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Welcome to C.S. Joseph Responds. I’m your host, Chase, here to answer your questions on any topic Jungian Analytical Psychology or Four Sides Dynamics. Today’s question is: does talking too much turn off an ENFJ male? And let’s take a look at where this comes from. It comes from Quora. Does talking too much turn off an ENFJ male? And as near as I can tell, it seems like no one answered this question, so, we’re going to answer this question. So, ENFJ males are, the most ideal type for them to be in a relationship with are INFPs, also that’s their golden pair. Their silver pair is ENFPs. Their bronze pair is ISTJ. Basically, those three types. And their pedagogue relationship is INTP. These will be the four relationships that I would recommend them having. Now, if you notice something about three of those four types, that they’re all informative. Informative is, basically, when someone’s talking, they allow other people to choose their role in the conversation, they beat around the bush, it’d kind of like, you know, I use the milk example all the time on my other YouTube channel. The milk example is basically, you know, you go to the fridge, you open the fridge and you notice that there’s no milk in there. And then you say, “Hey, go get us some milk.” That’s being direct, right? Or informative, an informative person would just make the statement “Hey, we’re out of milk.” Basically hoping that the other person would volunteer to go get the milk, and that’s very informative, right? Well, interestingly enough, three of those four compatible types with the ENFJ are informative. And informative people have this thing where they could just go on, and on, and on, and on, and just never stop talking, especially when it comes to INPs, which those INP types have the highest sexual compatibility with ENFJs. So quite frankly, the more you talk, the better. It’s funny because, like, especially, like, when you’re in a relationship with an INFP, all of a sudden, or even when you’re not in a relationship with an INFP and they like you and you are their crush, they’ll text you, probably, 180 times before you respond once. I’m not even kidding. They’ll write you these huge, huge text letters on Facebook Messenger, or Discord app, or SMS texting, it just goes on, and on, and on, and on, and on, and on, and on, and on, and on. But ENFJs, especially ENFJ males, they like being the smartest man in the room because they’re introverted thinking inferior. They are afraid of being incorrect. They are afraid of other people not valuing their thoughts. They are afraid of being stupid. They are afraid of being incorrect. So when you have an INP, or an ENP, or an ENFP, or an NFP-type constantly throwing all of these words at this ENFJ, the ENFJ’s like, “Ooh, I get this opportunity to think about “like, literally everything they’re telling me, “they’re giving me all this unlimited input, “and I can think about it, and they’re gonna listen “to everything I say. “Oh, I love being listened to.” Because the INF is going to, basically, listen to them, and they’re gonna also listen to the INFP, and that way the INFP is not afraid of other people, especially the ENFJ, thinking poorly of them, because the INFP can’t suffer their status being reduced in any way, shape, or form, because they are afraid of people thinking less of them, just like an ENFJ is afraid that they’re stupid, basically. That’s why the most hurtful thing you could ever do to an ENFJ, especially an ENFJ male, is to tell them that they’re stupid. And then do it publicly, for example, right? That would be very rough on an ENFJ. And an ENFJ male, they are prebuilt for these golden pair relationships, or these people, such that, that they often project other people, trying to get other people to behave like their golden pair INFPs, because they are so desperately seeking for somebody, that they can, that they will give them all of that attention, because anyone who is taking the time to send them hundreds of messages on instant messenger and what not, is going to make them feel really valued. They’re gonna feel intelligent, right? and then it’s like, “Wow! I must really be giving this person “a really good experience,” you know, so, “and they must really really value my advice, “and I can advise them, “and they’re giving me this opportunity “to advise them here,” you know, and then it just makes the ENFJ hornier and hornier as time goes on. But yeah, I mean that’s, literally, how it works. Does talking too much turn off an ENFJ male? Absolutely, hell no. It actually turns them on, the more you talk, the more you include them, the more you factor them in, it’s like, literally, every little detail of your life, ’cause they wanna know about it, for some reason, but they just do, then they will, they won’t, they’ll stop worrying about their self worth, they’ll stop being afraid that they’re not actually intelligent, and then they’ll actually, you know, just like, “Wow, this person really values my thoughts.” It’s just, it’s a huge turn on for them, they’re gonna absolutely love it, and they will always want you such that they’re just not going to let go of you, basically. So, there you have it. Does talking too much turn off an ENFJ male? No. No, it doesn’t. And please, continue to talk as much as possible, because they’ll just love it, and if they don’t like it, well then, they’re not an ENFJ male, and you made the mistake of mistyping them. If you have a problem with mistyping, I highly recommend that you get the type grid and learn how to type people appropriately, you can do that at http://www.cfjoseph.life/typegrid.com. Anyway, I hope you found this video helpful for you folks today. Please subscribe to the channel, leave a like and a comment. If you have any questions or comments about ENFJs, or potentially, INFPs below, I read every comment. I may not respond, but I personally read every comment. So, anyway folks, that being said, I’ll see you guys tonight.