How can an ENTP meet Fe inferior’s needs? | CS Joseph Responds
CS Joseph responds to the Acolyte question how can an ENTP meet Fe inferior’s needs?
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Are you noting? Whatsoever your hackers Welcome to the CS Joseph podcast. Today’s question, How can an ENTP meet the FE inferior needs of an ISTP or an intp? So, for context very important context, this particular question was asked by an ISTP female. So, just you know to keep the context where it should be in relation to this particular episode. Context is King context absolute matters.
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So yeah. Extra feeling inferior is an extremely difficult thing to maintain within a sexual relationship. Me being an NTP, there’s there’s a ton there’s a ton of struggle that I would face, in in a an intrigue relationship, especially since I have Introverted Feeling trickster. And it’s really hard for me to give an extra feeling inferior, what is looking for the most, which is validation.
It wants to be liked, but knowing they liked concretely liked, especially, you know, in the eyes of an ISTP woman. And also, also, because it’s looking for acceptance. Now, while I internally can make the decision to accept the ISTP woman or the intp woman, I can give her acceptance, it’s not enough for me to say it, it’s not enough for me to know it internally. Because they don’t know it.
And the thing is, is that even if I say words, to them, talk is cheap. To them, they want me to go a little bit further. They want me to go so much further. They want me to back it up with concrete action, concrete proof.
Because from their perspective, especially, you know, and I used to be woman being a temple archetype, and you know how women often shit test men. You know, just to, you know, to test their masculinity and see if they’re, like, actually strong or whatever. It’s kind of like, loyalty checking, like, from an ESTP to a point of view. ISTPs do the same thing.
And one way that they check loyalty is to see is like, Hey, are you actually making me a priority? It’s not enough for an ENTP to just be like, hey, you know, yeah, you’re a priority for me, or Oh, yeah, I really like your Oh, yeah, I really accept you. Oh, yeah, I’m putting you above others. It’s not enough. The NTP has to prove it with concrete action.
And this is actually really, really hard to do, because it doesn’t even occur to most NTPs. I mean, if their unconscious developed, it has a higher chance of occurring to them mentally, but it usually just doesn’t occur to them at all. And from their perspective, you know, especially ENTP men. It’s just like, words are enough.
You know, my word is my bond, you know, as they say, and gotta hate that terminology. It’s always funny how it’s always ISFPs and INTJs are always the ones that say My word is my bond. And as soon as I hear that from them, it just causes me to trust them that much less weigh less. But the point is, is that how can you as knee and teepee prove to your Fe inferior woman, for example, that you are accepting that you do like them that you are prioritizing above other people, it really comes down to how much special treatment that you show really comes down to how much special treatment, you as the NTP are willing to give your ISTP.
Woman that’s really what it comes down to. That’s all it’s all about. From their perspective, it’s like, level of investment, right? Level investment is ultimately everything to them. But the thing is, is like, how do they know how invested you are, you know, so they all do this thing, like their es TJ unconscious side of their mind, they all do this thing where they’re comparing themselves to other people, they’re comparing you to other people.
And they can’t help that because of hypergamy. They’re comparing you on their Beta scale, they’re comparing you on their Alpha scale entirely at all times. It’s all about comparison. And that’s just how their hypergamy works up until the point that they’re sexually active with you.
And then their Extraverted Feeling inferior combined with their interest intuition child latches on to you, because they’ve caught feelings, and they can’t really let go. And honestly, they’re not supposed to let go. It’s actually a very good thing that they don’t let go. This is kind of how, you know when it comes to cheating, right? The cheating of hypergamy.
And usually women cheat, you know, with alphas on beta men. But that’s not to say that women don’t cheat with beta men on alphas, it does happen, it can happen. That is a thing. But, you know, hypergamy ultimately can lead to cheating.
That’s one of the reasons why, you know, the neurotransmitters that come as a result of having sexual relations with a woman. Those neurotransmitters, those endorphins released during sex, actually end up creating a feelings of attachment. And so women almost always catch feelings before men do. And honestly, it’s a huge turnoff if men catch feelings before women do.
It’s like it’s like a major turnoff. And so, you know, just, if you’re a man, you’re listening to this, like, have faith that you know, as you continue to sexual relationship with a woman, she’ll eventually catch feelings and then you basically got her at that moment. The ones that really take the longest to catch feelings, I would say are introverted intuition, pessimists sticks, but the Introverted Intuition optimist sticks, especially when they’re Introverted intuition, optimistic combined with expert feeling. So basically, INFJs and ISTPs, they definitely catch feelings, probably the quickest, contrary to popular belief that that inner need for validation on the part of the ISTP, or the inner need for intimacy on the part of the INFJ is just so heavy that they just can’t live without it.
