Season 17, Episode 15 Transcript
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Hey guys, it says Joseph with CS Joseph dot life doing another episode for season 17, just a couple episodes left for season 17. And specifically, we’re going to be talking about trauma and how trauma affects the sort of affects the four sides of the mind. And how that works out tonight is a live lecture, because we’ve been basically saving season 17 for the live lectures for some reason. And, and as always, with live lectures, there’s going to be a q&a session at the end, we also got a little bit of an extra resource to check out to discuss traumatic events, etc, and how it generally affects the four sides of the mind.
A little bit of whiteboard in here as well. But yeah, thank you all for joining. And if you guys have any questions, I may answer it in the live chat. Or I may also just you guys could just save for q&a at the end.
This episode will be made available soon as it’s done to the public, etc. But anyway, before we can actually talk about specific kinds of trauma and the four sides of the mind, etcetera, let’s actually talk about why we’re talking about this and then talk about the how, like, how does this actually work, etc. So why we’re talking about this is that season 17, we’ve been discussing with each of the four sides of the mind, the ego, the subconscious, the unconscious, the super ego, etc. And we’ve also been looking at how it manifests.
What are some of the bad things people do, or how deep they get within their sin, nature, etc. To that point, when it comes to the four sides of the mind, we’ve also been looking into how children it manifests in children and when they manifest and different life stages that people go through. And everyone goes through. Like, for example, we’ve been talking about quarter life crisis, midlife crisis, three quarter life crisis, final life crisis, the four stages of life, four different crises that occur as a result of people living.
And it’s usually because a person has been ignoring a certain side of their mind, or it hasn’t exactly been developed enough, and they haven’t really been doing a fulfilled, or a fulfilling life, etc. And that’s typically, that’s typically what we’ve been discussing so far. But when you’re looking at it from the trauma discussion comes in, when you’re talking about extenuating circumstances. And this is really necessary, because we’re going to be ending season 17 with something a little bit special.
And I’m going to be doing more of a deep dive, I haven’t decided if I’m just going to put it the season 18. But I think I’m actually going to keep it in season 17 Like it’s currently planned, I’m actually going to be going in really deep on Shadow focus, and also subconscious focus, so that people can understand how cognitive focus works. So we’re going to actually look at in the mechanics of that, how it happens, etc. But in order to even begin that discussion, we have to really discuss the extenuating circumstances, also known as human nurture, that impacts human nature, which is basically the four sides of the mind, and how someone would effectively change over time.
But really, we’re looking at like the, you know, why is this happening? And then we’re looking at to, you know, what is happening, and then the how it’s happening is going to be Moore’s for that discussion. So after this episode, I believe this is Episode 14, or 15 of season 17. If someone in the live chat can remind me which episode number we’re in, because for some reason, I was looking at my content delivery plan. And I think I did an extra episode than I had intended last last month, mostly because I had to provide additional clarification.
But for this particular episode, like I said, you know, trauma is an example of an extenuating circumstance that impacts human nature, therefore, it is a foreign human nurture, we need to explore different kinds of trauma. And then you guys could see like different kinds of trauma would put people into different sides of the mind or at least create cognitive focus, et cetera, potentially. There’s also additional principles that we have to keep track of how brain chemistry changes how the brain we rewires itself in various certain circumstances to get through or deal with trauma in life and how that can have to direct impact on one’s persona, etc. That could be anywhere from drug use or abuse, divorce, even war, post traumatic stress disorder, also known as shell shock, etc.
There’s tons of different applications in this area. Okay, so this is Episode 16, apparently. Great. Thanks for the heads up on that.
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So anyway, had to get through that. But yeah, let’s let’s let’s talk about what we’re supposed to talk about here. And that is trauma. So remember, folks we’ve been discussing, let me get my whiteboard here, actually.
So and according to er, this is season 17, episode 16. And we’re gonna put that up here. And gosh, I hope he’s correct. Or this could be really embarrassing.
Photos episode 15 For some reason, anyway, and then how trauma impacts or effects, the SE impacts, it’s kind of a better rank the four sides awesome. And I’m going to draw a brain here for visual experience. Alright, so let me get my camera set up here. And where you are now off to the races.
Awesome. Okay. So we have the four sides of the mind. Okay.
Then we have the ego, the subconscious oops the unconscious and the super ego. Okay. So, basic four sides of the mind. Awesome.
We have them here. But the issue that we’re coming to that we’re trying to basically make everyone knows that don’t forget, this is still considered nature. Okay, so this is nature. But what impacts this what impacts the human nature at this point? Well, there’s a lot that impacts that you also have nurture as well.
All impacting it. So gonna put nature here and nurture there. And so obviously, we know that nurture plays a big role in personality. And like I said previously, you know, just for a little bit of review, the human mind is basically a Venn diagram, which is like this, it’s two circles like this, and you have nature and you have nurture, and then you have a human in the center, right.
And this basically creates a human being right? Obviously, there’s still the, the environmental thing below it to the circle underneath it for environment. And then there’s also spirituality for the circle above it, etc, which actually, it’s like a four circle Venn diagram. But we’re just going to use nature versus nurture here. and nurture.
Nurture can come from all kinds of sources. And but nurture can be positive, it can also be negative, we’re going to be kind of focusing a little bit on the negative with this particular episode, because you know, very trauma related people are like, you know, trying to talk to me about, you know, how, you know, hey, I have word portion of borderline personality disorder, or this person is bipolar, or this person is narcissistic, or they’re pretty high on dark triad, etc. I really want to get this audience to just get away from those kinds of labels and understand that that’s not really what we’re trying to do. I would rather I would rather get us closer to root cause analysis of a particular situation.
I was actually coaching someone earlier today. And they were kind of like, a little bit astonished when I actually got, you know, we did a root cause analysis on the kinds of traumas that they were facing in their life, and identify the specific trauma that basically effectively put them over the edge. And they’re like, wait a minute, how did you know about that? And I’m like, I just know, it’s just logic. And I’ve Extraverted Intuition hero.
I mean, come on, you know what I’m saying. But the point is, is that I was able to identify the specific trauma that he was dealing with that was causing some of his poor behavior, as well as some of his poor experience within his life, because he’s in the middle, or he’s like in the process, he’s in the middle of middle of quarterlife crisis effectively. And we created an action plan to help them get out of quarterlife crisis. And, you know, this is this is necessary, but in order to actually be able to create any kind of action plan for yourself or for others, to be able to provide advice in this particular situation, you really have to understand the root causes of you know, what the problem, and oftentimes, you know, as much as people spend so much time looking at everyone’s, you know, individual six, one of the 16 types, you know, what are the four sides of the mind, say, with a cognitive functions, and then all the sudden incomes, guess what, you know, you guessed it, incomes, the magic rainbow, the magic rainbow known as stereotypes.
