8 Rules for Loving an ISTP | Season 27 | CS Joseph

8 Rules for Loving an ISTP | Season 27 | CS Joseph

 

CS Joseph discusses 8 rules for loving an ISTP.

Transcript:

Hi lovey ego hackers. This is the CS Joseph podcast. I’m your host, CS Joseph on a nice little night stroll mongst The train tracks here. And this is season 27 Episode 10.

I realized that actually got some of the well the season numbers incorrectly with some of the last couple episodes thinking it was season 26? No, it’s actually season 27. So I apologize for the confusion. It’s pretty confusing. So.

But yeah, it’s Episode 10, which is eight rules for loving ISTPs. The eight rules? Let’s see if I can actually keep this lecture or this episode. Under 30 minutes? I don’t think I’ll be able to, but I’m going to try. I’m actually going to try.

So yeah, maybe if I didn’t have such long intros, you know, I might actually be able to pull that off, right. Anyway, real quick though, we are going to be releasing our course, failure proofing your relationship, that is actually going to be the finalized name for it. And I believe it will be available for pre order, like on or around Valentine’s Day, we had some product delays. So I apologize in advance for this product delays.

But honestly, I think you all are going to thank me for the delays, because we ran into a QA issue. And we realized some important visual aids and documentation is actually missing. So those are being worked on right now. And produced so that everybody has, you know, the best resources that they would possibly need to get through the course and have it be successful.

I think this course and we’re gonna be updating it over time. But I strongly believe that this course is going to be one of the tools, terms of that one of the main tools utilized by this community to reduce fatherlessness and also keep families together, it’s going to be absolutely fantastic. And it’s it really, what it’s going to do is it’s going to help couples stay together. And you know, long term relationships, committed relationships do fail, but the whole point of the course is to prevent them from failing.

So yeah, it’s too nice prevention action using yoga and analytical psychology and gives you all of the tools and resources to be able to accomplish just that. So I hope you guys enjoy that and check that out. I’ll probably be wearing my other hood, because like warrants, you know. So yeah, let’s all walk with me down some dark alley or some shit about that.

So anyway, eight rules for loving the ISTPs ISTPs. Granted, like, if I wasn’t an ESTP, I would love to be an ISTP. I love ISTPs I find them very intriguing. They are my supervisor type.

If I was in a sexual relationship with an ISTP it would be the intrigue relationship, and we’re just intriguing to each other. We just We just are. And we always like conducting intrigues, basically. So it’s a relationship that’s, in my opinion, it’s really based on fun, more than anything.

And about having fun. That’s the ISTP en TP relationship. So because you know, and I child is pretty cool. And it’s all about movement just going places.

It’s just, it’s just pure fun. Why not? But, you know, given some of the relationship experiences that I’ve had with ISTPs in the past, and while I have dated ISTPs. I mean, I really haven’t had as much experience with them compared to other types. But it’s still it’s still pretty relevant, it’s still pretty obvious as to what the rules the eight rules for Love should actually be when it comes to these.

They’re, you know, this specific type of person. And I think one of the reasons why is just because of how cut and dried they are, I mean, the triple direct, they’re concrete, and they are just all about what they want and they just know what they want. They’re gonna go get what they want. They’re go getters like that.

It’s just literally who they are. AR and one of the benefits that I love about ISTPs is that their extroverted sensing is a pessimistic function. Because you know, with me, my Introverted Sensing is the pessimistic function. And I love pessimistic s, ie the most especially in terms of sexual relationships that I’m engaging in.

It is with pessimistic se, I love and that’s se inferior se parents. And that’s because my si inferior is pessimistic itself. And it’s nice to have, you know, a pairing with someone else who has, you know, pessimistic sensing basically, that way, we’re just not getting on each other’s nerves, right. But when you have optimistic added the pessimistic, well, then people can get on their nerves.

And that can be an issue in the long run. Definitely ends up becoming an obstacle, but it’s not an obstacle. That could spell I mean, it could spell doom for a relationship, but it doesn’t always spell doom for a relationship. So that’s not always a case, I really hope I don’t freeze my toes off, I just realized I’m wearing the wrong shoes.

