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How can you tell if an INFP doesn’t like you? Before I can answer please subscribe to the channel so I can practice psychoanalyzing crustaceans with my cousin mike on his boat. Yeah, whatever, and hit the alert bell so you can get notified when I go live. That being said, What’s up ego hackers? I’m CS Joseph here to answer your questions regarding union analytical psychology, or the four sides of the mind and the source of today’s questions. Question.
How can you tell if an INFP doesn’t like you? Well, it’s on Quora. So let’s take a look. All right. We have 26 answers a lot answers.
I wonder if they have very large books? Let’s find out. Oh, there it is. I’ll first first thing about the book cat Kelly INFP artists. As an INFP.
I have grappled long and hard with a whole challenge of disliking someone, while at the same time knowing exactly why I don’t like that person. As an intuitive person. I might just feel something about the person or be able to size them up based on the interaction and then forever feel put off. Okay.
Is this like a vibe thing? Okay, they’re doing a lot of effort to explain something that Okay, now, no. All right. Or Alyssa starflower. Disclaimer, this answer doesn’t necessarily apply to all inf peas.
I am one INFP in a world of INFP. So if you don’t relate to this, every INFP is different. Okay. There’s another book.
Gosh, I’m not gonna read all this. This is like, I’m sure there’s really valuable information here. Least I hope there is. So yeah.
Generally, inf peas don’t dislike people too much. They just aren’t interested in making new close friends. You find them space here than usual, constantly detached from conversations and we’re finding excuses more often as to not why they can’t hang out. They likely do not wish to pursue friendship right now.
There’s nothing against it. They just have a few close friends and are good. If an INFP legitimately doesn’t like you, they will avoid you. Which likely is because you’re either rude mean judgmental, or too touchy feely.
Not exactly accurate. But the spirit in which that’s mentioned is kind of accurate. So that’s fine. All right, we have Lee hom, who claims to be an MBTI an INFP.
And we have another book written here. So fair enough. That’s cool. Also, INFJs are highly intuitive.
So if you don’t like someone that nine times out of 10 is for an extremely good reason. Okay. What is being intuitive have to do with extremely good reason. I don’t understand that.
Then we have Wendy mon core. You’ve been ghosted. That’s, this is the best comment here. Thank you, Wendy.
That’s amazing. Christopher Clark, MBTI Enneagram. Ocean enthusiast. Okay.
It can be subtle, but not as subtle as an INFP as you wish it to be. Okay. Sure. disliking someone can be subtle.
That’s technically accurate, but kind of general hashtag Barnum effect, maybe I don’t know. You know, this is just, this is ridiculous. I can’t I can’t read all this. I’m sure you folks could go to the specific core page and like, find out for yourself.
But I’m just going to provide my answer. So how can you tell if an INFP doesn’t like you? It’s when they’re like insanely indifferent to you, basically, I mean, are they? Are they giving you attention? Or are they not giving you attention, it really comes down to that. So integrated sensors, all interrupt sensors, know when to leverage their attention towards other people or not to leverage their attention towards other people. This is very consistent.
This is very normal for people. And the reason why it’s because expert sensors need the attention provided by introverted sensors, it’s, it’s a really big deal. And so based on that, like even me, being an SI inferior railguns biggest need my wife, she’s extroverted sensing hero, and she really is constantly trying to get my attention at all times. And my si inferior is like, No, I’m going to spend my attention on things that I want to spend it on.
And then every now and then, you know, I’ll share my attention, you know, with you, or sometimes I won’t, because I’m busy being responsible and you know, working all the time or not working all the time. But regardless, like her need as an ESTP is attention and all extroverted sensors need attention, especially INFJs. They need attention the most to the point that sometimes they even force attention away to and all extroverted sensors, in some cases actually force attention with the exception of maybe an extroverted sensing parent, but be that as it may, because an INFP is very interest based. They are knowing what they get out of certain situations versus what you are getting out of certain situations.
So they know that when they’re giving someone their attention, that’s what they’re getting out of it. So what they end up doing is if they don’t like somebody, they withhold that attention entirely. Just like me i also withhold my attention entirely from people especially like for example I N J’s because it’s like, why am I giving you my attention? You’re being dismissed. vectors Get Get out of my life or, or you know, I’ve said that too many an INFJ in my life.
And then also sometimes they get like super upset that it’s like I’m not giving them enough attention. But oftentimes inf peas, you know end up having that issue as well. It’s even to the point where inf peas have been unfairly maybe they’ve been fairly but for the most part, I think because of how sensitive inf j’s are, when they’re like in relationships, or friends or friendships that INFJs those inf J’s especially INTJ is they actually end up shaming the INFP on fairly because the INFP is not giving them the attention that the INTJ for example feels entitled to. And that is a problem.