And these stereotypes are constantly utilized by everybody within the MBTI blogosphere to either describe somebody of a certain nature or describe a cognitive function or describe one of the 16 types. And they end up just labeling people instead of actually caring enough to figure out what the actual problem that’s going on. And it’s because, you know, they’re not, they’re not delving into, you know, potential science and studies, they’re not delving into philosophy. They’re not delving into what makes you know, what makes a man or what makes a woman what’s the mature masculine, mature, feminine, they’re not looking at King warrior magician lover like we do, they’re not looking at Queen, Mother matron, a lover as we as we, as we do.
And this is, this is a serious problem. And, you know, based on that, I have to, I have to stress that, you know, quite frankly, the MBTI blogosphere or the MBTI community, or anyone that cares about union analytical psychology, there’s so nature centric, that they almost completely ignored, nurture, and how nurture impacts the four sides of the mind, or how nurture impacts nature, such that the stereotypes and that becoming these giant ass excuses that everyone relies on to explain their behavior. How many times have you guys like, come into contact with people who are using their type as like a crutch, you know, to explain their behavior or just be okay. Yeah, that’s my behavior.
And it’s like, okay, well, hold on, though. Is that an immature behavior? Or is that immature behavior? are you behaving that way? Because you’re developed? are you behaving that way? Because you’re mature, like, what? What is it? And can you and you know, and here’s the thing though, like, if even if I labeled somebody immature, because I believe their behaviors are immature, but if they take the time to explain why they’re behaving that way, and then I realized, well, that’s actually a mature point of view. I changed my point of view, and it’s like, okay, yeah, that guy’s actually being mature and I need to adjust my stereotype of his nature. We judge way too many people based on stereotypes.
This is one of the reasons why some people would rather be an INTJ than an intp, or an INFJ instead of an INFP, because stereotypes end up becoming this huge problem. And, you know, oftentimes the MBTI community is trying to use or union analytical psychology, the union community is trying to use stereotypes instead of archetypes to explain, nurture. See, that’s the problem. It’s a huge problem.
And oftentimes, we end up having stereotyping becoming the master of the situation instead of you know, actually figuring out what the root cause of the problem. So just keep that in mind guys, stereotypes ends up becoming a serious issue that gets in the way of allowing someone to understand who they are, forgive themselves, love who they are, so that they can eventually understand forgive and love other people. Stereotypes are inhibiting people from having really good relationships with each other. But of course, the social moratorium of the internet actually provides an opportunity for stereotypes to be utilized on a regular basis.
And again, this creates nothing more than ignorance. It also creates hurt feelings. It also, you know, we end up communicating and labels instead of actually understanding because we’re outsourcing our thinking, we’re outsourcing our understanding to the stereotypes instead of actually figuring out what’s going on. Which means as much as human beings tried to claim they understand human nature, which they may they really have no idea what human nurture is, because they’re often trying to explain human nurture through stereotypes, because it’s like, okay, this particular type typically behaves like this.
And okay, you know, it’s kind of like, you know, talking about how, you know, there’s, there’s, like, there’s a stereotype of INFJ is and how INFJ is the most likely of all types to be cheating hoes, you know, for example. Well, that’s a huge stereotype. Although that stereotypes you know, like ESTP is with their Nymphomaniac, Vyas could easily challenge that you and I’m saying, so again, stereotyping is a serious issue. And, you know, this is why because this is the result that we get, we end up Miss judging people.
And in fact, the MBTI community and youngins are also guilty of mistyping people because of stereotypes, right? So the point is, is that, you know, in order to really understand human nurture, to come to a fundamental understanding of human nurture, you have to actually abandon all the stereotypes, you have to abandon them completely. Now, stereotypes could be like landmarks, or these things that may point to certain things. But again, you have to keep stereotypes in the area of correlation, not causation. And that’s the problem.
Ultimately, the best way I could describe it, when it comes to stereotypes when it comes to Union analytical psychology, is that people often are typing others via stereotypes. And based on that, you know, they they end up creating ignorance, they end up creating a causation or a confirmation bias, okay, because of that, for example, I was recently on the Benjamin Sadiq Saitek. I don’t know how to say his surname, I was on a show recently. And I he typed me as an ENFP, even though he wouldn’t admit it, which is similar to like, you know, the flow state typing away, everyone claims I’m an ENFP.
And, but then they also had people in their comment section claiming that I was an ESF J. And it’s just and you could see in the comments, they’re just relying on these heavy stereotypes and not actually understanding they’re not taking into account cognitive transition, they’re not taking into account cognitive focus, there is a huge disconnect between what these what these armchair type apologists or typists or armchair psychologists, in the comments of this channel are actually doing and, you know, that’s pretty sad. You know, it is what it is. I mean, I totally get that.
But, you know, then again, you know, it’s I can’t stop that I can’t stop people from using stereotypes, but stereotypes are very easy, right? And, you know, like, I, I have a lot of trauma in my life and as much as any human being has trauma in life, but we need to make sure that we’re not utilizing stereotypes as a way to type somebody because it’s ignoring how trauma or nurture has impacted their nature. And one of the ways that we could like you know, one of the ways that we can measure this is looking at okay, is this person calling and transitioning right now, is this person having a form of are they cognitive focused like is that where is their cognitive focus? What four sides of the mind, do they favor the most? in a social situation, or when they’re alone, you know, because, for example, you know how, you know, some people prefer to eat with a spoon, or sometimes people prefer to eat with a fork. And in certain situation, you actually can use one of the four sides of the mind, to be the preferred go to side of the mind to handle a particular task or a particular situation. And that is a sub form of cognitive focus.
Right now, people can be cognitive focus, generally. But you can also utilize cognitive focus for specific tasks, tasks or obstacles in life. And that’s when things can get really, really tricky. This is why you know, the MBTI letter dichotomies are absolutely a waste of time because the MBTI letter dichotomies, quite frankly, are nothing more than typing people via stereotypes.
It’s an absolute waste of time. Why would you do it? You know what I’m saying? So don’t do it. There’s no point. So So yes, yes, I’m harping on stereotypes here.
But I just I need to lay down this foundation. So you guys understand where I’m going with this. All right. So anyway, back to trauma.
So there’s a lot of different kinds of trauma, that people end up suffering in their lives. I’ve had plenty of trauma, people that I’ve coached, in my coaching practice, I have a huge amount of trauma, every human being has a different form of trauma. And not only that every single human being has, is affected differently by the same trauma, because what really, really, really bothers an INFP is not really, really, really going to bother an intp. You know what I’m saying? There’s, there’s differences.
And a lot of people don’t understand these. And they’re quick to use the stereotypes in an attempt to understand but again, the stereotypes is nothing more than lazy outsourcing of one’s thinking, instead of actually coming to an understanding, they are relying on a correlation instead of causation. So let’s talk about causation. What are some of the human Nergal causes that may cause somebody to have a different cognitive focus, or may actually call them a transition in particular times, when they’re like trying to maybe protect their ego, for example.