For this a walk, rip. Anyway, we’ll find out I guess. So. It’s ISTPs though, like, you know, the intrigue relationship.

For me, it’s just a relationship based on fun. And I’m sure a lot of other people out, there are different types of fine ISTPs to be really, really fun. But if you’re looking for emotional connection with TP, well, usually you’re going to fail, because trying to emotionally connect to an ISTP is not really going to help. It’s more of that they need an emotional connection with you.

And this is one of the areas that I kind of get a little concerned about when it comes to myself having a sexual relationship with an ISTP. Because my si trickster makes it very difficult for me to meet the emotional needs of an ISTP. And we’re going to be exploring that a little bit within this particular lecture terms, the eight rules. But first up, we have the very, very first rule.

And this applies directly to their ti hero. And that is always ask your ISTP what they think, for any and every situation. Okay, so this gets a little confusing, and this kind of technically applies to the intp. But it applies in to the intp.

A little bit different. We’ll explore that on the intp episode. But the thing is, is that there are some things that you don’t have to go to the ISTP for and be like, hey, what do you think about this, because if they don’t really know about, or they haven’t seen you do it, or if they haven’t had, if they haven’t observed anything that has to do with you for that thing that you’d be asking them to think about, then it doesn’t matter to them. So if it’s this abstract thing that doesn’t exist, I would actually avoid talking to him about and ask them what they think about it.

Unless it’s like actually a real concrete thing that is actually happening or has happened, or in the process of happening. The reason why is is that oftentimes ti hero with se parent combined, it can be problematic for their ego, because their ego just doesn’t really care about anything that hasn’t happened, yet. They care if it’s happening now, or if it’s happening, or if it’s already happened. That’s when they care.

But honestly, right now, they kind of just don’t care. So ask them what they think about concrete things, concrete things being things that are happening right now, or things that have happened, avoid bringing things into the future, or from the future, basically, to the ISTP, to ask them to think because it can actually just stress them out. And then in some cases, especially the wiser, ISTPs, they’ll actually start to think that they’re being set up for failure, they’ll realize that they’re being set up for failure, because then you’re kind of forcing them to use their expert intuition trickster. And they’re going to be giving you what advice on something that hasn’t happened yet.

That’s just that’s just not going to work. And the reason why observing rule one is so important, ask them what they think for all the concrete things. 09:39 It’s because it’s because that they like to solve problems. They want to be your primary problem solver, basically.

And if you’re using somebody else’s a problem solver, they’re gonna get really upset. And it’s, it’s kind of like a direct assault or direct attack on their ego when the person Since they’re having a sexual relationship with is not coming to them first and foremost for solving for problem solving. It’s like it’s a direct assault on their pride, especially since their deadly sin, because they’re in the minds temple, they’re deadly sin is is pride. And they take what they think very, very seriously.

And if you’re not giving them the opportunity to potentially solve your problem, release comments on a problem that you have. That’s a really big deal. So rule number one is more like, always bring your problems for problem solving to the ISTP. But make sure they’re like practical or concrete ones that are happening right now, or has happened, where they can like retro actively do it.

But don’t come to them for anything preventative, because then they’ll start feeling like you’re setting them up for failure. And that’s just not going to really work out really well for your relationship, you got to be really careful about what you use ti hero for, because you could cause ti hero to fail, and then they’re going to feel guilty about it. If you’re asking them to help you prevent something from happening, prevention should be your job, because you should hopefully be an n e user who is full of warnings that can provide the future prevention. So the ISTP doesn’t have to participate in that and then feel like they’re being set up for failure.

It’s a really, really big deal. Rule number two, when the ISTP is showing you something, Pay extra attention. Seriously, look, it takes a lot for se parent to actually come up to you and be like, Yo, here’s this thing, or what are you doing, or let me show you this thing. If they’re actually posturing to show you something, it’s actually important, or it will be important, or it just it means something to their ni child, the fact that they actually want to show you something, or do something with you, or some kind of shared experience, or they want to demonstrate something or actually perform something for you, with our expert sensing the fact that it’s their parent function doing it, you want to help develop that parent function as much as humanly possible.