That’s not to say that like an ESTP can’t be entitled from wanting attention either. Because ENFP super ego can definitely come out of there. And then the ESTP can definitely feel entitled to like an INFP or even even TP in my case to an INFP is attention, right. So this is really where NFP or NPS in general actually end up holding a lot of power when it comes to extroverted sensors that they have, you know, friendship.
Now the expert sensors hold power towards the MPs because as they have the ability to choose, they have the ability to desire, a friendship or a relationship or a sexual intimacy with an NP like inf peas, for example. And they can leverage that freedom of choice. However, when it comes to attention, and peace, especially INFP is because of how interest base they are, and how sensitive they are, they really can leverage that attention. And if they don’t like you, they’re not going to give you any attention whatsoever.
And this comes out in terms of like ghosting, for example, they will ghost people, they will be completely indifferent, they will ignore or pretend the person doesn’t even exist, right? It’s because Oh, you’re not getting any of my attention. You’re not worth it to me to have any of my intention. It’s not like you even want me either. And it’s not like you’ve proven to me that you want me.
And you’re just going to shame me, for me giving you attention even though I don’t feel you actually deserve having my attention to begin with. So I’m just going to teach you a lesson by ghosting you and making sure that I have nothing to do with you. And I’m just going to basically ignore you. That is the main sign that an INFP does not like you the main sign is is that they are just ignoring you pretending you don’t exist effectively ghosting you, you aren’t a real person to them.
Now that can come off, you know from an INFP that can come off like they’re super narcissistic, or even sociopathic or really insanely selfish when they’re doing it. But in reality, that’s not actually what’s happening. They’re just avoiding conflict. They don’t want to have a physical or overt confrontation, they want to keep the confrontation covert.
And this is why they prefer to have this passive aggressive approach when it comes to ghosting or ignoring people or telling people to you know, you know, in some cases, like, it’s all about hints, you know. But again, it’s all about them being ignoring and ghosting and pretending like you don’t exist, that’s the first sign. The next sign after that, I would have to say is when they start talking smack or talking mess about you behind your back. A lot of people don’t realize inf peas do this, but it’s part of their treasury vise.
And INFPs and ENFPs do this as well. But they end up saying things that aren’t actually true, or they have these little beliefs that are unverified by their ti demon, for example. And they ti demon other people by saying actual untrue things to other people about a particular person that they don’t like. And they slowly over time end up creating a narrative about somebody which causes other people to either abandon or no longer wants or no longer be loyal to a particular person that they have a problem with, because they want that person to be disempowered when it comes to the social situation.
And INFP in some cases ends up feeling like they have no choice but to talk badly about someone behind their back ahead of time because their Extraverted intuition is telling the INFP that this other person that they don’t like is eventually going to publicly shame them. So the INFP has to work hard by dropping little seeds with other people around them in a social situation to make it look like that person is not credible so that when that person attempts to shame the INFP everybody around them because of the rumor mill because of the potential ti demon lies that the INFP is telling about that person to these other people off the person that they don’t like that that person when they finally shame the INFP publicly, they have no credibility and thus everyone around them no doesn’t even believe them because the INFP is already in muddied the waters, or poisoned, or poison the lake, etc. And that’s, that’s, that’s what happens. It happens all the time.
So if you hear rumors about yourself, look for the NFP in the room, chances are or the INFP basically, because they’re likely coming from them more than anyone. And it’s so funny like I have people who criticize me all the time and often end up having inf peas coming to me and it’s like, Oh, your credibility, this your credibility that and I’m like, I don’t care about credibility, I only care about the facts. And then they actually take the time to actually listen to me. And, you know, go to the source per se, you know.
So the reverse is also true is my point i ENFPs can be used by other people that don’t like you. And the INFP, if they’re loyal to that person will actually create the rumor mill on behalf of the other person as well. And that’s another sign that they don’t like you. Also, other than just straight up avoidance, passive aggression, et cetera, creating rumors and destroying your credibility from behind the scenes.
That’s usually the most telltale signs at nine if he doesn’t like you. But you know, when they’re in situations where they’re where you’re working with them, where they’re forced to be around you, like you can expect that rumor mill thing is going to happen, because it’s not because they are being forced against their will to not ghost you, they’re being forced against their will to not, they cannot pretend that you don’t exist, because they’re forced to work with you on an every single day. So then they’re just gonna destroy your credibility. So keep that in mind.
That’s just how it works. You know how they leverage their attention. So first point, how they leverage their attention, not giving you attention versus the ghosting and pretending you don’t exist. And then obviously creating a rumor mill that destroys your credibility, because they’re eventually afraid that the confrontation that you’re having with them will lead to them being publicly shamed by you.
So they’re going to destroy your credibility, because they could see it happening with expert intuition and to prevent that outcome. Because they are triple outcome focused. They will plant the seeds and other people to make sure that it doesn’t matter what you say, no one’s gonna believe you to begin with. So that’s how you can tell if INFP doesn’t like you.
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