And it’s not really that they’re trying to protect their ego, they may be trying to protect their child function, they may be trying to protect their Inferior function, almost always as protecting their Inferior function, but every now and then they’re protecting their child function. And whether or not the parent function there is actually developed enough to do it. I actually, I mentioned earlier today, but I’ll mention it here. Again, the if the parent function is underdeveloped, what defends the infant what defends the Inferior function, obviously, the parent function is supposed to be there for the child function, but it’s the parent function is not there for the child, the hero can actually be there for the child, which is cool.
It’s nice. Obviously, it’s the parents responsibility, but sometimes the parent the when the parents not not home, that heroes kind of left to take over. And you all you’ve all seen those, you know, those movies like like John Cena, or Arnold Schwarzenegger, becoming a babysitter in the parents not home, you know what I’m saying? It’s that entire motif, that’s that entire trope or archetype when it comes to, you know, media, or movies or stories that we tell it’s the same kind of story being told, you know, kindergarten or COP, you know, what I’m saying? It’s the same. It’s the same approach, right? These big strong heroes, all of a sudden, are put in charge of children, and they just kind of don’t know what to do.
But somehow they get through it, you know, I’m saying it’s the parents job, it’s not the job of the hero. But when the parents not home, the hero protects the child function. But what protects the infant, you think the hero is going to protect the infant, the infant’s on an axis with the hero? Well, that’s not going to happen, that’s really not going to happen at all. So what ends up happening is something different.
I know we haven’t talked about cognitive orbit officially, but I’ll be talking about it more in depth in season 18. But an example of cognitive orbit in this case is that the cognitive axis is unavailable because it’s working on the child if the parent is not available to protect the infant who else is available to protect the infant Well, the cognitive orbit of the infant and guess what folks that’s the demon function that’s why when the Inferior function is hid, nine times out of 10 people respond with the full fury of their demon to protect their Inferior function right and that usually comes as a result of trauma trauma because the parent function is not there to help a person’s mind actually combat the trauma and just like an I fully developed adult would because when your cognitive looping you know a court like just like how Dave superpowers calls them jumpers, but when your cognitive looping meaning your your parent function is To underdeveloped, your parent function is underdeveloped in that particular time. And you know, the hero is there with the child and doing all sorts of things. It’s kind of like how, you know, like with an intp it’s that like, oh, it’s true that I want to experience this.
It’s true. I want to taste this it’s true. I want to watch this It’s true I want to binge this true this it’s true that and they ended up becoming hedonists. You know, I NPS when their cognitive looping become hedonists.
They’re very hedonistic. Compared to other I NPS. What happens when trauma comes? What happens to their nature, when trauma comes? Well, they end up the parents not there to deal with that trauma, basically, because the parent is responsible, the hero and then so it’s like the hero’s job, okay, hero, are you going to be able to handle this, this new obstacle in life? Are you going to be able to handle this trauma? Well, the hero may or may not be able to deal with it. And nine times out of 10 at the parent function is not there, the hero was distracted with having the care for the child.
And they’re not gonna be able to handle it while the hero strike to the child and they take care of the infant and ain’t taking care of the the Inferior function. So who’s taking care of the Inferior function? Well, guess what, folks? The demon, the demon ends up taking care of the infant. It’s the demonic infant, it’s a cognitive orbit, right? This is why when the Inferior function gets hit, it creates hatred and other people. And that is stopped or prevented through two ways.
One having the parent function developed so the parent can also take a take care of the infant. Or if the parent function is not able to take care of the infant, the infant is able to grow into its aspirational form via cognitive transition. And they and this person is strong enough to be able to call in a transition into their subconscious to be able to deal with the traumatic event. You see what I’m saying? Okay, and when they’re able to deal with that traumatic event, they don’t have to rely on their demon function anymore.
You see, so generating hatred and using your demon function. If you’re going into your super ego often it chances are you’re at an early age or chances are you have yet to get through your quarter life crisis, chances are you have not developed your parent function yet, chances are you have no concept of personal responsibility. Chances are your subconscious is super underdeveloped, you know, and just like what we’re learning in, in the parenting season right now, which is season 23. And the next episode for season 23 drops on Thursday, it’s already filmed ready to go.
It’s nice, it’s how to parent is TJs. For example, you will learn awesome parenting techniques that apply not just to ESP J’s, but to like everybody, for example. But you will understand that, you know, parenting is absolutely critical. If you’re supposed to in adolescence, you’re supposed to develop your parent function.
But you know how many people in adolescence actually develop a sense of personal responsibility to the parent function, it just doesn’t happen. That’s why they have like a second adolescence or a sub adolescence, I guess, that ends up happening. And that’s why men, for example, statistically developed their parent function when they’re 2728 years old. So if between 25 and 28 years old, that’s when their parent function becomes developed, basically, now, it used to be that it was developed during adolescence, but not anymore, not in this culture, not since families and the nuclear family has outsourced the raising of their children to the state or outsource the raising of children to the government, right or to other people.
Usually, it’s because both adults in the family have to work in order to earn money because the dollar has lost at least 93% of its value. Since the inception of the Federal Reserve, which has completely destroyed the family’s ability to make any money. Inflation is insanely high. You can’t buy as much food as you used to be able to buy with the dollar.
You can’t pay as much rent as you used to with with the dollar. Therefore you cannot raise a family with one person with one adult bringing in money it used to be able to like in the 1950s, you basically could do that. You could do that. Yeah, you into a point in the 1960s.
Things started going really down when the Vietnam War happened basically, when, just after JFK was assassinated, that’s when things started going down for the family. That’s when the buying power went down. And that’s when the destruction the true destruction of the nuclear family started to actually occur, because parents are forced to work and outsource their parenting to other people and the state and the government. And now there’s this huge divide, you know, between parents and children because how parents were taught in school when they’re kids is not how their children are being taught in school, and they are becoming even more reliant on the state and the government for parenting of children as a result.
That’s just a small little preview of what we’re talking about in season 23. We go like super deep on all of the and on all of these 16 types in there, and we already have the introduction to that season right now. But this is, you know, pretty, pretty necessary, et cetera. And yes has left says yes, the internet, that’s also it’s also something there, you know, as well.
But going further, going a lot further. So, knowing this, how is it possible that parents are able to like even parent their children appropriately in this particular situation? Well, it’s, they really can’t, we have this problem of stereotypes, we don’t understand how different traumas are affecting the mind, we know that the parent function is supposed to be there specifically, to help people get through trauma in their lives when it’s not, then nurture ends up taking a different course. And here’s the thing, let’s say your parent function is not developed. Let’s say your hero is looping with a child because you’re a jumper.
That’s not actually like a real term. But fair enough, you know. The objective personality people they describe it as a jumper, but all it is is just underdeveloped parent function, they haven’t gone through quarter life crisis, that’s all there is to it. And when they finished quarterlife crisis, they have the auxiliary function developed, they had the parent function developed to at least combat nurture, and hopefully they have their Inferior function develop.
But wait a minute, where does the Inferior function get its development, it actually gets it development from its family, it gets us development, it’s supposed to get its development from early early childhood, because remember, the order with which the functions develop, folks, the hero function is first, followed by the child function. Why? Because the hero is the strongest optimistic function, the child is the second strongest optimistic function within the ego. The third function to develop is the Inferior function. Why? Because it’s on an axis with the hero.