And if you’re not going to actually do that, well, you’re going to end up having a problem on your hands a big problem. Because you’re going to be stunting their growth, this is one of the ways that you as a person can contribute to your ISTP and help them actually grow. And now if you’re just going to be like, kind of like, yeah, that’s nice to what they’re actually showing you even if it’s kind of like a little kid coming up to you to do that. You’re going to fail and your relationship is going to fail.

You can’t afford to allow that to happen, you absolutely can’t afford that. So at least it’s not as bad as like the ESTP, where they just need you to like drop what you’re doing at that moment. And you give the your attention to them right at that second. At least it’s not that bad.

But because the reason is, is because se parent is not going to be coming after your attention. As often as like an expert sensing hero would expert sensing hero would do it all the time. And se parent is only going to do it some of the time. And because they’re only doing it some of the time, it’s a bit more refined, it’s a bit more important.

So really the few times so I guess rule two is like the few times that the ISTP actually goes out of the way to get your attention, give it to them. Give it to them, like right away, like don’t waste any time. Because it’s really important. It’s not going to be aisle words or anything, it’s it’s going to mean a lot.

And the fact that you’re willing to just kind of stop for a second Be patient and just give them your attention at that moment. You know, the few times that they actually need that attention, guess what, they’re gonna love you for that. It’s also going to prove to them that you actually give a shit about them that you actually care about them. They’re going to feel loved, they’re going to feel, you know, it’s a really big deal.

So make sure you follow rule two, in all things when it comes to ISTPs. Rule number three, which is attached to an eye child. Remember that they are innocent with what they want. Don’t take away that innocence, basically.

And obviously don’t take away the freedom of choice of an inner child and just understand that in your relationship like you need to give them and I guess this is the rule give them the room to exercise the freedom give them the room, okay? It’s not like ni inferior where you can actually sometimes need to take away some of their options sometimes or else they’re just gonna mess up and create a huge mess for you to clean up with their se hero. But with an NI child it’s a little bit different. Because at least ni child because of se parent, they have the capacity of making sure that the man So is not necessarily something you have to clean up, or to be a lot less compared to what an SE hero would do, or even se, you know, even potentially an SE inferior if they’re in their subconscious. So that’s really, really important.

Because they need the space for decision making, they need the space to do what they want. And here’s the thing you have to understand if you’re in a relationship with an ISTP, they’re still going to do what they want, regardless of what you tell them, regardless of what you do, or say, they’re just going to do what they want. Anyway, it doesn’t like you have to understand that. And then yeah, there might be some times in relationship where they have to put your foot down, and you have to tell them, like, Look, I’m just gonna straight up leave you or reject you, because you obviously are putting your freedom above me.

And that can happen, especially since to protect their freedom. ISTPs have this problem, where what they like to do is be really controlling towards everyone else in their life in order to protect their freedom. But here’s the thing, if you are going out of your way to protect their freedom for them, then they don’t have to be that controlling. So that’s rule number three, protect the freedom of their anti child protect their freedom of choice, and be overly protective of that freedom.

If you do that, they will feel like they don’t have to protect that freedom themselves. And then that will make your ISTP way less controlling. And it gives a lot more space within the relationship and increases the likelihood that the relationship would continue. Because the ISTP is like oh, great, I actually get to actually get to like, make decisions, you know, here’s another thing.

As part of Rule three, do not make decisions without the ISTP. That is so dumb. Every decision you make, make sure you share your decision making process, order your rationale, with the ISTP ahead of time, you must do this. If you’re not doing this, they’ll think their choice is being taken away.

And they will severely act out and they’ll get pretty raging over it. That’s a big issue. And it kind of bleeds into rule for a little bit, which is vehemently makes them top priority. Because they’ll feel like they’re not a top priority for making decisions about running it by them.

Everything has to go by their review stand everything. Now sometimes though, if you’re like an NP and you’re like me, and you’re in a sexual relationship with an ISTP, all of a sudden, you’re going to realize something very, very rough is that just because you’ve given the ISTP, their opportunity to review what you’re doing there, any trickster may not see the long term consequences, and they would advise or make a decision differently than you would and then it’ll blow up in their face because they didn’t see the bad consequence. You as the NP have to take the additional responsibility of explaining the consequences as part of following rule three, for their no child. But Rule Four, though, Rule four literally is is that you need to share with your ISTP specifically what you like and what you value.

