both these types that room. They need the room to be able to make every possible mistake in the book so that they can learn how all the right things. Because as Thomas Edison said, “I mean I didn’t fail a thousand times. I just found, I just discovered a thousand ways of it not working before I finally figured out how it was going to work.” That’s the same point for here. So remember, always give them the freedom to do what they want. Why? Well, because if you don’t, if you do not give ESFP his freedom of choice. If you do not regard them, if you’re not think highly of them, if you do not give them that freedom, they’re gonna go into their extra intuition demon, and they’re going to destroy your future. That’s all they, that’s what they’ll do. They will plot to destroy your future and attack you at your heart. So like for example, like what’s the best way to go after your enemy? Do you burn his fields? Do you destroy their farms? Destroying their homes? No. You go after their family. You go after what they care about. You go after their treasure, which is usually like their children, their wives, et cetera. That’s how you really annihilate your enemy. And guess what, ENTP superego absolutely understands how to annihilate enemy, their enemy. And they will plot and destroy, plot to destroy your future. And they will destroy everything you care about and everything you hold dear. That is what the ENTP superego does. So to avoid that, give the ESFP all of the room in the world to make mistakes and to want things and to even want the wrong thing. And allow them to just discover, and have all these new experiences constantly until they finally figure out what it is that they want to do. But you have to do this forever. Always given them the freedom of choice. If you inhibit the freedom of the ESFP well, that Ne Demon is gonna come after you and then you’re completely screwed. Don’t let that happen. And if always make the ENFP comfortable, as comfortable as possible. Always tell them that you think highly of them, but it’s all about allowing them to make all these mistakes. Make sure that they are comfortable, within reason obviously. And if you, and if they end up, and do not let them feel, do not let them feel that you’re taking advantage of them. Otherwise you’re gonna have to deal with that Se Demon. And then ESTP is gonna come around looking for getting its collection money. If you knew what I mean. So you don’t wanna find yourself in that situation.
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