And it is a pessimistic function, although it’s the lower the pessimistic functions, but that’s how it is first, it’s because it’s on an axis the hero, therefore, the parent function develops forth in the mind. Okay. And the parent function is supposed to develop in adolescence, but it doesn’t. Well, what develops the if it develops in adolescence, then the Inferior function technically would have to develop before the parent function.
Really interesting, huh? Now, tell me, tell me if the family within Western society is conducive to the Inferior function developing, right? If it’s conducive to the Inferior function developing in early childhood, because that’s when it’s supposed to develop. It’s supposed to develop in early childhood, your family, your parents are supposed to be aware of your Inferior function, such that they should be pushing you to develop your Inferior function more than anything else in your life. They’re not even supposed to be teaching you personal responsibility. That doesn’t happen until adolescence.
So before adolescence, you learn you should be developing and doing nothing but focusing on your Inferior function. This is why children present as their subconscious until adolescence. This is literally why okay. But a lot of people don’t get that a lot of people don’t under don’t understand that.
And that’s, it just continues to be an issue, you know. So how do you deal with trauma? Because when you look at Western society, people’s Inferior functions are underdeveloped. And if they Inferior function as well developed in childhood, guess what? No midlife crisis? You think Taylor Swift is going to have a midlife crisis? Not really. Because she’s developed she she developed her Inferior function with a supportive family before she was even 10 years old.
Do you guys understand that? Do you guys get that? So it’s just that she didn’t she was not able to finish developing her parent function in adolescence because her parents let her get away with a lot because she was like this big singer. You see what I’m saying? So that’s an issue. Yes, well, that also makes an argument live because left says quote, shit, I wonder if my growth was stunted by my parents who have no Fe and you know, Lev is an ES TJ, he’s an FYI user. Good point.
Well, look at it. Look at it this way. As a lot of lag on the audio, I’m sorry, guys. Is that how it is with everybody? Is the audio lag and for everyone? Not on your end? Okay, cool.
Hit refresh. Hopefully, it’s, it’s okay. That happens again. We’ll try to fix that for future just guys keeping it keep me an idea.
Keep that at an eye on that for me. Try not to lose my train of thought because it’s just so much to get out with this particular thing. So, you know, in Western society, the Inferior function and the parent function is not developed for its time. And this is why we have quarterlife crisis is why we have midlife crisis.
And and this is where your brain creates these crises to force you to develop. We talked about this in season 23, consistently and go even deeper. But the point is the point is, I’m thank you all for confirming that for me, I appreciate that. The point is, is that when you’re understanding trauma, and how it affects your nature, your nurture, if you are underdeveloped guess what’s going to happen.
Recently, in the Ruby conferences, we talked about how to rewire your brain, every time you cognitive transition, every time you use cognitive orbit every time using your cognitive axes, every time, your cognitive looping all these different techniques that’s happening in your brain at all times. It creates and builds bridges inside of your brain, which ends up creating, you know, neural pathways right within your brain. And it can, and it makes your brain stronger and more capable over time. It’s effectively growing, right? Your brain is growing, and you’re developing your brain more and using more of your brain capacity over time.
Right. Okay, well, then, you know, that’s how it is. But here’s the problem. If you are in the abusing, because you are lacking in parent, or Inferior function development as a result of your childhood and your adolescence and you missed out on all that.
And then all of a sudden you start having the trauma of life. Well guess what happens? you’re predisposed to using the power of your super ego to solve your problems. you’re predisposed to be using a hero child cognitive loop to solve your problems. And you wonder why your life sucks, right? It’s because of the lack of parental support, quite frankly.
It says why I’m so against fatherlessness folks, because fatherlessness creates ignorance, which creates you an inability to deal with trauma in life, which means you end up having your growth stunted and you’re immature. This is why, for example, in the state of California, you’re not really truly emancipated until you’re 19 years old, and people pay child support up through 19 years old, whereas other states, it’s 18. This is why Insurance Health Insurance lasts until 26 years of age, right? This is why this happens. Because our society is adapting to the fact that adolescence is being pushed more and more and more and more.
This is why you end up having man children everywhere instead of men. This is why women are consistently having to settle for lackluster men, because they don’t understand what a man is mostly because their fathers also are dealing with the same problems and their fathers are dealing with the same problems because the nuclear family has been destroyed since the 1960s. Therefore, everyone is a man child. And women just think men are weak and general and this is why men are represented in TV and media as a week more so than women.
Hashtag Star Wars. How weak was Kylo Ren compared to Ray if you think about it, even though he’s like a super hardcore emo and TP and she’s an INFJ Mary Sue, but whatever. Or you look at Jon Snow versus generis Targaryen is another example. Right? You have all these examples of weak men consistently right? The concept Okay, er says I heard that the concept of teenagers originated in the 50s.
Yeah, actually, I think that’s accurate. But we didn’t really but those those people in the 50s were having children in the 60s. And that’s when things just completely went out of whack. Right? Because and I go more about this in season 23 Talk about the generational archetypes according to which foot which of the cognitive functions is attached to which generation right? And Baby Boomers are known as the child function generation.
That’s why you have you know, Woodstock in the 60s, etc, that the child function Gen X is the inferior that’s why they’re insanely depraved. That’s why people consider Gen X Gen Xers really depraved with all those Cheetos and Doritos that they love eating all the time, for example. Oh, yeah, the droid thank you for pointing that out. Love.
But the point is, parenting ends up becoming an issue. Now. Again, I talk about this often but Chris for Ryan and Cecilia as you throw in their book there magnum opus, sex at dawn actually talks about the power of shared parental responsibility. And it used to be it used to be a long time ago in ancient times, that there was a such thing as shared parental responsibility.
The on the feminine side did have wet nursing and females would utilize what nursing as as their own form of birth control, for example, that’s documented fact look that up. A lot of people out there say that that doesn’t always work. And, yeah, okay, I could see that. But then again, you know, your breasts have to, you have to be breastfeeding for a certain amount of time in order for, you know, for you to stop like having your periods etc.
And hopefully, you’re not eating horrible foods that’s giving you hormone imbalances to begin with. But you know, back then, when there wasn’t a manufactured foods, it was a lot different. You see what I’m saying. But the point is, is that families had shared parental responsibility.
And if they didn’t have shared parental responsibility, they would still have their elders living with them and dwelling with them in their villages and their homes. So they had access to grandparents and aunts and uncles to help share and the responsibility of parenting children. And it was not all on the responsibility of the two parents that created and birth those children, right, which they don’t have enough buying power to have any time to be with their children and their children are being raised by the state instead, you see what I’m saying? So yes, millennials are the hero function. Yes.
And Gen Z is the parent function. Good luck convincing a Gen Z or of anything, there’s so pessimistic and there’s a reason for it. You know, also, don’t you think it’s interesting, speaking of generations that Jesus said that this generation will not pass until these until these things aka the end of the world come to pass. You know, a generation according the Bible is about 7080 years, and the 80th anniversary of war like the 70th anniversary of or of Israel becoming a nation just happened recently.