But even more than that, you need to learn how to accept them, they need to be accepted. And if they are not, if they’re not completely 100% accepted by their lover by the person that they have sex with on a regular basis. I don’t care if it’s friends with benefits, if you do not have that 100% acceptance, that is a no go and then the relationship will completely completely fail and it will stop already ISTPs especially ISTP women because of how masculine they are. They already severely struggle with not being accepted by other people.

So why the hell should they have to put up with that with the person that they’re having sex with? Can someone Can someone explain this to me? No, you can’t explain it to me, because that’s not how life actually works. 19:20 And that can be a big problem, a really, really big problem. So make sure, make sure you’re going out of your way to prove with concrete action, that you accept the ISTP and in fact, you can go even further to say nice things about the ISTP in their presence to other people, to encourage other people to be as accepting as you are to them personally doing this. You will get like this huge, miraculous response from you know from your ISTP And they’ll be like, oh mg, you’re obviously the one, you know, it’s just kind of how they roll because they’ve struggled with acceptance by other people their whole life.

And then all of a sudden you come along, and you’re actually helping them cultivate acceptance. So rule number four is, except your ISTP, 100%, The Good, the Bad, the flaws, the perfections, all of it, but also help them cultivate acceptance with other human beings. Mega important, got to do that. If you can’t do that, well, you’re going to fail before you begin.

Rule five, oh, my god, Rule five, te nemesis. Oh, look, you have to be going out of your way to basically out research your ISTP it’s super important, you have to realize that you’re responsible for the input and the relationship, which means you’re the one doing the research, you’re the one reading the books, you’re the one getting the information consistently. Oh, and by the way, is an update to rule number three with protecting their freedom of choice. Now, nevermind, actually, that’s actually more applicable to ISFP.

So I’m not going to say that. Anyway, um, just make sure that you’re the one putting in the extra effort to research and make sure that you are constantly verifying what you have fact check fact check fact check, because they’re going to fact check you everything you say, and it’s what you say does not have, like, let’s say you make a claim, if you don’t have life experience backup that claim, or if you don’t have sufficient research, to go into that claim, well, that’s gonna be a really rough situation for you. Because they’re gonna stupid zone you, then they’re not going to want to be around you at all, because they’re going to see you basically over time as a bad person. Because you’re someone who’s spreading misinformation.

And they don’t want to be around someone who spreads misinformation, they don’t want to be around someone who is false or makes false claims. They actually worry about misinformation, constantly. They worry about, you know, what is actually real in the world. Because remember that part of the mind temple, they want to know the truth, they want to know how everything works, it’s a really big deal.

And a lot of times, people don’t even understand how much how much of a big deal that actually is, or how much of a problem or a risk that actually you know, poses to them, etc. So please, please be aware of that dichotomy. Oftentimes, you know, people just don’t understand the risks, make sure everything you do is properly researched, it’s a big deal. And if not, well, then you’re in, you’re in for some really, really big trouble.

You don’t want to get stupid zoned. So make sure you do that. So make sure you follow Rule five to the letter. Rule six is pretty, pretty self explanatory.

ISTPs, with their si critic, oftentimes can actually present a pretty big challenge. And as I’ve said previously, you know, this whole notion that they think they have the memory of an elephant, that they have, like the best memory out of everyone, well, oftentimes, it’s just their si critic being like, Hey, I’m only aware of myself and my needs, when that is actually truly relevant. And the problem is, is that most times ISTPs don’t even realize how relevant that actually is. And they need people, especially their lovers in their life, actually helping them understand how relevant that is, how necessary it is.

And oftentimes, oftentimes, people are ill equipped to handle it, because, you know, given that their triple director, ti hero, they can just be this huge force, this force to be reckoned with that makes it difficult for them to really connect with people and just end up they just end up like, like, like, for example, it creates a form of irresponsibility where it’s like, okay, hey, if I can do it, you can do it too, right? Well, no, that’s not really the truth. So because they can kind of push a little bit harder than most people, they end up having this ridiculous expectation that other people can also push just as hard as they can. Because you know, oh, I can take the hits. I have si critic.