And if you as their man become the source of validation, or the source of intimacy in their lives, they’re going to become attached, you know, and I heroes especially have it hard because once they attach, they’re attached basically forever, and they will never let go. That’s just how they are. Even if they try to burn down all the totems, everything that would possibly remind you of them in their life, they cannot escape it. That’s why oftentimes they play hard to get that’s why oftentimes, they try to like make you believe they’re not catching feelings, even though they are they know it’s inevitable, they know what’s coming.
And as much as they try to keep their distance, they really just can’t, and they won’t. Which, honestly, that’s okay. It’s okay. It’s kind of how God made us, you know, it’s, it’s fine.
Well, it goes back down to the book of Genesis, you know, the second curse given to Eve, and ultimately to women, Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you, which is basically one of the reasons why after having sexual relations with a man, and if it’s consistent, they’re going to catch feelings, they’re going to be attached, especially if it’s ni optimistic, and especially if it’s ni optimistic combined with expert feeling, they just get attached, and they can’t let go. So the thing is, is that while they have this high level of attachment, and ultimately relationship investment that is inevitable, it’s really important if you’re an intp to keep track of how this is going. Because your FYI trickster and your TI parent words aren’t gonna be good enough. If you cannot demonstrate on a consistent basis, how you are giving your ISTP higher levels of special treatment above other people, and it’s not just other women.
It’s literally other people in your life. You’re going to have to do this on a regular basis. The problem is though, is where it gets confusing. And TPS because of our risk of Stockholm Syndrome.
We have this problem where we’re not able to set up Proper boundaries and enforce boundaries with people. It’s a really big problem, right? So what ends up happening is that all of a sudden, you know, our ISTP woman is orbiting us in our life and in our frame. And then because we’re constantly demonstrating that special treatment with concrete action and proving to her that she’s a higher priority than anyone else in our life at the same time, because that’s what they’re seeking the most. We end up orbiting them, we end up surrendering our frame to them and naturally, so because we are a feminine type, en TPS are feminine, it doesn’t matter if they’re a man or not, they are definitely still feminine, we are still a feminine type.
And that can be a huge problem, that can be a huge issue. So to deal with that, there are times when en TPS is going to have to pull away all of that special treatment, and make sure that they’re focusing on putting that special treatment on their own selves. What does this mean? This means that in a relationship with an ISTP, woman with Fe inferior, yes, make her a higher priority over other people. Other women, it doesn’t matter.
However, you can not make her a higher priority than yourself, you have to consistently prove to yourself that you are still a higher priority than her. For example, if you’re going to go to REI and buy something, buy something for yourself, don’t buy something for her. Right? If you’re gonna buy something for somebody else who’s not in your relationship, then I recommend considering the cost of what may happen to your relationship. Because eventually, the ISTP woman is just going to get jealous that you’re giving time, attention and resources to other people that she’s not getting because she needs to feel like a higher priority than everyone else.
She doesn’t want to be top priority. She wants to be higher priority. And that’s literally everything that you need to do in a relationship when it comes to their expert feeling inferior. They want to be liked, they want to be accepted.
They want to be a higher priority, not the top priority, which oftentimes, and TP men just automatically assume especially en TPS oh my god, if a child was such a curse, oh, I can’t like I struggle with it all the time. It’s so gross. It’s such a it’s such a burden of a function, at least to me, because my ACTA gram is unconscious development, unconscious focus. So I’m very, very close to my super ego, which means like I oftentimes have to feed my own expert feeling child to my super ego in exchange for its power because of how trampled and honestly developmentally behind my X ray feeling child is to the point where it’s just caused me nothing but trouble in my entire life.
Which Which sucks it that honestly like truly, actually sucks. So based on that you really have to make sure that yes, make her a higher priority, but not the top priority. Make yourself the top priority. So you as the man even though you’re feminine, still hold frame, you still like she is in your life, you are not in her as she orbits you, you do not over orbit her because here’s the thing.
Most guys buy into the Oh, you need to make me a priority, then they assume because logical thinking they assume that means make her at the top priority. But as soon as they do that, she loses all respect for that guy and then ends up cheating on him with somebody else because her hypergamy just cannot handle her hypergamy being her sexual strategy. If you want to learn more about hypergamy please dare to watch and listen to the season 31 section of content here available on the YouTube and on the podcast. It’s known as union sexuality.
Good luck getting through that and good luck not hating my guts, man or woman after watching it. Let’s just see how bad your social conditioning actually is. Right? So you might want to be aware of that. And also, on top of that, you know, from that dichotomous point of view, right.
So, anyway, I think that definitely answers this question. So thanks for watching and listening, folks. And I’ll see you guys in the next episode.