Really cool stuff. If you want to look into generational biblical prophecy sometime, kind of as a nice little mind bender, you know what I’m saying? Anyway, the point is, folks, you guys have to really be aware of how trauma affects nurture in this regard. Now, let’s actually 9096 is Gen Z 9096 is Gen Z, Amanda. So, but Zoomer? Okay, that’s an interesting thing.
Yes, multigenerational. Thank you start us thank you multigenerational homes was the way for generations. Yes. And actually, my wife actually brought up some statistics with me recently.
And also, like, you know, having grandparents living with you and your elders living with you. Also kind of means your teenagers aren’t going off or inviting random. Like, like, your teenage daughter is not inviting random guys to your house, when you’re out when you and your husband are out working, for example, and she’s having sex with these guys that she met on Discord, and you have no freaking clue. That’s why there’s some advantages to having elders live with you in your own home, it also helps you have more time, etc.
It’s kind of like a big deal. Yeah. You know, I hope she has something to say about that. Also, there’s such, there’s such a thing as Blue Zones, look it up.
It’s basically places in the earth where people live the longest. And people who have like, a religion and all that other stuff. But also people who have their elders living with them are, like, that’s the most common thing with people living in Blue Zones. Blue Zones mean that like, those are like nine spots in the world where people live the longest, like to like 90 or 100 is really common in those blue zones.
And they have their elders live with them all the time. I mean, it’s really stress free, free babysitting, free this free that is, why wouldn’t you do that? You know, like, it’s, why wouldn’t you? I am not against having, you know, elders live with me in my own home, like, come on, it’s a good thing. You know, and before then it used to be a very tribal shared parental responsibility where you go to tribes, and you’d ask a child and the tribes like, Hey, who’s your father? And he’s like, Well, I have all my father’s here with me, you see what I’m saying? There’s huge advantages there. And children gave the advantage of being taught by so many people, this would allow them to develop their Inferior function, their childhood, and when they hit adolescence, develop their parent functions, so that they could actually deal with trauma, but, and then thus, the human nurture would not impact their nature in such a negative way and cause a lot of negative problems.
Well, it goes on, it goes on, let’s go a little bit deeper here. So let’s get back into this. And I believe I have this. So we’re gonna go into healthline.com Because as a nice little description of traumatic events, let’s go through different traumatic events that people go through typically in their life.
Right. Well, death of a family member, that’s the most traumatic event absolutely hands on as the most tragic event. And these these things seem to be. These seem to be in like, an order of severity from most severe to last severe, although that’s really subjective.
But, and obviously each of the individual types would would, you know, have their own opinion on that, or their own experience on that or their own way of saying this. But Death of the Family, for example, divorce, divorce, is oftentimes like reduced to something that’s not as bad as other things. But divorce actually probably is the second most biggest traumatic thing that could happen to a family. Unless you’re, of course, my wife who constantly tells me that one of the greatest thing that’s ever happened to her, is her parents divorcing.
And it actually helped her out quite well. Yeah, cuz I was like, You know what, like, you guys are just louder. Oh, oh, I was like, I always saw my parents fighting. And I’m like, okay, like, you need to stop pretending that this is working.
And I was three when I said that. Hi. I’m Michael Jordan, stop it, get some help get some help. So yeah, so there’s physical pain or injury and infant’s head trauma that can go even further serious illness, war and natural disasters, terrorism, moving to a new location, which is really hard on si child and si inferior types.
Parental abandonment, which is really hard on se child and SI and se inferior types. witnessing a death. That’s extremely difficult for FY hero types. And FYI, parent types, that just really screws with their sympathies, and also embitters their lower Fe functions.
Rape is just terrifying. In all, and I don’t know why molestation is not here as well, but I guess we’ll just put that under rape, domestic abuse. Notice how divorce is rated higher than domestic abuse. That’s interesting.
Being in prison that absolutely destroys ni, child and ni inferior as well. Huge traumatic events. Well, according to this, how do people respond to traumatic events? Okay. So here’s, here’s how things happen.
irritability, right? I get pretty irritable, when I have to deal with things that are similar to issues, sudden dramatic mood changes, I do that anxiety and nervousness, I don’t really have that much of an issue with anxiety for myself, per se, and this is just the perspective of me as an intp. You know what I’m saying? Ooh, as an intp. Oh, Mr. CS Joseph.
So are you starting to like see as an intp? No, I don’t care about that. Anger. I don’t really get that much angry. But I get very vengeful, to Niall.
Not really my thing. But that’s what FYI, most si users out there deal with denial more than ti users. One of the additional arguments that I make about the fact that ti users are more authentic than si users, because that fi users are more likely to have a problem with denial than ti users. Okay.
And by the way, Mr. ESTP super ego, I saw your statements that you made recently in the members q&a channel talking about how you disagree with me that F Fi is more authentic than TI. And I think that’s just utterly ridiculous. If t if fr was not based on beliefs, because oftentimes I have witnessed F fi users more so than ti users actually changed themselves based on present company to put on a perception for present company that doesn’t exactly tell me they’re going to hang on to their values for that moment, and be honest about how they feel honest with you know, in front of others not really actually going to do that.
Which means there’s technically a higher percentage of inauthenticity than there is with a TI user. Because a TI user is more than likely to tell the truth regardless of the consequences. And therefore I have no choice but to continue to maintain that ti user is technically more authentic than an FYI user. Sorry, it just is what it is bro.
flashbacks or repeated memories of the event. I have those all the time. Actually, I get I have flashbacks is probably the worst thing for me personally, as an SI inferior. I have serious flashbacks all the time.
I’ll start I’ll make a random noise, or I will shake in a certain way. And my wife’s like, are you okay? I’m like, No, I’m just reliving an old memory, you know, or, or I’ll actually like, start speaking old lines of dialogue from those traumatic events as I’m reliving those traumatic events, right. Difficulty concentrating as their diet that really destroys se users and that altered sleeping or insomnia. I have a problem with that changes in appetite.
My wife has issues with that I don’t really as much An intense fear that the traumatic event will reoccur, particularly around anniversaries of the event. Yes, I have, I have that as well. That’s why the month of February is always so hard for me because it’s like my birthday and Valentine’s Day and the anniversary of the death of my daughter in the same month. And, and it’s like back to back to back every week.
And it just absolutely screws with me, I have a lot of bad memories associated with Valentine’s Day. And I have similar rough memories associated with my birthday. And obviously, the death of my first child was also a problem, you know, and they’re not very many people know that I have that have that carry that pain with me, but I just do. And you know, and I remember, I remember Kira, that was her name, every every year on that date.
And then and then withdrawal from an isolation from day to day activities, physical symptoms of stress, such as headaches and nausea. I mean, that did happen to me one time, but not really worsening of an existing medical condition. This is actually something that my wife maintains is one of my main issues right now. Because she’s saying that the fact that I’m not able to let go some of the pain or issues in the of my past, it’s actually making my medical condition that I have worse.