Everyone else must be like me to write everyone else must have si critic to write so that means I can have have the same expectations that I have on other people that I have on myself. Now, apply that to a sexual relationship, you could tell instantly that well, that’s, it’s a crock of shit, it’s not going to work, it’s really not going to work, it’s actually going to potentially end your relationship, or really do some serious damage to your relationship. And honestly, I highly recommend you observe rule six, as much as possible. But really, rule six is actually just you providing healthy challenge, provide challenge to the ISTP in such a way, where they understand that, you know, hey, they’re forgetful, or hey, maybe they push too hard, or they push other people too hard, because they themselves are pushing too hard.

You have to challenge that. And they, you just gotta understand the ISTP is going to be insanely stubborn. When you have si critic, plus the pride of a TI hero, you have like the most stubborn of all the types on your hands right there. And it’s extremely difficult, because of how rigid they can be in their thinking.

And getting them to understand things that they haven’t been really been exposed to, or they don’t have much life experience with, it can be a huge challenge. That’s why you know, when you’re dealing with a critic, it can’t you kind of have to be confrontational. So rule six is be confrontational. When you need to be.

And it’s really hard. It’s, it’s pretty subjective to say, honestly, because let’s be fair, when I mean, obviously, you have to pick your battles, but you kind of just have to know which battles are really important for fighting. You know, I’ve always told the story about my boss and how I kept track a log of how he’s very forgetful as a person. And he never believed that he was actually forgetful.

And I had to show him look, you remember what other people do really well, but you don’t remember what you yourself do very well. And that’s the problem. He’s still tonight. It wasn’t until I provided concrete proof and my confrontation with him that he finally accept that he was actually forgetful person.

And it wasn’t until then, that he realized, and then was able to take steps for proper change. And that means like having, you know, he’d actually create rituals during the day where he’d maintain his memory tools, his little mind maps, his apple notes, etc. To make sure that whatever was going on in his life, especially at work, he wouldn’t forget about. And then that would also prevent him from feeling guilty later.

And then he wouldn’t feel set up for failure as a finisher type. Because oftentimes finisher types, especially if they have extroverted sensing, ISTP, INFJ, INTJ. As well as types that have those types within their subconscious, or their shadow, they often feel like they are set up for failure. I mean, even my wife is an ESTP, she has that same issue.

But that’s how you can prevent an ISTP from feeling set up for failure by basically properly handling their Si, which means like, don’t be afraid to get into a confrontation with them. confrontation and confronting them directly to their face is more valuable. Don’t be like, you know, their INFP super ego, or an INFP, who would just talk shit about them behind their back. If you really want them to change, you have to get in their face about it.

And you have to be consistent about it. Okay, so rule six is be confrontational when it makes sense to do so. Otherwise, they’re just going to, well, let’s be honest, they’re gonna steamroll you, they’re gonna don’t bulldozer you. And there’s nothing you will be able to stop it unless you’re prepared ahead of time.

29:14 So, be prepared for confrontation, be confrontational, pick your battles, and make sure you have all the information in the research to back it up. Because you may have to give that si critic an experience one day, where you’re like, hey, you might want to change this thing, hey, you might want to be wary of this thing, hey, you’re doing this thing. Because it’s so funny to me. Like third is the parent is aware of what other people are doing, but they’re not really aware of what they themselves do and the actions that they take.

And that’s a serious, serious issue. Rule seven. Rule seven is always provide sufficient warning to your eyes. up.

Don’t forget, they have an E trickster, and E Tricksters are not aware of the consequences of their own actions or the actions of other people. They’re only aware of immediate reactions, but long term consequences. They have no clue. They haven’t a clue.

And this is one of the problems because ISTP is oftentimes conflate intention with action, because to an ISTP, action and intention are the exact same thing. And then they judge because they judge it that way for themselves. It’s like, Hey, I’m only going to act if I want to everyone else must be just like me, right? Wrong. Because someone like me and ESTP, for example, actions and intentions are two separate things.