And she’s saying, like, if I actually let go have that, then I’ll actually be able to, you know, reach healing. And I’ve, I’ve actually been trying, you know, some of my wife’s recommendations in that area recently. Because, you know, listening to her INFJ subconscious teach me about that. And it’s like, you know, I have no reason to not listen to her.
And it’s not like anything I’ve done before has actually helped me. So what I need to do is just actually get over myself and humble myself, and actually listen to what she’s saying, right in that particular moment. And I’ll be I’ll be to be fair, every time I followed her advice in this area, it has gotten better for me over time, I just have to get into more of a habit. But that’s the key folks habit.
For si users habit is a big deal. It’s harder for se users, si se users, when it comes to trauma, at least an SE user can get rid of all of the totems, all of the reminders of that trauma in their life, and basically effectively wipe the trauma away. But then again, because those totems are gone, the SE user can get away with not developing their parent not developing their Inferior function, and allowing trauma to repeat itself because they have all those neural pathways, the wiring of their brain already predisposed to allow for responding to trauma, and a terrible way in the future. That’s a serious problem, right? An SI user, however, they end up potentially retaining bad habits as a result of that trauma.
And it will take a lot longer to deprogram that from them from that either. But again, this is like a difference between the tortoise and the hare. So users are more closer to the hare or the rabbit. Whereas si users are closer to the tortoise, which means over time, the tortoise is actually guaranteed to eventually get over it as long as they don’t give up.
Whereas when it comes to trauma, it’s a lot harder for an SE user to do that. And they usually need the assistance of another si user, to just constantly, you know, be there and endure and persevere for them so that the SE user could basically mirror that person so that they could actually reach healing in their lives as well. Anyway, the bottom line is, these are all different fruits that end up happening as a result of trauma in your life. And these are the results of trauma happening.
And you’re not having your parent function developed or your Inferior function developed to be able to handle these problems in your life. This is where this comes from. Because guess what? Everybody has to deal with traumatic events like these everybody, but people deal with them differently. Can you make him be quiet or something? Oh, I see what you’re saying.
Oh, okay. The dog is upset that he’s missing out on the show right now. Quite frankly, I exercise. And we even gave him a new we even gave him a new nickname.
We now have nicknamed him rumpus in the living room for a while and he was fine. But then when I left the living room, he’s upset. Yeah, he gets like he has like the severe like loneliness complex sometimes, but we can’t let him out of his crate as a puppy because then he just decides to pee everywhere. And that’s not appropriate either.
And he still hasn’t figured out that ping is going outside and not inside yet. So anyway, like I said, everyone has these traumatic events. But if you have your parent your Inferior function developed, you can actually deal with them in a very healthy way. Otherwise, you’re going to have these unhealthy results.
And these unhealthy results will keep happening because you’re underdeveloped. But chances are you live in Western society, and your parents have outsourced your parenting and you’re raising to the state or to the government or to other people, right? And that aren’t your family that aren’t your tribe, essentially. And because of that, you want to know where nativism comes from. It comes from actually having families in multi generational families and traditions and everything you want to know where healthy eating comes from multi generational homes, you see what I’m saying? There’s far more advantages to having a multi generational home than not, like, it’s ridiculous to not have one, you really should consider it, okay.
But in Western society, if you don’t have your parent function or your Inferior function developed, not only will you exhibit the symptoms of being able to unhealthily cope with trauma in your life, and having negative human nurture, guess what you’re going to create patterns of repeated behaviors, where every time you have to deal with any kind of trauma, you’re going to have, you’re going to, you’re going to end up having a pattern of reacting to that trauma in these in these ways with depression, denial, anger, flashbacks, these kinds of things. Or, better yet, you’re going to become so underdeveloped, that you’re going that people that you raise the children you raise, or the people that you affect, you are going to export human nurture from yourselves and you’re gonna be nurturing people incorrectly, and they themselves are going to be recreating the same problems. You ever heard of generational sin. That’s where it comes from.
So all of the patterns of behavior that you inherited from your parents, and the coping skills you inherited from other people, especially your parents, especially your family, especially this society as a whole? Guess what? You’re going to pass it on to the next generation? Do you know why? Because you don’t know how to teach a child how to deal with adolescents, you don’t know how to teach a child to develop their inferior? You don’t know? Because you did it? Because you don’t know. And because you did not? How are they going to know therefore it becomes a continuation of nurture based generational sin that will just keep going on and on and on and on. And you can’t stop it. Unless you’re that one rare person who’s always crawling out of the muck, because guess what life sucks, get over it.
That’s just how it works. And you can either follow the beaten path that your parents laid out for you, or you can just, you know, crawl through the shit like everybody else and try to get out. You could try to actually make it work, you could try, you could actually try to develop your own parent function, you could try to develop your own Inferior function, you can recognize your responsibility as a parent to make sure you’re doing that for your children as well, all because of trauma. You see what I’m saying? All because of trauma.
And here’s the other thing, here’s an additional side effect. If you don’t do this, guess what’s going to happen, folks, guess what’s going to happen? Your child will become subconscious, focused, or unconscious focused. And they will end up preferring to be one or the other. For me, I was unconscious focused, that was for me, I’m still struggling with my subconscious focus to this very day.
Thank God, I’m married to an SE hero, thank God, I’m married to my wife, because she’s able to help me develop my Introverted Sensing inferior to try to get me into my ISFJ subconscious in a healthy way, instead of an unhealthy way, which is what I’ve been used to my entire life, you know, what I’m saying? This ends up becoming a problem, right? So the point is, like, just understand, you know, like, this happens consistently, this. These issues are problems that we have, you know, throughout life, but hey, you know, we, as a society, we should just label people with stereotypes and label them with borderline personality disorder, or narcissism or so or situs Icom. You know, it’s like psychometry, or they’re, they’re psychotic, or they’re having a psychotic break. No, you’re just a really bad parent, actually, you know, how about taking responsibility, you know, maybe using this and holding your parents responsible.
When you have developed yourself enough to actually have your parent function and your child’s function. You can’t just go up to your parents right now and be like you did this you did this, you know, hold them accountable. If you haven’t even figured out the work yourself, maybe should figure it out that work to maybe then you can have an opportunity to help your parents finish their development, besides just the responsibility of children to get your parents through three quarter life crisis anyway, hashtag maybe that’s what they get in return for having a multi generational home. Because let me tell you something folks, parents can’t get through three quarter life crisis well without having a family around them, or at least having someone around them to help them get through it.
because it’s hard, it’s rough three quarter life prices is really rough. See what I’m saying, Folks, that’s how this works. Okay? So trauma impacts the four sides of the mind, and these major ways and ends up creating unhealthy trauma habits. If people are underdeveloped in their parent function, which is supposed to be dealt with in adolescence, or and or their Inferior function, which is supposed to be developed in their early childhood, leading up to adolescence, all the years leading up to adolescence, that was their inferior development.
That’s why children present as they present as, as those and trauma. And if those are undeveloped, they create trauma habits, it creates generational sin, it makes the cycle even worse, and people are not able to get through it within their life, you know, and then we end up having all those bad trauma habits like depression, etc, becoming a serious issue. And no wonder psych wards are full. This is exactly what’s happening on a regular basis.
And instead, we want to attach these stereotypes like ATD, ADHD, BPD, bipolar disorder, all this crap that we want to label people with, instead of actually understanding who they are fundamentally, and giving them what they actually need. Don’t forget, it’s not just the responsibility of their parents or grandparents or their families or raise young people. It’s everybody’s responsibility to raise young people. Because the fact of the matter is, if you know what good you ought to do, but you don’t do it, yes, sin.
What does that mean? That means if you see someone misbehaving in a store, and they’re like, pretty young, criticize them, criticize them in front of their parents, it also be nice lesson for their parents, too, because their parents obviously don’t know what they’re doing. You know what I’m saying? Oh, but Mr. CS, Joseph, what gives you the right to judge people that way? And it’s like, it’s not about judging, it’s about helping, and you can’t help someone unless you’re willing to tell them the truth to their face. That’s just the reality of the situation.
You know what I’m saying, Folks, you just got to do that. How about you FYI, users be you know, a little bit more authentic, right? Like you claim er, and tell these people exactly how you feel about their crying, screaming children, when they’re at the store. You know what I’m saying? I can actually honestly say, my ISTJ brother in law, I listened to him yell at a woman in public because her son was misbehaving. It was amazing.
You know, you’re fighting back and tell him he was wrong. And I’m like, and then he kept going and going and going, and I’m like, That’s right. Si, si hero does not stop. It was it was an amazing thing.
Isn’t it amazing thing, folks. Anyway, the bottom line is, make sure that you yourself are going out of your way to develop your parent Inferior functions as quickly as possible. So you have the mental tools to get through trauma. So you don’t end up developing these trauma habits within the four sides of your mind.
So you’re not kind of transitioning because of trauma, that you are not having those that you’re not using your demon function or cognitive auric for those trauma, all these things that we talked about that you’re not that you’re also not believing in the stereotypes yourself, that you’re not attaching yourself this label of BPD when the reality situation is it’s just your nature is underdeveloped. That’s all it is underdeveloped nature is creating these problems, not necessarily some rando psychiatric labels, etc. You know what I’m saying? Sure, I’m sure there’s tons of rational studies and all this work going around it, but none of those things analyze human nature, they all look at human nurture. And here’s the thing, if you don’t know how to handle trauma, guess what you will become trauma to somebody else, most likely your children and then they will become a trauma and it just becomes a giant human nurture negativity pyramid scheme.
That’s literally destroying the entire race as we know it all because you were not willing to take responsibility to meet your own needs and develop your own parent function and develop your thus your personal responsibility and develop your own Inferior function. So that you can get over your insecurity so you can be a better person, folks. That’s what this means. If you want to learn more about this, we go super deep into this content and season 23 to get into season 23 Go CS Joseph dot life for slash members sign up for a gold membership.
You can start watching the first episode episode two releases this week, you’ll be all over that. Alright, so now let’s start q&a. Okay, I’m gonna take it out to q&a. And let’s go at it from there.
So anyone, anyone in the livestream chat folks, we got to about 40 people here if you have any questions relating to this particular lecture, please put it into the livestream chat and I will answer your questions. Now. Please keep it relating to this particular lecture this lecture content etc. Awesome.
Let’s see here. I want to say anything so I’m gonna drink my tea reverse social anxiety okay. Oh Sara rushing says, How do you know you’re stuck outside of your ego due to trauma? You mean calm you focus during trauma, a lot of the typing is about most of the time, but it seems like trauma can skew it. So you might not be able to be sure if your ego good.
That’s a really good question, Sarah. The thing is, is that when you’re typing somebody, you could still rely on their primary behaviors, but you want to also compare when they’re around people when they’re alone, when they’re one on one situations, when they’re an introverted situation, which is alone or two to tango, but three’s a crowd. And above that is extraversion, you want to see how they behave, you know, and then make comparisons that I’ll kind of give you you know, just spend more time with them, you’ll be able to kind of understand where they’re at. And then you won’t have to rely on stereotypes in your typing somebody.
Okay. All right. Let’s see. Next question.
We have Jennifer made, how do FYI and ti demon Express from traumatized individuals? Okay, so FYI, demon, for example, if someone is insanely traumatized, their ISFP will create a new construct a new reality for them, that they will basically live in and think that the areas of them not being wanted and not being valued, for example, not being this is like in terms of an intp or an ISFP, where they’re constantly being abandoned. Or, or an ISTP when they’re being abandoned, but then also not valued at the same time. Ti demon, you know, it depends on the type of super ego it manifests in a different way. And that could be a serious issue, right? So when this happens, like the ISFP demon, like creates this different reality, and they think that the normal rules of life no longer apply to them, basically.
And they’re free to to kind of do whatever they want, because it’s like, well, no one wants me so I’m going to do whatever I want. No one values me. So I’m just gonna do what I value that kind of that kind of reverse polarity fix. So that’s kind of what happens ti demon, it’s the same kind of thing.
It’s just backwards. Essentially, John Godinez is the pedagogue of your subconscious, the best way to develop the aspirational function and your subconscious as a whole if you are unconscious focused. I don’t know for sure, John, but I would say like if I was going to offer conjecture, I’d say yes, I think that’s pretty logical. And it makes a lot of sense.
And from my own personal experience with my wife’s INFJ subconscious, I would say that’s pretty pretty dope. shmoney is in the house. I believe my child prefers subconscious focused as an ISP ISP, how do you recommend I go to my unconscious responsibly, refer to the content presented in season 19. But you also want to make sure that you’re focusing on your critic function, because developing your critic function via cognitive orbit also helps people develop their parent function.
More on that and season 23? Season 23 answers that questions. Okay, Jared Vaughn, healthy people develop their subconscious and unconscious, relatively equally. If you’re using the label, Jared have healthy I have to say yes, but who is healthy, the label healthy is pretty subjective there. And sometimes based on like their parents, they get lucky in Western society, they get lucky with a parent that helps them develop their Inferior function.
That doesn’t mean their parent function is going to be developed in adolescence. And they still may well not be able to deal with trauma, right? Or it’s the other way around, their Inferior function got crushed, you know, in early childhood, but through adolescence, they’re able to learn personal responsibility, you know, but again, they still struggle with trauma, right? I mean, an example of this would be, you know, Taylor Swift, you know, she, she didn’t really develop personal responsibility pretty well through adolescence. And she’s having those issues to this day, just look at her music and all the people that all the men that she sleeps with, and everyone that she makes a song about, it’s just a great example of that. How do you understand if your subconscious or shadow focused, we’ll talk about that in the next season 17 episode, the next live lecture, that question is answered.
And, but But yeah, I mean, technically, if they’re really healthy, Jared, and there, they are that multigenerational influence, in terms of parenting available to them, because honestly, one parent to parents is not good enough to raise a child. It actually really does take a village you hear about it takes a village to raise a child. That’s a fact. It does.