How I’m acting and how I’m intending are completely different. Just because I do something. It’s not because I want to do it. So I actually had a conversation Railgun about this recently.

And she’s like, wait a minute, things that you do is you don’t do them? Because you don’t want to do like, No, I do things because I have no other choice, I do things because I have to do them not because I want to do them. Maybe 20% of the time is because I want to do it. But 80% of the time, it’s because I don’t have any choice or I figured out that there is no choice and then it becomes my duty. And then I do it because I should do it.

Not because I want to. And she had a really, really hard time getting your head around that tire concept, really hard time really scrutinize er, but I mean, it usually does screw with an STP because again, STPs, especially ISTPs have this problem where they think action and intent are identical. And they are not, they’re absolutely not. So because of that, when they make decisions in their life, they’re not going to realize the long term effects positive or negative consequences to their decisions.

And and especially including decisions of other people. This can lead them open to attack, this can lead them over into social engineering, open to being manipulated, especially when they’re with an ENFP that ENFP can completely dominate them, even mind control an ISTP because they can just go into that little backdoor known as the Trickster function, and completely own them because of their own consequential awareness through any hero. And then basically the ISTP without knowing it becomes the slave to the ENFP. And there’s absolutely nothing the ISTP can do to get out of the ENFPs trap.

Funny thing though, the ex wife of of an ISTP friend of mine, who is an ENFP, we called her the Black Widow, and he could never escape her web. He pretty much burned his entire youth on that woman and got nothing for it. It was really sad. It’s kind of pathetic to think about it.

Poor guy, he’ll probably watch this video, bro, if you’re watching this. Love you, bro. But I wish he had a little bit more self respect in that area. Thank God, you read some of those books that I told you to read.

And hopefully he’ll never let that happen again. So, but moving on. Rule number seven is always provide sufficient warning to your ISTP tell them what the consequences are ahead of time. That way, they can make better decisions.

That way. It doesn’t create messes for you to clean up later that way. There aren’t no long term consequences. Because, you know, things can go FUBAR right effed up beyond all repair.

STP is especially ISTPs need to realize that they will not always have the right to remedy, they will not always be able to fix any problem that they create. Sometimes when they break stuff that starts is going to stay broken, and it will be impossible for them to fix it. And sometimes they just can’t even see that that’s going to happen. You have to provide that warning to them.

And if they do not heed your warning, it is your responsibility to rub it in their face. It is your responsibility to say I told you so. I told you it was going to go wrong. I told you that was going to blow up in your face.

And it’s even better if you do it in public around people that they respect so that their Fe inferior is shamed in front of other people so that they feel guilty about themselves. Really important that they are guilted and punished with guilt for not listening to the warnings. So make sure you’re providing them warnings and if they aren’t listening to warnings, you got to punish them by going after their Inferior function and made to feel make them feel guilty for not listening. This ti hero needs to be brought down a few notches with its pride some times because they are the most prideful of all the types other than E, NF, j’s and need to be brought down a few notches.

And that’s how you do it, make sure you do it. And then finally, finally, rule eight, make sure that you’re sharing your values and your morals and your principles with your ISTP. So they adopt your values and morals and principles and standards. Because if not, they will just use their own.

And let me tell you something ISTP morality is really effed up ISTPs are the people who are constantly the other man or the other woman in cheating situations in relationships, they’re usually the ones facilitating cheating. They’re usually the ones who do cheat, often, because they have an eye child. Okay. And the reason why usually is because they don’t know what choices they have in terms of what values they could have.

Because throughout their life, they might like discover maybe 12345 values or five morals that they hold on to their entire life, unless you’re around. And then if you’re an FYI, is if you’re a moral person, you need to share your morality with them. So they can use their Fe inferior to adopt your morality so that they can be a better person. So they because if they know, if they don’t, that they’ll just let you down, they know that you give them special treatment all the time.

And they know that you’re gonna withhold special treatment from them, if you actually believe that they’re being a bad person. So share your values, share your beliefs with the ISTP and explain why or how you came to the conclusion of adopting those beliefs and those values, et cetera. So that they can actually have a lot of information to consider whether or not they themselves are going to adopt those beliefs, or those values. It’s super important.