It actually takes a village. Okay. The problem is, is that we’re so xenophobic as a race and you can Think the powers that be for that, that they’ve destroyed. Not only are they destroy the nuclear family, but they destroy the multi generational family, they destroy the tribal family, right? There’s not much we could do about that.
And it really sucks. You don’t understand. Er, it’s like I’m an ESTP. I had a silent ISTJ dad and an ENFP mother who always made sure I wasn’t bad like her ESTP dad was, it kept me using Fe child longer around her because when I use ti parent, she have an SI inferior memory for ESTP dad.
And that’s great for child. But you don’t really want to focus on developing the optimistic functions in a child. Do you want it folks developing the pessimistic ones because they’re underdeveloped because the optimistic functions are not going to be able to handle trauma by themselves. Okay, and John Modine also thanks for revealing bits pieces about your past, I know that it’s a little hard definitely helps understand you a little bit better be Well, er says Do you think this can make me subconscious focused? It can, it can make your subconscious focused in that regard.
But you know, there’s a lot of other natural factors in there. If you’ve studied the book No more Mr. Nice Guy, you might want to understand the concept of being monogamous to your mother, that may have some influence on that er, lab is in the house. Are there specific ways to parent each of the generations like the parent generation teaching the child generation? Yes, there is.
I haven’t gotten there yet. That’s basically additional episodes. That’s that’s bonus episodes of season 23. But fair enough, I will, since you asked, I will make sure that it’s actually put into the it’s actually put into the schedule for you, Mr.
Lev, later. How could trauma affect an INFJ? Well, they start cognitive looping. And they’re like, Well, I think I want this, I think I want this, I think I want this, I think I want this. And then they start making decisions based on that, regardless of the consequence that other people regardless of their freedom of choice, harming other people around them.
And then they also start alienating people because their, their decisions are socially irresponsible, and making other people around them unsafe. Basically, I think I want to have sex with this guy. And then all of a sudden you get an STD. You see what I’m saying? The INFJ way, right? That’s how trauma could affect an INFJ.
Because you know that that is a that is a trauma experience that they have as a result of their cognitive functions being underdeveloped. Okay. This is why parenting is the most important thing. That’s why fatherlessness is the most horrible thing because it’s creating and fomenting the greatest disease that has plagued our race, ignorance.
And this is why we ended up having all these problems. You know, this is why my life’s purpose is just like the final two verses of the Old Testament, you know, he will turn the hearts of fathers to their sons and the hearts of sons to their fathers who also strike the land with a curse, I highly recommend you check out Malikai chapter four, it’s very important to kind of understand that concept. And Amanda Lynn Gleason asks, What’s the best way an INFP can recover from trauma, basically, you have to learn how to do basically everything season 19 says and be confident within your own self and develop your pessimistic functions, but also develop your gateway functions. So talking about like becoming the best you gateway functions, and mastering cognitive transition and reaching cognitive integration, enlightenment, awesome, but also to become the best parent, but also to become, you know, to deal with to have all the tools to deal with trauma and become strong with your own self, you got to develop your pessimistic functions as well.
And that’s why Jennifer Meade asks, are traumatized individuals more likely to be unconscious? Focused? Not necessarily. It depends on whether or not they have their Inferior function or their parent function developed. Or if they have none of them developed, right? I didn’t have any of them developed. But I ended up shadow focused.
I’ve known someone who ended ahead do didn’t have either than developed but they ended up subconscious focus, for example, it can happen, it just really depends. There’s so many factors in there, including birth order, and the types of your parents and all that that affects your human nurture. So it’s not necessarily some binary thing. It’s like a dynamic.
Okay. Derek, l. You mentioned psychiatry, I was diagnosed with ADHD because I’m currently failing in high school due to constantly neglecting my homework. Yeah, it’s probably because your homework is anti your personality type.
I think I’m an INTJ. Would that be ni ni or SI demon? It? I mean, if you really are an INTJ, do you actually want to do that homework because it’s something you want to do? Do you actually want to achieve? Are you getting something out of achieving in school? What are you getting out of it? You see what I’m saying? Are you getting something that you actually want? If you really are an INTJ Are you being Are you being rewarded by people for high performance because that’s what an INTJ needs and you’d be rewarded for that. are high performance. Is that even happening to you? And if not, if you’re not being rewarded by high performers, chances are even forgetting it because it’s not a priority to you, therefore, because homework is not a priority to you don’t do it.
That’s not because you have ADHD. It’s just because you don’t care. And you don’t care probably because no one else around you cares that you do. And we ever thought of that.
I’m saying, all right, Aaron Baker. Hi, Chase, how would an ISTP child with muscular issues in his hands transition to cope with his disability, he greatly desires use his hands and create things because unable becomes frustrated? Well, he needs to keep practicing. There’s people who are deaf, that became the greatest composers of all times, there’s really no excuse, keep practicing, where there’s a will there’s a way and he’s as a child, you can always get through it. Sarah rushing with trial with trauma to a child from their parent had a stronger effect on children who share the same or opposing thinking function function as the parent.
I can’t say for sure, because there’s too many there’s too many dynamics at play to know for sure. Wow, the dog like really wants to be on the show right now. And he’s like, so upset that he can’t come here, you know, I’m saying. And, okay, and three acts as if one was sub focused and super ego focus in adolescence due to trauma as an adult.
By the way, guys, super ego focus generally doesn’t happen. You can reach super ego focus. If you’re already unconscious, focused, usually unconscious folk, it can happen subconscious focus, but it’s more so unconscious focus through drug use. If it’s heavy, if your unconscious focus plus have heavy depressant, drug use, or mind altering substances, you can end up developing a form of secret super ego focus the other way around with subconscious if your subconscious focused, but under heavy drug use with a bunch of stimulants, you can actually go into your super ego as well and develop the neural pathways to become slightly super ego focused, which can also be a problem.
So there’s different pathways right there to get from super ego, but it usually has a lot to do with mind altering substances, including psychotropic drugs that they give you the psychiatric ward, if you start going in there claiming you have depression you don’t I’m saying that’s still a problem. Because, you know, while those drugs may shut off certain gateways or shut off certain pathways to go to those behaviors, after a while, and your brain has kind of worked around that those drugs will create new pathways, which will still lead eventually to your super ego. It is not a permanent fix. And all those people out there that are still on Adderall for some reason, it’s like guys, it’s an amphetamine, it’s going to screw things up.
Don’t do it. It’s gonna be a huge problem. You are I’m saying, so. Yeah.
And then color of the sky, how would an EN TJ with trauma or death of the Father would act? I mean, again, that’s, that’s way too broad for me to answer. You’d have to bring in a lot more specifics than that for me to answer that specifically, because there’s no way I could answer that question and be remotely accurate. So am I folks, thanks for all of your questions. If you found this lecture, useful, helpful, educational, enlightening, please subscribe to the channel here on YouTube.
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