Otherwise, they’re just going to be insanely entitled, they’re gonna be entitled to literally everything. And when you have si demon entitlement mixed with their ni child, it becomes an extremely destructive force, right? Also, by you sharing your value system, and sharing the secret parts of you, which usually is your value system, or your beliefs, your core beliefs set with them, when you’re sharing that with an ISTP, they really start to feel special, because it’s like, wow, this person values me enough to share this very intricate hidden part of them with me, and like where they are in their journey, etc, it makes her ENFJ subconscious, very happy, it makes them feel loved. And then they’re like, great, 37:46 I don’t have to rely on my value system anymore. Because there’s a standard right here in front of me, within my lover, that I can adopt, and then I too, can be a good person.

And then they don’t have to walk around feeling guilty all the time. They also walk around, you know, feeling like a failure all the time, they actually get to, they end up having an experiencing more joy in their life as a result. And who wouldn’t want that who would want more joy who want you know, to have a happier life as a result. And it’s because they know, it’s proof of acceptance, proving, you know, rule for that you are going anyway to share your value system with them, so that they can adopt it and make it their own.

Because here’s the thing, if you don’t do that, well, then the demon is just going to fill in the gaps and fill in the blanks with its own value system. And let me tell you, folks, that is not something you want to do. These are ISTPs, we’re talking about, right? These are the home wreckers, okay, this is the home record type we’re talking about, you do not want their demonic value system to be the default in their head, you need to get them away from that. And not only that, they’ll be insanely entitled, there’ll be entitled their freedom, they’ll be entitled to your attention until you bring a better value system, and you have to live that value system in front of them.

Because if you are not the example of that value system, then they will have no confidence and that the value system actually works. And then those abandoned it, and then continue to do what they do. It can also lead to addiction, huge addictions, ISTPs and substance abuse kind of go hand in hand. And this is why because no one else gave them a better value system to mirror as technically on you.

Okay, like because it’s it’s fine that you can get all upset at them for having, you know, behaving like an SI demon. I get it. But you have to understand that’s the default. And if you’re actually really loving your ISP P, you should be going out of your way to share these things with your ISTP.

And trust your ISTP and be comfortable with your ISTP to do this, so that they adopt those values, that way the demon is at rest. Because they’re using a different value system, that’s the default. And you yourself have to make sure that you are living that value system indefinitely. Because if you slip up that value system, guess what’s going to happen, they themselves are going to harm you.

They’d like no harm anyone, because si demon. just dragging my feet right now because I’m wearing like this huge boots, it’s really annoying. So keep that in mind. Like, you really have to get to a point where you’re able to follow these eight rules, you’re able to help your ISTP become better.

Sure, they’re trying to make everyone better, they’re trying to be this awesome Templar, but they’re going to marry you, they’re going to mirror your behavior. And if you have a bad value system, they’re not going to mirror your value system. And they’re just gonna go to their si demon default, which basically means to them, they are entitled to a free for all in life, because from their point of view, why should I have to improve? When everyone else around me is behaving poorly. It’s just like the whole world, everyone else is doing it, you know, that they would teach us and dare to keep kids off drugs, which actually brought more children to drugs didn’t actually help anything.

What a stupid program, idiots. But, you know, that’s, that’s, that’s the situation, you know, you gotta be aware of that. ICPs just needs something to mirror. And if they help me out, if they’re only around themselves, well, they’re not going to have much to live for, because life is just going to be a free for all.

And then they’re not even going to have to improve. Because if no one else is rising to the occasion, why do I have to rise to the occasion. That’s basically their whole point of view. You need to make sure that you’re rising to the moral occasion and going out of your way to be a good person and living by example, in demonstrating to your ISTP by example, so they cannot adopt your value system that is a proven value system, versus a value system that they just hear on television or reading a book or something like that.

And it has to be backed up with life experience. That way, they stop being entitled to being a destructive force. And instead they understand that through your value system, they can be a constructive force at last wish, guess what? That’s all an ISTP ever actually wants or wanted. So anyway, folks, thanks for watching.

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